Changed my name for this because previous threads might be quite identifying. DS21, dropped out of uni. He couldn't manage himself at all in terms of getting up for lectures, laundry, cooking, managing finances etc. It was a huge eye opener and we felt like we'd failed as parents. He was diagnosed with depression but feels himself like something else is going on, possibly ADHD, and is exploring that along with counselling although I'd say the depression is still very much present. Anyway, he's now decided he wants to try again with university some distance from home. We don't want to stop him but don't see any changes on how he's living. He needs nagging to do laundry, tidy his belongings and even leave for work on time. It's exhausting. Does anyone have any positive tales of their child managing with increasing maturity and understanding of self? At the moment I can't imagine him living independently again without sinking further into massive debt and depression and feelings of failure.