Son cheated on girlfriend

[Itcanonlygetbetter72]

Firstly, apologies if incorrect thread.
Our Son ended his relationship with his girlfriend after 3.5 yrs
they were a solid unit no indication of any issues, living their best life, good jobs/planning their future/ 6 holidays a year.

we couldn’t understand it. She had become a huge part of our family the perfect DIL that you would want. She was devastated as were we.
he realised his error and attempted to reconcile after 2 weeks. She quite rightly said no. He tried again after 6 weeks again no.

it transpires he cheated on her with his friends sister, an ego trip nothing more. We only found this out after he tried to totally discredit his ex girlfriend until I messaged her asked her if certain things were true. I am devastated to not have her in our lives, my Sons seems to not acknowledge what he has done and now seeing another girl even though he said he still loved his ex girlfriend 5 days ago.

I feel at a complete loss/angry and living in hope he comes to his senses. We have lost a very good friend both the ex girlfriend and her dad due to his lies and I can’t quite get my head around it.

if you have been there does it get better ?

You’re not weird at all, I’d feel really sad about this too. Both the lying and the fact you now won’t have a relationship with this young lady. However, we all live and learn from our mistakes, and hopefully in time your son will realise how badly he has treated her, and feel sorry about it. Perhaps he already does, but is in defensive mode.

Tbh I think it would be unusual not to feel sad. I remember breaking up with a boyf of 8 years in my late 20’s and felt a profound sense of loss at not being part of his families lives anymore. In fact his uncle & aunt did stay in touch and we still speak to this day. Hos mother wrote to me & said she would stay in my life regardless & expressed how much she would miss me. In the end her son asked her not to keep in touch with me & she respected his wishes but I know she was upset. It’s completely understandable.