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18 son first holiday without mum

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Carol52 · 11/07/2025 23:23

My son has just gone to Tenerife with 2 of his friends. Yesterday just before he was to leave we ended up at hospital after he was stung by a wasp. The doctor gave him antibiotics but advised no drinking. I was worried before now I am even more worried. I text him today and he already forgot to take one and said mum I will take it when I have had tea stop harassing me. I get that but I am just worried because it’s his first holiday without his parents except school trips and remembering to take his antibiotics .my question is should I keep reminding him or just let him do his thing

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Carol52 · 13/07/2025 10:03

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 12/07/2025 19:11

Some people can have unknown allergies, if it’s particularly swollen it’s worth getting it checked. The doctors would not have given out antibiotics if they hadn’t thought it a sensible precaution.

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Wow your a nice person.

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Carol52 · 13/07/2025 10:06

LaughingCat · 12/07/2025 19:30

Glad you’re going to leave him to it - the alternative is you a) drive him nuts on his lads holiday, b) make him the laughing stock of his mates and c) continue to seriously impact your son’s problem solving and resilience building skills.

Please cut the apron strings - I know you just want him to be safe but I can tell you from experience that it’s smothering, controlling and the resentment for always having to instantly respond to an unreasonable level of maternal anxiety all the time gets in the way of a good relationship.

Just take a deep breath, handle your own fears and see him when he gets back.

Thank you for your comment. I have not contacted him since. 😂he has not texted me for day.😂

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LaughingCat · 13/07/2025 10:20

Carol52 · 13/07/2025 10:06

Thank you for your comment. I have not contacted him since. 😂he has not texted me for day.😂

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Phew! He’ll be fine and next time it will be easier - fwiw, while I probs wouldn’t have gone with him to the hospital unless there really was no other form of transport he could have taken, you were clearly right to make him go. I think you’re getting a rough ride on that point!

Bertielong3 · 13/07/2025 10:24

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ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 13/07/2025 10:39

Carol52 · 13/07/2025 10:03

Wow your a nice person.

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I’m sorry ?
I think you’ve quoted the wrong person here? I’ve attempted to be supportive to you throughout this thread - perhaps read back on my posts, what I actually said and who I said it to. And actually, yes I am a nice person.

ssd · 13/07/2025 11:44

Must admit that reply bamboozled me too @ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea

Julimia · 13/07/2025 12:03

Get a grip and leave him alone.
Presume teaching him to be independent and think for himself has been your main goal for 18 years? Right! Now Iet him get on with it.

Northernladdette · 13/07/2025 12:35

I hope he’s informed his travel insurance company that he’s on antibiotics 😣

3awesomestars · 13/07/2025 18:38

My daughter went to Ibiza with a group of friends when she was just 18. I asked her if she would try and send me a quick message every day. She literally texted the word ‘alive’ to me every morning - that was enough 🤣 it still makes me laugh to this day.

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Carol52 · 13/07/2025 18:57

GreenFields07 · 12/07/2025 19:43

I stand by it being over dramatic though. The chance of an allergic reaction or a sting being deadly is very, very slim. Theres no need to go to hospital for a little swelling! Hospitals are on their knees without treating a minor sting.

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Your comment was very flippant. You may be a loose parent and that’s fine we are all different. I was advised to go by a medically trained person the doctor said I did the right thing. Your petty comment was not valid.👍

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TheaBrandt1 · 13/07/2025 19:00

My petite 18 year old girl and her equally petite female friend just backpacked around Central America independently for 4 months so no I would not be fretting about a hulking lad in Tenerife for 2 weeks!

LoyalMember · 13/07/2025 20:46

Leave him alone, for Heaven's Sake. You're going to embarrass the poor lad with all the nagging. He's an 18 year old man not a toddler.

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Carol52 · 14/07/2025 16:34

MemorableTrenchcoat · 12/07/2025 18:31

It was a silly question.

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That’s rude no it was not

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Pherian · 14/07/2025 23:37

Carol52 · 11/07/2025 23:23

My son has just gone to Tenerife with 2 of his friends. Yesterday just before he was to leave we ended up at hospital after he was stung by a wasp. The doctor gave him antibiotics but advised no drinking. I was worried before now I am even more worried. I text him today and he already forgot to take one and said mum I will take it when I have had tea stop harassing me. I get that but I am just worried because it’s his first holiday without his parents except school trips and remembering to take his antibiotics .my question is should I keep reminding him or just let him do his thing

Leave him alone. People don’t learn until they experience consequences. Your jobs done.

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Carol52 · 15/07/2025 23:49

I have heard from him twice in 4 days I get he is with friends but a quick text once a day would be nice

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MyLov · 16/07/2025 15:53

GreenFields07 · 12/07/2025 19:09

Jesus my 3yo was stung by a wasp today, she brushed it off and carried in playing. Should I have taken her to hospital for a wasp sting? Seems abit over dramatic to me. Why was that even necessary? Iv never in my life heard of anyone going to hospital for a wasp sting! Stop molly coddling him ffs

My DH had to go to hospital for a wasp sting as it caused cellulitis. He needed antibiotics. It’s fairly common. It came on pretty quickly after the sting.

ssd · 16/07/2025 23:21

Carol52 · 15/07/2025 23:49

I have heard from him twice in 4 days I get he is with friends but a quick text once a day would be nice

It would be nice for you but not for him.

Let him be, before you drive him away.

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