Why is it shocking to want 3 children???

[Toothache]

...or more for that matter?

3 of my best friends don't have children (although want them..... partners not ready yet!). I have 2 and recently they have all asked me seperately if I would have anymore. I have said of course! They are SOOOOOOOOOO shocked by this and say things like "OMG are you mad??" or "You are a baby making machine aren't you?".... or "When are you going to stop??"

It actually upsets me. Even my friends that have children (1 or 2) seem really shocked by my wanting a 3rd....and perhaps a 4th child!

It makes me feel like I'm going OTT or that I'm doing something wrong!

I'm 27 FFS, I cannot possibly know how I will feel down the line. At the moment I want a 3rd. That might be it, that might be me settled, but then again it might not! Why do people make you feel like a freak if you want to have more than 2 children? Has anyone else experienced this?

I'm one of 4 and DH is one of 3. It isn't that unusual is it????????

imo, it is seen as very working class to have 3 or more.

everyone I know has 3 or wants 3. I feel very square with my 2! I'd quite like 3 but don't know if I can do the whole pregnancy/sleepless night thing again. It is definately the new 2!

I think it's the new status symbol!

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I have 3, but I don't want any more. I feel that for me, there arn't enough hours in the day for the 3 I have and DH. But if it happened nby accident then I wouldn't be upset but time is running out............DH is on the waiting list for a vasectomy.

But I do agree that 3 is frowned apon, especially as I am only 24 and also have 2 step children (14 & 16).

Maybe it is just my family that is frowned upon - I had ds at 18, if my stepson had a baby at 18 I would be a grandmother at 26 .

Dino - Why did Custy's post make you feel all excited???? >confused

becuase she finds me sexy?

PMSL!!

ta..

I was just getting excited by aloha's suggestion that my threesome-to-be will make me trendy (I'll be wearing those new long-line tailored shorts soon ) when custardo brought me down with a bump! So, trendy or a bit common? What's it to be? FWIW, I always wanted three and feel incredibly fortunate that I am able to have the family I hoped for. Plus, at least I've upped the chance that one of them will look after me when I'm old and dribbly.

When I was in hospital for a check up with ds3, the midwife told me it was becoming increasingly common for women to have 3 and 4 children.

It's pretty normal among people I know - of the close circle of 4 friends I have (including me) 3 of us have 3 and only one has 2 so she is the 'odd one out'!! I am one of 3 and on dh's side he has 2 sets of 3 cousins iyswim.

For me, someone with 3 or 4 children just doesn't raise an eyebrow - if someone has 5 I think 'wow' but only in a positive way. I certainly don't think they are mad.

my bil has 5 and two stepkids

Custy - the same midwife also talking about 3 or 4 said it looks as though those people who do have 3 or 4 are either quite poor or quite affluent and those in the middle have 2. Cobblers

becuase it means that you have to buy them xmas presents and thats so unthoughtful for other relatives - especially if you only have one child and your expected to get 63 cousins becuase yout sisters or sil's can keep their legs together.

and poor granny has to save up £1 every pension day just to afford to buy your kis at xmas - and she only buys herself a mince pie as a treat

is not cobblers - is truuueeeeee

bet those women in the doue egberts advert dont have 3 kids each. that would mean the would be too knackered to lunch and to be able to afford a gardener a trip to mauritus and new tits

PMSL!

imo, larger families are increasingly fashionable and something of a status symbol...

I do get fed up of old ladies saying

gosh 3, you've got your hands full - must hear it at least 2 or 3 times a week...always old ladies.

Oooh, really?!

Distel - I heard it more than once this weekend at a hen party where I was meeting a lot of new people. Arrrghghghghghghgghh!

we too want a 'gang' of a fmaily and will stop when we feel it's right. Currently pregnant with ds2 (due in 10 days).

Also getting really negative comments about having three.....('one will get left out' or 'you'll be trying for a girl then' or 'you just can't give three as much as you can 2' or 'it'll be hard work and ruin your life' etc etc)

don't reeally care about what others think- dh and I will care for our own family as best we can- we just can't imagine anything other than a 'gang' of us!

Toothache i understand completely!

I had three by 28 and now at 37 have another and am pg again.

I am so tired of the silly somments ' baby- making machine' being one of the most annoying...

I have a large gap of 6.5 years between numbers 3 and 4 - that provoked the midwife to ask me if they were the same father...Pi$% off yes actually ...why???? I have only had one baby in the last nine years - its just that I started at a relatively early age and still want more. I even feel people think i am selfish - someone ( a bloke who works away from home 90% of the time and when he is home is working) asked me ' doesn't it water down the care you give them?' No actually it doesn't and what they may lose from me being busy - they more than gain from their siblings.

In response to the inane comments about why i want so many I have started saying ' I have nice ones' that shuts them up!

I am 13 weeks now and planning on announcing any time soon - will let you know the latest round of rubbish that will be spouted at me!