What things do you not let your DC have that others parents do.

[lovingmy2]

Just intersted really.

My DS is in reception (nearly 5) and all his friends and cousins around similar age have a TV in their rooms but both DH and I refuse to let him have one. He goes up to bed at half six, I read him a story and then he can choose a book to look at (read) before i go back in at 7:15pm to take it off him (usually he has fallen asleep with book on face).

We don't let him play out on the front (even though we live on a close) without me sitting on my chair with him when all the other children on the close are allowed.

We don't let him brush his own teeth either although recently we have let him start brushing them and we finish them off.

Actually the Disney books are worse because they are incredibly badly written and hugely dull. DS has most of the set because someone gave them to him for his second birthday, but I pretty much refuse to read them to him any more (fortunately he is now getting to the point where he'll be able to read them to himself if he wishes). That isn't a Disney Princess thing, though, just a Disney thing. I cannot take reading The Rescuers Down Under one more time. Frankly, reading it just once was too much. And the lumpen prose of the others is no better.

he doesn't have a tv in his bedroom and at the moment I don't intend to let him have a mobile phone even in secondary as the health risks to children are as yet unknown. I also won't let him have a facebook account. He is seven.

But I do think the banning of sweets/drinks/other foods will come back to bite a lot of people on the arse in the not too distant future.

Banning things is all very well while they're still at home, but once they go to school they start going to unsupervised playdates/school discos/once they hit y5/6 many of them will go to shops etc on their own and it is at that point that you lose all control over what they eat/drink.

Our school discos sell drinks/snacks to kids from ks2 so year 3. Before that they get biscuits/squash and tbh it is like a free-for-all and I'm sure many of them don't get these things at home so come to the disco to binge.

I agree wannabe. DS isn't banned from having anything - not even the fizzy drinks although i don't encourage him to have them and he only tasted fanta for the first time the other day. He is just educated that water and milk is much better for him so generally chooses those things along with the odd orange squash or ribena. He has his treat box which is always filled and as long asks he asks he can have something after his tea. He never goes overboard which i think is down to the fact that he isn't denied anything.

Fruit after 4pm - acidic destruction of teeth!

Oh and any more than 3 small cups of milk a day ( reduced appetite - possible cause of anaemia).

No boiled sweets or chewing gum are the only food bans for DS as he is only 7. I dont let him play out alone either but cant think of anything else.

Toys/childrens tv I let him make up his own mind, he goes through various phases of favourite things but thats just what children do.

Nothing is banned, although I can say I would never get them a TV for their bedrooms, or for the playroom. We only watch TV for maybe 15 minutes if they have time after getting ready for school in the mornings and for half an hour after supper time, so it would be a complete waste of money. I suppose you could say I ban TV during the day but we do sometimes watch a DVD or some TV in the afternoon if one of them is ill, or for a Sunday treat. We used not do commercial TV, but they now prefer Milkshake to CBeebies. It doesn?t seem to have been a problem though. They know that the whole point of adverts is to try and persuade you to buy things that you wouldn?t otherwise think you want or need, and the only things they?ve requested having seen an ad are Tumble Tots and Muzzy, the language DVDs.

I have never bought them:
? coca cola
? gum
? ?Character? foods, or any other food which costs more just because it?s been packaged in a way to appeal more to children.
? ?Sugar-free? or ?fat-free? foods.
? Lelli kellis
? Bubble bath (smallest has eczema and if she can?t have it it?s not fair for the other one

They are not allowed to help themselves to food from the fridge/cupboard. If they are hungry they can come and tell me.

Oh, and I would never buy a fancy dress costume. It?s one of the completely illogical bees in my bonnet, but the whole point of fancy dress to me is that you have to use your imagination. Of course that hasn?t stopped other people buying them fairy dresses that they adore, but I could never do it myself.

Sodium Benzoate makes DS2 go loopy just like Aspartame.

It's probably a combination of SB and something else but it's far easier to exclude Sodium Benzoate than try and remember all the names given to all the E numbers that DS2 reacts to!

Aspartame is an artificial sweetener used in millions of things that don't actually need sweetening and is banned in several countries too.

Expensive trainers is another one. They have

Are some of these posts made up? Goodness some of you need to let your children live!

I actually feel sorry for some of your children!!!

K...which rules do you think are too much?

Dd 7 no Tv in room, no Bratz or Barbies, no playing out front, no fizzy pop or squash, no clothes with tarty slogans or more appropriate for teens,sweets very rarely, chocolate occasionally. Pretty much standard stuff among her friends tbh.

I have no set rule on sweets as I was allowed 2oz once a week until I was eleven and then my parents moved into a sweet shop...within four years I had five fillings!

LelliKellis....Would people still say no to the 'pump' style ones if they were £5? and no make up?

No chewing gum, no coke (that includes both white powder and dark fizzy liquid form), no merchandised toys.

I feel sorry for all the children who can't play out, and I know everyone has their reasons.
I would love for my two to have friends to play out with I feel they are missing out on a big part of their social development.

I don't allow TV in bedrooms.
DD age 9 is not allowed a laptop or a mobile phone.
I don't beleive in banning foods, although I do not like them having processed meat and never serve it at home MIL lets them have wafer thin ham, Burger King and various other chopped and shaped meats which I try and be oblivious to.

DD's friend is only allowed sweets or chocolate on birthdays, Christmas and Easter.
DD told me when they went to Camp her friend spent £20 in two days buying coke and sweets from the vending machines, and at DD's sleepover she got up in the night and ate the remains of the chocolate fountain.

i don't ban

TV - no TV in room but dd can watch whatever she wants on our TV downstairs (within reason). I allow Eastenders and other soaps if they happen to be on but we don;t make a pint of watching them.

lollypops or sweets - she gets some after swimming on Saturdays and after church at weekends

lelli kellie - she has one pair that her aunties bought for her and she loves them

no food/drink bans at all - although she can obviously only have what I buy her and I mostly buy healthier stuff but not all the time. When at friends she can have whatever they offer

I don't allow

chewing gum
heel shoes
bikinis
DS/Wii - but she hasn't asked for one yet

my plan is to allow her to have a mobile phone/ earrings etc when she goes to high school

she is nearly 7

2 dcs
I have tvs in bedrooms, including my own.
both have a ds
1 has a laptop
1 has an ipod
1 has a mobile phone.
Can play in the street
have a trampoline
Have a wii and an xbox

Chocolate in moderation
Sweets rarely
Fizzy drink only if out as a treat
No heels
I try not to ban much, I prefer to guide them to make good informed choices of their own

I also allow Moshi Monsters and Club Penguin at weekends when home work is done.. but she is only allowed max 2 penguins and 2 monsters, although she wants more.

She is not a member of either site so just plays for free although desperately wants to be!

My older four range from 23 to 15 and probably had even less sweets and chocolate than dd aged 7 tbh. But not one of them would ever think to buy chocolate or sweets even though they have had money to do with as they choose for years. If asked they would say it's a waste of money and they don't really like the taste anyway. Bought each of them a small egg at easter, three are untouched and the other two have had the buttons eaten. Will no doubt end up throwing them away like I did the majority of the tin of chocolates for christmas because I don't eat them either.

I boycott McDonald's so they won't get any of that from me! Ditto the aspartame/artificial sweeteners etc. I know they might go to parties where they eat something rubbish but in daily life none of the above.

They won't be getting tvs in their rooms either!

Disney

Artificial sweetners - he's just not had any yet, don't see the reason to give him any.

Playing out the front - they are allowed, but there needs to be an adult present, it is a road, albeit quiet and they are only 6 and 4. Will relax this as time goes on. This is normal in our street.

They are allowed to use my Ipod but only in the docking station, no earphones, they probably do not know such things exist as I only use earphones at the gym anyway.

No TVs in bedrooms ever. Or computers in bedrooms, but maybe that'll go when they're teens. No playing out front yet though by summer I will probably let them for short times when a few of the local nice older kids are around.

No hitting. I'm amazed how many parents think boys will be boys when they whack each other. My two get massively told off for this and only ever do it in retaliation to other kids. At home they bicker verbally but no kicking or hitting. Same with bullying. I know lots of parents who let it go in small doses but it's my pet hate and I'm proud they don't do it.

Bit of tv and film censorship but only if it's really not working. Simpsons is banned for now because they kept quoting Homer at me until I couldn't stand it any more.

Otherwise pretty lax here. They eat nearly anything, within reason. I don't buy smiley faces and similar junk food but they can tuck into them anywhere else as it's a treat. They listen to i-pods, play on the computer, wear exactly what they want, however eccentric it is (and it is!) and they backchat. But I quite like cheeky kids. I like to know they're confident and independent. I worry when kids are grown-up pleasers.