Hi, I’m going through major family drama over some I did on Sunday Morning to my 24 year old daughter.
I’m 45 & have been a single mother since she was 5 weeks old.
My daughter lives with me, along with her son & 37 yr old partner.
My daughter is a fabulous young woman & an amazing mother.
so here’s what happened……. My daughter rarely goes out drinking & clubbing that’s been her choice as I’m an on tap babysitter for my wonderful grandson.
On Saturday she went out at 1.30 in the afternoon. She was messaging me bk ect while out. She msg’d about 9.30 to say she was on the train, going for food & that she wouldn’t be late. Fast forward roughly 2 hrs, she messaged saying that her & her friend had found a packet of white powder obviously drugs. Of course I said don’t take it!!! Fast forward 2am, gone to a nightclub. I reiterate don’t be alone or walk home. I txt at 3.00 am she was outside the nightclub & wasn’t with the girls she went out with. Then she stopped answering my msg’s & calls. I start to worry because this is so so unlike her. By 4.00 am I’m really worried, we live in a rough town too. I wake up her bf, who hasn’t heard of her either. In my mind I’m thinking she’s been drinking for 13 hrs plus & did she take whatever substance they found…….. I leave my grandson with her boyfriend & decide to walk to our town centre. Whilst I’m on route I get through to her, she sounds out of it & firstly tells me she’s in a taxi then changes it to McDonald’s & that she’s in her own. It’s now 4.20, thank god she’s safe firstly I think & secondly i tell her to order a taxi & pick me up on the way. So that’s what happened. I was so relieved she was ok, however I gave her a right piece of my mind for being alone, that’s the one thing I have always tried to teach whilst in a night out.
My daughter went absolutely crazy on me, for leaving the house to find her, she can not accept that I was worried about her at all because she’s 24. I was told by her that I’m mental, how she deserves a night out because of all she does for me. That hurt me because I have bad health & she knows all to well it’s not my fault & how I often feel such a burden. However I’m an on tap babysitter for my grandson & I wouldn’t have it any other way! I don’t take rent off her or anything & it’s my pleasure to help her out as much as I can financially & I love doing so.
I want to stress that I only walked to look for her as she sounded out of it when I did finally speak to her, she lied about being in a taxi which isn’t like her whatsoever & I knew she was alone & had been drinking & I think whatever else for the past 13 hrs plus. If she had told me she was with her bestie, there’s no way I would have been walking the roads at 4.00 am !
fast forward today, she has made me feel like the worst parent ever & tbh that’s the only job i feel I have ever been any good at. She can not understand my actions at all & her boyfriend is also giving me the cold shoulder.
Honestly i feel in bits! I’m 45 & don’t want to leave my bedroom in my own home because of how she’s made me feel & the boyfriend if I’m totally honest.
I myself was sexually assaulted last July, so I know now I’m hyper vigilant.
I just can’t understand why she thinks this was nothing short of crazy for me to do. I’m her mother & just wanted her safe.
can you please give me your honest opinion’s about this because i honestly feel like I’m cracking up & a bad mother! X