How much to charge for board ?

[Milly699]

Quick back story, we are just in our early sixties and love having our house to ourselves for most of the week and seeing family at weekends.
Youngest DS bought a house with his partner and moved out onto the path of grownupness 4 years ago .
Eldest DS ( 34) moved back home in 2020 after his relationship broke down. Expected this to be temporary, he’s still here! He now has a new relationship, his partner wants to get somewhere together, he won’t rent, thinks it’s a waste. However, he’s putting up walls and making excuses about buying as well.
I don’t want to sound cruel, I don’t want an adult child at home, it’s not good for him, he needs to grow up and stand on his own two feet.
I charge him a pathetic amount of board £170 per 4 weeks. I’ve told him I am increasing this substantially, (he works) because of the cost of living.
What should I charge him? We’re not in London…..up north!
Any suggestions gratefully received!

And the posters whose children dry their body with a hairdryer. Wtf !!!

I’ve never heard of this until this post! What’s wrong with a towel!???

To be honest I charged ds £250 last month as it was his first pay cheque but we eat very well plus the council tax will now increase as he is 18 and I was single occupier before then. Plus the electric bill so I now charge him £300 every four weeks which is reasonable plus I do need the contribution.

The electric bill is a fair bit lower now he started his full time job though!

@Fedup69 your son's girlfriend, has got a bloody nerve complaining about the rent! They need to go and find their own place.

Hi all, this is my 1st post. My son is 22, he has a 3 year old son of his own. He and his sons mother separated 2 years ago. My son lives with his current partner at her parents house, they are saving to buy a house. He has custody of his little noy every other weekend, fri to sun, and every sunday 11am to 1900.
Because there isn't space at his partners house my son and grandson stay at my house alternate weekends and come round every Sunday, they each have their own bedroom. it works out that they are with use for 7 days each month. We currently ask him to contribute £30 pm towards food and energy bills. my husband wants to increase this but I am not comfortable. Opinions would be very welcome please.
We still have an 11 year old daughter at home we both work full time, including weekends and nights.

I think you’re right to increase their board. We were charging my stepson £55 p/week, but then all of a sudden everything went up 30-40% (2023) and I’m thinking if he still wants to live here it’s going to have to increase in line with this. Our mortgage is going up this October by £200 too and I don’t think it’s fair we as parents should have to take the hit for everything. I was paying £40 per week / £160 per 4 weeks back in the mid 90’s to my parents! not that I ever complained, but these lot today living at home have got it easy.