Poppers

[Jultay]

I'm posting here in desperation for some advice . My daughter is nearly 22 and about 6 months ago admitted she had used poppers on a night out drinking .... she drinks to excess when she goes out and gets paraletic drunk so much so I have to go and pick her up from town she can't function at all . We had a huge chat last time about poppers and their effects especially as my daughter takes anti depressants and propananol for anxiety .
Last night she went out with friends and I had a call from one of them saying she was drunk again and needed picking up . She could barely stand and was sick in her bed .... She has admitted tonight she sniffed poppers again .
I and my hubby don't know which way to turn ... nothing seems to sink in with her. My hubby said last time there is no way he is putting up with drug taking while she's under our roof.
Are we right to be concerned or are we being over dramatic over this .
Please help

Poppers are definitely the least of the worries here. The worst they can do is cause lightheadedness, vomiting and temporary nasal congestion. The alcohol is the issue - if she is depressed she is likely drinking to self medicate, regardless of if she's taking anti depressants.

I get that you don't want drugs under your roof; but poppers aren't illegal, and alcohol is more damaging and is entirely legal. What you need to be doing here, is getting to the root of what's causing her unstable behaviour. I know depression can hit anyone for any reason, but was there an event that kicked it off at all? Is there any evidence of addictive behaviours in the family? Stuff like that is really important to pinpoint. If she has a genetic pre disposition to addictive behaviours, it might complicate things.

How often is this happening and for how long?

I do think some of it is social anxiety and seeking acceptance as she feels not good enough HOWEVER this can be a slippery slope as you say resulting in accepting other drugs .
Me and hubby keep saying where did we go wrong 😪

My mum and myself suffer from depression ... my daughter started about 4/5 years ago ... it started when she was at college and she had part time job which she struggled with and had panic attack's when she had to go to work .

She struggles talking to people and socialising thinking people are judging her

She takes anti depressants and propananol for anxiety Back to the GP for some more effective treatment. She has basically been told she does not need to solve or work round problems, just drug her way through them. Counselling can be hard to get, can you afford private? IMHO it is a good investment (if you have the right counsellor).

She was trying to book for some CBT but with working full time until 8pm the times were impossible so it never came off 😩

Jultay time to try that one again. Bollox for being bad but help her to get help.

She needs to get onto CBT. It will really help and she’ll be amazed. It really helped me

Propanol is good for backup situations like presentations but self belief won’t come until she can manage without it.

Thank you all sooo much for your comments I really took lots on board here ... x

Sorry , i hold my hands up that I’ve completely ignored the MH aspect, and I apologise for that. I was too busy being sad/annoyed at the impact on OP.

I’m afraid I’m not an expert of MH matters but there will be many on here that are. Best of luck OP, I feel for you.