what are the best things about having boys?

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Tell me what you particularly love about being a mother of boys........

Agree with chickens on the willy amusement - I asked mine earlier what he was doing, and he said "trying to lick my willy"

my nearly 3yo teaches me about car e.g. i now can name cars, had no idea before.

both ds1 and ds2 are incredibly cuddly.

they aren't devious at all, what you see is what you get.

ds1 prone to tantrums but never holds a grudge after.

ds1 really outdoorsy. always up for a walk even in pouring rain which suits me perfectly.

i love the current fashion for boys too. don't have to worry about them being onstantly covered in pink/glitter.

i don't have to share my make up or nail varnish (although ds1 quite disappointed about that one).

boys are fab

Thanks for this ladies, I have a DD aged 5 and am 36 weeks pg with DC no. 2 which I am convinced is a boy.

I have been a bit worried cause I have a DSS who is 6 and although he is mostly lovely, my DD is the one who tells me I'm the best mummy in the world and strokes me every evening saying "your skin is sooooo soft" and tells everyone that when she grows up she wants to be like mummy.

DSS is the one who fights ALL the time and charges around the house and throws tantrums when he doesn't get his own way. But I suspect he isn't like that with his mummy....

Thanks for getting me excited about the possibility of having a boy

I want a boy now!!!

munchkinland. A baby is a baby is a baby. It will be a unique, wonderful, fascinating individual that you adore as much as dd.

A boy isn't any more likely to be a rampaging out of control terror than a girl is to be a devious, glitter-obsessed, pouty madam.

That way in which your dd loves you and adores you and needs you is what a secure child does with a loving mother. A boy, should you have one, will be the same.

well said showofhands

they are not little stereotypes. They can have gender traits but DD is a sport loving, loud and confident girl who loves pretty things and fighting. DS is a rugby player who loves art and literature and likes to sit and chat

My dd likes worms, creepy crawlies, dinosaurs, tractors and dancing.

I always drag it out as an example but SIL plays rugby for England. BIL is a professional ballet dancer. SIL likes getting mucky and being outdoors and never wears make-up. BIL moisturises and preens, likes being indoors and clean and doing my dd's hair (he's straight btw!).

Well I've got girls but get to 'borrow' a boy a few hours a week (I'm a CM) and to tell the truth, boys are a lot of fun!
I've always been quite physical with my own girls and they have never really been into pink stuff and make-up.

Oh showofhands I didn't mean to stereotype at all - in fact I was saying that DSS was the one who threw the hissy, girly tantrums!! I am in no way a "put them in a box and leave them there" type of Mum.

Just that I have only ever been used to girls....I have 1 sister, and went to a very predominantly girls school and have a daughter, so am a bit wary about having a boy as I simply am not used to them (apart from my very different experience of being a step mum)

I am by no means dreading having a boy, just that this thread has shown me a few more things to love and get excited about boys is all!!

Sorry didn't mean to offend or stereotype

The thing I love about DS (5) is that he's allowed me the opportunity to understand how amazing boys are! I come from a very female family, and I feel that I knew how great girls are, but DS has been a revelation.

I love chatting with him about lego, cars etc. I love the amazing cuddles. I love when I hear him chatting to his friends. I love watching him play rugby.

I also love all those things with DD!

I love the fact that mine can share their toys.Spiderman and Peppa pig appreciation at the same time.

I love that DS was running up to strangers on our campsite this weekend with his arms outspread yelling "I am a FIGHTER JET!".

His joyful lust for life is a tonic.

All the hugs and affection here too!

Enthusiasm about anything from a film/comic book - spiderman, transformers etc - even though he has never seen the films and won't for some years (he's only 5).

Stroking my hair when he is tired.

The extremely pleased with himself look when he finds a particularly fat worm in the garden.

The fact that, after 11 years of DDs birthday parties taking little girls to the loo every 5 minutes, DH now has to take all the boys to the loo at DSs birthday parties!!!

When you have washed their hair just give it a quick rub with the towel when they come out of the bath & its done! Dont even bother brushing it! DS1 is four and has only just had his first haircut (was a bald baby!) and DS2 is only 9 weeks so not needing one for a while yet either!

No, no. I wasn't directing that at you or criticising, don't apologise. I was trying to reassure you. Just pointing out that all of the 'pros' like oh boys love their mummies, they think you're great, you'll get cuddles etc, well is that any different to what you're getting now? Doesn't it reassure you that they're the same? And the 'oh well no pouting with boys, at least they're straightforward' etc, didn't you think well actually dd is fairly straightforward and doesn't pout and isn't devious really, so is there a good chance that this next one will be as wonderful and as individual as the one I already have?

Threads like this reassure me immensely. Take out the gender and 75% of the posts could be describing my dd. All the worries and concerns that people have about not being able to parent a certain gender do seem to shrink when you realise that a person is more than the sum of their parts.

Lelli Kelly free zone!

This is a lovely thread . I've got one DD and have a vague but lingering hunch that I would prefer another DD in future, but I think you've just convinced me that that feeling is just clinging to a notion that what you 'know' is somehow easier - you're all selling the concept of little boys (and hulking great ones) quite nicely

It's great being able to get really excited about a tractor driving past, or a fire engine. When it's just the girls, they do think it's quite cool, but with the boys - they think it's amazing.

And loads of cuddles. The girls give as many cuddles, but they are more fleeting

I love hunting for decent boy's clothes - bright, not too rough material (but thick enough to withstand rough play) and no football/I'm a little monster slogans. It can be a challenge, but when you find them the clothes are far cuter, in my opinion, than a load of frilly stuff.

When DS gets older he will be able to discuss football/sports/etc with any new partner I might have (I thought this about XP but irrelevant now!) so I don't have to get involved

You can cut their hair short and not have battles over washing/brushing it.

I am 21 and I get all choked up when I see certain male friends of mine just finishing uni and making their own way in the world, thinking, that will be DS one day and I hope he turns out as such a lovely young man I will never ever tell my friends this though!!

If your son is constantly mucky people put it down to him being a boy, I'd imagine with girls there is more "societal pressure" to keep them looking nice!

A walk isn't just a walk. One day I can be Luke Skywalker the next Gandalf!
Cuddles.
Always having a pocket full of items we have found e.g stones, shells, seaweed and bits of wood.
The important questions in life such as:Who do you think would win a power ranger or a jedi?
Every other sentence starting with Do you know what...?

Tabbycat7, loved your description! Well written, and very much the things I experienced with my young boys. At once terrible and a delight. They forced me to look at the world again the way I did thirty years ago.

One more thing: In 6 years I haven't spent a minute on their hair, they go to school with their out of bed heads and they look just fine!

pagwatch Tue 08-Jun-10 15:28:00

The way they take punishment/criticism in silence, process it for a while and then move on, no grudges, no pouting, no angst"

Can I have one of your sons, pagwatch? And in exchange you may have my ds, who will argue for hours literally about how unfair I am and then wake up the next morning and still not have moved on at all. Who can bear grudges for weeks. And who cries at the slightest criticism. Who can never just take a punishment and shrug it off, because it is all about his feelings.

But I will keep my dd for her sense of proportion and humour and generally shallow attitude towards life.

I do love ds, but boys in my family are so emotional (my own brother is the same). There are days when I feel I can only cope with so much emotion.

I adore my 2 boys. No screaming like a girl, either! (I'm sure girls didn't do that when I was young!)

Mine are so affectionate - they still sometimes come in bed for a cuddle.

They are full of empathy for others and really care about younger children.

Lots of hugs for me - even now - and they're 16 and nearly 15!