I need to start by saying I adore my DS. Like the little girl with a curl, when he is good it is very different to when he is being horrid. He is now an adult and about to leave college this summer and I am getting very stressed about it. Every day is a battle - I mean every few mins when he is home with me. I feel bullied. One minute he loves me, the next he hates me and is very good at finding any particular aspect that will get to me. Example - I say Nanna loved you so much and she would be so sad that you say you hate me" Response from DS "I'm glad your Mum is dead". He knows we were close and that will hurt me. He picks on my age, aspects of my appearance, my work - literally anything hurtful. I always strive to be patient and loving, but tonight I need to ask other Mums in my situation how they deal with it. The confident, outgoing, fun loving me has been eroded over the years as our family has become smaller and totally DS scentric. The constant criticism and negative responses to tiny requests is incredibly draining. DH just shuts himself away. As I WFH I do the college runs and am the main focus of entertainment. That entertainment is when DS is talking about whatever he is currently fixated on and I must be interested or he gets really frustrated. Circle, he hates me again, so of course I give a big show of being interested. Shortly this will be everyday for the rest of my life. Can anyone show me a glimmer of hope?