Am i being unreasonable

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My Step daughter changes her sons pooey nappy and does not wash her hands afterward. Her partner also does not. I did not like this in my home,but didn't feel I could say anything to her face as I did before with her 1st child as she did the same,and i got a mouthfall from her. This time round, I texed her when shd gone and she has not bothered to text back. How would anyone else handle this situation? It is my home after all, my family are hygenic, saying this my partner would side with her as it's his daughter

Why bother texting her (or asking her over) if you know what she's going to say?

I'd have the detail at the ready after they've left but I wouldn't have sent the text.

*dettol

If you’re happy to comment on this then I wonder what else you comment on

It’s gross, yanbu

Keep your nose out, just carry on doing what you do, and leave her to her manky ways

Does she yeh

What did the text say?

Why didn't your dh mention it to his dd rather than you texting after she already told you your opinion wasn't wanted?

@IceSwallowCome

Does she yeh

I concur.

She probably cleans her hand with a baby wipe as she goes.

@EmeraldShamrock

She probably cleans her hand with a baby wipe as she goes.

Errrrr that isn’t cleaning

@EmeraldShamrock baby wipes aren’t anti-bacterial...

Skanky, but either your DH says something or you just clean after she’s gone.

Sending the text would just make me assume you're looking to start an argument. That's most likely why she hasn't replied.

Yes she should wash her hands afterwards but just as equally she could go to the toilet in your house and not wash your hands and you wouldn't know about it but it would be the same germs she's spreading around

You also said you knew she did this with her first child, yes it's your home but you've invited her in to it knowing that she doesn't wash her hands after changing the nappy, just tell her not to come round if it bothers you this much - although can't see your DH accepting that when you've said he'd side with her and assuming it's his home too then YABU

*not wash her hands

Baby wipes?

Absolutely gross. But then MN is a place where many have said in other threads that they don’t bother washing their hands after they go to the toilet at home.
You are right to point it out and keep doing so. There’s no excuse for being unhygienic. And if people feel embarrassed in being called out, they should lose the nasty habits.

But then MN is a place where many have said in other threads that they don’t bother washing their hands after they go to the toilet at home

But yet you look on the most recent ‘how many times do you shower a week’ thread and the vast majority seem to think you’re absolutely repulsive and teeming in terms if you don’t shower at least once a day.

This website really is like another world

Be assertive and tell her to wash her dirty manky hands.. this is exactly how disease spreads!

I didn't know what she would say. I thought she might of cleaned up her act after the 1st child!

??? Don't make sense when it's my post? Who u refering to?

Not when it's in my house

Coz I thought she may of cleaned up her disgusting ways after the 1st child. It's common sense anyway to wash hands after changing a shitty nappy

No she uses them to wipe ass not her hands tho. Her partner was worse. He used 1 wipe to clean ass and folded it over and over so clearly it would of gone on his hands

No most defenatly was not looking for an argument. I am just not assertive enough to of asked her there an then and I did not want to ruin her and her partners time at mine