Please bear with me, its going to be a bit of a long one...
I need advice with my current living situation.
I need to set the scene. I am married. 9 years. I live in my wife's house with her two adult children (both over 21) and their partners,two work form home 2 go to an office. Six people in a three bed house. My wife works full time minimum wage. I pay for everything: mortgage Half for 5 years, full for five years, insurance, shopping, etc etc... ( its thousands a month) she contributes about 15%
The son and daughter pay 'rent' of 150 and 200 respectively. Both earn ok money. The partners pay rent to their families...( I know)
All 4 do nothing to help in the house. No laundry, No bins, no cleaning. ( I pay for a cleaner). They come and go as they please. They place special orders on the shopping. Expect everything and give nothing. They spend their money on clothes, gifts and general stuff.
I have now just been laid off!
Every time I try to broach the subject with my wife I get shouted at, and diverted. Its always shut down pretty fast. Laundry is done late at night and I am expected to hang it as I'm going to bed. I get told' are you still going on about this' I leave every conversation feeling resentment, being used and just unhappy. My savings have already been worked out how long we can last at current run rate. Why should my financial security be jeopardized because she will not approach the subject with any of them. Surely everyone needs to start mucking in.
To add some more flavour the house is not in my name and her will is specifically written to prohibit me selling and moving on. She wants the house to go to her kids....I have 2 kids as well who do not feature anywhere. I get moaned at if I lend them money!
So....Am I just being taken for a ride or is this just how it is and I should suck it up?
Views, Opinions, Advice very welcome!