So i'm 28 and oh is 38, he had two daughters when he was very young who are 20 and 18.
He split with their mum 10 years ago and oldest daughter doesn't speak to her mum so oh does everything for her, pays rent, phone bills the lot.
Takes both on amazing holidays and generally gives them way more than any dad i know
I have a 4 year old with my ex husband however marriage broke down due to extreme domestic violence and his dad is not allowed near us so my little boy calls oh dad and they have the best bond
When we first got together i worried how his daughters would re act to my age and my little boy however we met and got on great and both said my little boy was lucky to have their dad as his dad which was lovely
I got on great with both girls, infact older daughter would speak to me about things she didn't want to talk to dad about and ive spoiled both of them the way i spoil my little boy and always made sure we include them
However at new year when oh left the room older daughter went on a rant and told me i better not dare have kids with her dad. It was so aggresive and when she left i ended up bursting into tears.
At 28 more kids where very much part of our plan so when oh brought up trying for a baby i asked him to speak to them and told him i was worried it would cause problems
He said she must of been joking and on speaking to them she said she was and didn't mind
However she came to stay with us for lockdown and asking me 1 day if i thought i was a bit old for more kids ( i mean no 28 isn't old)
I told oh there is issue and he spoke to her again
Then came the younger 1 claiming he doesnt pay her mum maintenance , this is a lie we have joint account she gets £430 a month so it just seemed issues where cropping up and maybe where had decided not so happy with our relationship
He reassured me all defo ok and im now a few months pregnant and he told girls start of the week, first people we told and his older daughter erupted.
Said they should of been taking out for dinner to be told ( i have HG plus im having to be careful as have severe asthma aswell as being pregnant so not going for dinners atm)
She then told him good luck with his new family and was horrible about me.
I ended up saying i thought this was unfair as she is part of the family. Ive given her so much i help her all the time and so does her dad. She told me to F off and blocked me
She then blocked him and so did younger daughter
Ive seen others on here saying older children have right to be angry but given we told them we planned on ttc and they said happy for us too i dont get it
I would never of acted like that if it was my dad but my dad would never have being paying my bills and spoiling me how they are at 20 so maybe i'm strange
Ive told him to maybe go see them and let them know he is always there but he feels he has done nothing wrong and no need for her to have acted like that