It's easy to feel like young children are hard work -I have two who are still in infants. After much back and forth and for various reasons, mostly due to difficulties conceiving, prior miscarriages, the fact that I find parenting quite stressful and emotionally taxing (no specific issues, it just feels full on and I tend towards worrying/over thinking/ anxiety), worry that one more child would make my parenting worse and also have a feeling that I've somehow used up my quota of baby dust in having two happy and healthy children when for a long time I really worried I would never have any, and then maybe not a second. I worry that trying for another would be spinning the wheel of all the unknowns of conception, pregnancy, birth etc once too often. (I know that this is probably mostly irrational given how low the risk of problems are even if you've had issues before and are over 40, but still....)
But I worry that when I'm late 50s with both kids potentially away at uni, or maybe even sooner when they're teens who mostly want to hang out with friends, I'll regret not having had one more. And once they're adults, will two be enough?
The upsides of staying with two are clear but I do worry I'm missing a chance and might regret it when older. Any advice? Did anyone feel like this and get past it and not look back later down the line.