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Am i being unreasonable

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xdezirx · 04/05/2021 18:40

My Step daughter changes her sons pooey nappy and does not wash her hands afterward. Her partner also does not. I did not like this in my home,but didn't feel I could say anything to her face as I did before with her 1st child as she did the same,and i got a mouthfall from her. This time round, I texed her when shd gone and she has not bothered to text back. How would anyone else handle this situation? It is my home after all, my family are hygenic, saying this my partner would side with her as it's his daughter

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MyGorramShip · 04/05/2021 22:02

Fucking Hell OP, wind your neck in.

Get a grip. If this is the worst thing she does and you’re getting yourself in this state, I think must have a very, very dull life.

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xdezirx · 04/05/2021 22:04

He was going to but didn't even though he said he would 'pull them up'on it' as for my opinion not wanted so im in the wrong am I to want hygene in my own home? I expect my guests to respect my rules,but clearly I stupidly let her walk all over me a 2nd time!

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UhtredRagnarson · 04/05/2021 22:04

I’d stand with the wipes and alcohol gel for her to use after every nappy change.

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xdezirx · 04/05/2021 22:06

That I did lol! All the door handles,everything they may of touched,but I should not have to 😔

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MyGorramShip · 04/05/2021 22:06

You want to police the hygiene of a probably knackered, adult mother of 2? I’m glad you’re not my SM.

MyGorramShip · 04/05/2021 22:06

@xdezirx

That I did lol! All the door handles,everything they may of touched,but I should not have to 😔

You need help, that is not normal.

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xdezirx · 04/05/2021 22:08

Wtf? Who is OP??? So im in the fucking wrong for wanting hygene in my fucking home! So clearly you don't wash your hands after a shit!!! Touch a raw nerve has it??

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xdezirx · 04/05/2021 22:09

Hygene is fucking normal!!! I work in a Restaurant so I clearly know my stuff!!!

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MyGorramShip · 04/05/2021 22:12

Interesting posting history, OP.

Do you ask people when they last showered before you let them in your home?

Do you monitor the hand washing of every guest?

I’m a Microbiologist, I fear if you had my level of knowledge you’d be dousing all guests in bleach before allowing them in.

FlibbertyGiblets · 04/05/2021 22:13

Some of us have been preparing for pandemic all our lives so this is a mere trifle innit, OP?

MyGorramShip · 04/05/2021 22:13

If it’s made you so anxious that you’re scrubbing anything she may have touched, then yes, you need help.

Sunshinebunshine · 04/05/2021 22:14

This is way over the top...i don't wash my hands each time.. We're all still alive and my dc3 has not had that much sickness... Possibly as he's not kept in a little bubble. Not sure why you get so involved

FlibbertyGiblets · 04/05/2021 22:14

Forgot my smiley!

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xdezirx · 04/05/2021 22:20

Not scrubbing wtf is wrong with people? I don't give a flying fuck if your a microbiologist! Yet I'm one of the last people who fucking took this pandemic seriously. So im hardly that over the top with hygene!

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Motnight · 04/05/2021 22:21

Are you ok, Op?

FlibbertyGiblets · 04/05/2021 22:21

Oufff don't use up the world supply of exclamation marks please!

!!!!!!

MyGorramShip · 04/05/2021 22:22

Covid isn’t spread in shit, OP.

You do realise my entire degree is based around microbes, right?

It’s pretty much only Norovirus that is able to proliferate on surfaces and remain contagious. If your DSD had that, she certainly wouldn’t be out visiting.

You need to chill the fuck out.

MyGorramShip · 04/05/2021 22:23

@Motnight

Are you ok, Op?

Apparently not being, as she didn’t take Covid seriously but it’s militant about washing hands and works in a restaurant

This is the most bullshit post I’ve seen in a long time.

UnsolicitedDickPic · 04/05/2021 22:37

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Anordinarymum · 04/05/2021 22:50

@Chitaufree

But then MN is a place where many have said in other threads that they don’t bother washing their hands after they go to the toilet at home

But yet you look on the most recent ‘how many times do you shower a week’ thread and the vast majority seem to think you’re absolutely repulsive and teeming in terms if you don’t shower at least once a day.

This website really is like another world

It begs the question, why would anyone ask how many times people shower? How many times do you change the beds/your underwear etc...

Lou98 · 04/05/2021 23:22

With how aggressive you're coming across in your replies I don't believe to be honest that you "aren't assertive enough" to say anything to her face so had to text her straight after

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Chitaufree · 05/05/2021 00:44

Yeah.
I agreed with you from your OP, I think it’s gross not to wash hands after touching nappies.

But I don’t get the major attitude you’ve got having read your updates? It stinks

AmberIsACertainty · 05/05/2021 00:56

Assertiveness isn't the same as aggression. OP is aggressive and their attitude stinks.

OP just don't invite them into your home any more until DC is out of nappies, meet them elsewhere. I agree with you regarding cleanliness. Although I wouldn't have known about their disgusting habits because I wouldn't have been watching them change the nappy, they'd have been changing it in the toilet. I can't stand the whole place stinking whenever people change nappies in the living room or kitchen, it's gross.

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