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Palacelife · 2023-11-22T16:29:59+00:00

So those at Uni or moved away my DS I see every few weeks maybe two months I find it upsetting but think this is what happens! He’s in his last year of uni now just wondering what people’s expectations and realities about this are?

ScrubMommy · 22/11/2023 19:39

Hbh17 · 22/11/2023 18:13

My perception as an oldie, but without kids, is that young adults now see their parents far more than we ever did. We would go off to university at the start of term, and not see parents until 10 weeks later, at the end. One short phone call or letter per week, and that was grudging! Now my friends' kids seem to be popping back every two or three weeks and never off the phone. It feels very odd to me, as I think young people need to properly disconnect in order to make their own way, but clearly I'm out of touch.

Ouch

Itha · 22/11/2023 20:11

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 22/11/2023 18:52

*Hbh17 · Today 18:13

My perception as an oldie, but without kids, is that young adults now see their parents far more than we ever did. We would go off to university at the start of term, and not see parents until 10 weeks later, at the end. One short phone call or letter per week, and that was grudging! Now my friends' kids seem to be popping back every two or three weeks and never off the phone. It feels very odd to me, as I think young people need to properly disconnect in order to make their own way, but clearly I'm out of touch*

Im 59. I phoned home every 4 days or so ( more if l was struggling!) and went home once a month. Most people went home often. I don’t know anyone who waited a whole term.

At uni I spoke to my parents every few days in the first year, I had to walk down the street and queue for the phone box to do so, there was always a long queue of others doing the same.

Thighdentitycrisis · 22/11/2023 20:19

When he was away at Uni, bar two off rd 3 visits there by me, only in holidays

when he left home and about 30 mins away , once every 2-3 weeks. More during lockdowns of course

now engaged and it’s about the same frequency. Catch up by phone/text in between. We are all busy so I’m glad they make the effort

somewhereovertherain · 22/11/2023 20:25

one currently at uni in SE Asia see her at Christmas talk often. We needed.

other at uni in the NE she has a compressed uni course and was struggling to find a job in the town so spends 3 days a week at home working and 4 in uni town.

Jellykat · 22/11/2023 20:27

Older DS (35) lives with GF in Bristol, i see 3 times a year, we speak maybe every 3 weeks.
DS2 (25) only moved out a year ago, (not locally) again with girlfriend, have seen him maybe 4 times, but can never get hold of him on phone.. obviously living his new life.. it'll change when he's older and more settled i hope!

JaninaDuszejko · 22/11/2023 20:31

Surely it depends how far away they live. My sister lives 100m from my Mum, she sees her every day for at least 5 minutes. I live at the other end of the country, I see her a couple of times a year for a week at a time. My DBro lives on another continent, he sees DM once a year (but for a 3 week visit). We're all middle aged adult children though 😂.

familyissues12345 · 23/11/2023 00:36

Mines 45 mins away at Uni, we usually see him every 2-3 weeks, FaceTime once a week and WhatsApp daily (although he isn't great at that!)

GuiltyPleasure · 23/11/2023 00:56

DD (23) lives about 90 minutes away. She usually FaceTimes me a couple of times a week as she's on her way back from work. She comes back for a weekend every couple of months as she has a lot of friends still in our home town, so our home is still her base when she comes back and she'll usually stay here 1 night over the weekend.
DS (21) is on a study year in Australia. Haven't seen him since July, but he FaceTimes at least 2 or 3 times a week and texts more frequently. I actually have much more communication with him now than when he was here. I imagine that when he's back at uni next year (in the same city as DD) he'll go back to a few texts during the week and a visit home every couple of months

JWR · 23/11/2023 13:59

DD (22) in first grad job in London living with boyfriend. Speak/message daily normally instigated by her. See her probably once a month, often us visiting her/meeting for lunch at the weekend. Was previously at university 6 hours away so saw her far less frequently but phone/FaceTime was similar. She’s not been “home” for more than 7 days in a row since September 2020, so very much moved out but still wants regular contact. She will also holiday with us, sometimes with boyfriend.

141mum · 17/12/2023 16:34

Dd 21 at university but lives at home, works pt,
Ds 28 lives 10 mins away with GF see 4 times a week but chat daily, mummy’s boy, lol, poor girlfriend, good job we get on
i feel lucky they want to be so close still

gotomomo · 17/12/2023 16:36

Too often, they live with us!

Honestly I'm really looking forward to empty nest again, we had it, then they came home

SgtJuneAckland · 17/12/2023 16:37

When I was at uni I didn't see my parents during term time at all! I was at the other end of the country.
Once I moved out but more locally, every couple of weeks , I've I had DS and my parents had him once a week or was at least once a week. These things fluctuate

DiegosMomHasGotItGoingOn · 17/12/2023 16:39

DS is in his first year at uni and I saw him in November and just picked him up for 3 weeks over Christmas. So working out every month - 2 months. We message most days though.

weegiemum · 19/12/2023 00:31

Our dc are 23, 21 and 20.

20 year old works as a beauty therapist and lives at home. She has a degenerative hip problem and needs a hip replacement, which will be in another 18 months. She'll be living with us and working 3 days a week until then. I think after that her and lovely boyfriend might decide to live together.

21 year old is a student nurse and lives in halls. We see him most weeks (laundry!!).

23 yo and her partner have just moved back in with us while they're flat hunting to buy. It's a bit crowded round here for now but it's nice to have them about even though we have no dining room for now. So we see them daily. Prior to this we saw them every 1-2 weeks.

HamBone · 19/12/2023 03:54

My DD (18) is just finishing her first semester at uni. Semesters are four months and we’ve seen her once when she had a week off and she’s coming home for winter break this week. I’d have liked to see her more often but she threw herself into her new life and didn’t really have time! We do text most days.

Apparently one of her friends has been coming home almost every weekend and that would worry me far more, tbh. DD’s too far away to do that anyway. Knowing that she’s fine plus regular texts/calls is the main thing, we’re still close.