Firstly I get she has had a lot to deal with over the past few years - but there is a limit to what I can deal with an tolerate. My daughter is 28. Her behaviour, attitude etc is what I would expect from a 13 year old. I believe she lacks emotional maturity. She is loud, brash, rude, disrespectful, she shows off, she lies all the time and she is very over-weight. Her language is foul - every other work is cunt and fucking (mainly due to working in the office at a scrap yard - you can imagine the type of people that work there). Her Dad died of cancer in 18 months ago after 5 years, she split up from her boyfriend of 7 years 6 weeks before he died. She lived with me for 10 months but in the end I had to make her leave for the sake of my own sanity. She is now living in her what was her Dads house. She practices no self-care and her diet is appalling - all fast junk food (yes she can cook - she's a very good cook). She had a fling with her bosses son, who basically used her for sex then discarded her like a sweet wrapper, then picked her up again a few months later and did the same. I sometimes think she is bi-polar due to her highs which involve hyperactivity and "big I am" and lows which involve throwing tantrums a toddler would be proud of and being angry with me and the world in general. She is on a road of self-destruction. She relayed a tale to me of what happened on a night out and said the girl involved had called her a "fat skank" once she had relayed the tale I was on the other girls side and I would have called my daughter a "fat skank" or even worse myself had I been the girl concerned. She speaks to me with utter disrespect (disdain mostly), unless she is playing me for sympathy of course, in which case I get the sad pathetic daughter - like today when she is unwell and has facetimed me about 5 times already - not sure why - not sure what I am supposed to do - you are ill - rest and get over it. She recently started a new job at the vets as she needs to get away from the scrap yard (and the bosses son that used her) and the place in general - they have her work about 60 hours a week, they don't appreciate her at all - they take advantage of her nature - and then she went back to the scrap yard after she left to do the wages on her day off because "no-one would have got paid otherwise". How is that your problem I asked her - she said she did it for the blokes that work there. No she didn't. She did it because she is an idiot. She loves to "please" other people - just the ones close to her that get the lies and disrespect. Mostly she speaks to me like I am something she picked up on the bottom of her shoe. I have done so much for her - I bought her first car, paid the insurance, gave £15k for house deposit, let her and her boyfriend live with me for free for 18 months while they renovated their house (now sold), I paid for a counsellor (no help), more or less single handedly decorated two houses for her, I have her dogs whenever she wants me to, I pretty much do everything she asks me to help with no matter how it inconveniences me. In short - I don't like her. She is not the type of person I would choose to have in my life. I have no idea what I did to produce a child like this - she quite simply what I would class as "scum" without wanting to sound like a snob. I also have a son, who is nothing like her, completely the opposite. The only thing she has going for her is that she works hard but the only reason she does that is so she can flash cash and drive around in expensive flash cars because that seems to make her believe she is something really special and important. She wrote off a Range Rover last year and was lucky she didn't seriously injure herself and her friend or kill them both. She went off the road and crashed into a tree because she was showing off and driving too fast round a corner. To this day she claims she "blacked out". Her passenger told me that she was driving "quick" when I asked how fast she was going. I don't need to have been in the car to know how fast "quick" is. Why not just admit it and say "I was driving too fast and I crashed". She never stops going on about how much money her brother has (he has a well paid IT job because he worked hard at school and was bullied for it - she chose not to work hard but to be a "big I am" and "in with the cool kids"). As for the lies - where do I start. She even lies about things that there is not even a point in lying about. I can't think of anything off-hand but almost like telling me she had a cheese sandwich when she actually had an egg sandwich - pointless. She lies so much she forgets what she said previously and if you pick her up on it she claims that's not what she said. I am at the end of my tether - I do not like her at all - I love her but I do not want this "person" in my life. She is causing me immense distress and anxiety, mainly because I want her to just stop behaving like she is and be a well mannered grown-up. Sorry for the long rant. Guess I just wanted to get it off my chest. Thank you for listening.