Has your DH/DP never changed a nappy?

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If not, why not? Is it his decision or yours?

DH asked me to post this as we've met a few mums recently who've complained about this and he's curious - also surprised by the "ooh, isn't he a good dad" comments whenever he's spotted changing DD's (which is all the time when we're out and about).

dont think dh has changed any of dd3 nappies.

It's learned helplessness. It starts out with mothers thinking their sons are cute when they try to iron their first shirt and make a complete hash of it, so they step in, the mad fools.

Then whichever woman is unfortunate enough to be saddled with this no-hoper ends up having to bear the brunt of having a chap who has no desire to learn how to do anything other than stand there with the offending article in his hand (toaster, kettle, lawnmower, recipe book, iron, nappy and pooey child, etc) and bleat.

In hospital I had to ask a midwife to show me how to change a nappy (daft I know ) had a traumatic birth and was bed bound for a while. Dh changed all of Dd's nappies. He's still very good and I seem to have trained Dd to do smelly nappies just when Daddy gets home

misdee - you're the first to admit allowing this so: why??

I think your dh is probably excused under the circumstances, misdee.

misdee, I've obviously missed something, so I apologise if my question is inappropriate.

my dh has spent most of dd3 life in hospital, so no nappy changing for him.

DP canges about 2 nappies a day, this may sound harsh but i made it clear that if he didnt contribute to ds's care (messy jobs n'all!) then i wouldn't even consider living with him, this is after several years of watching my sisters partners do nothing to help out with there kids at all, but do was cool with that and helps loads

My dh did many nappies in his time, and also did all the nappy washing when we were using reusables (now that's pretty noble in my book).

I have however observed that some mothers do not seem to want their dh's to take a big role in their babies life, and criticise them so heavily that they then stop. Then the mother gets annoyed at useless husband, and the father has bonding problems with the baby and ends up doing very little with them.

Not saying it's like that for many, but I have seen it going on.

My dp not only changes nappies but it was him who gave up full time work when we decided to have a family so now I work FT & he's at home with 2 under 5s for half the week!

He also does nearly all the cooking and his fair share of cleaning, washing, shopping.

I know what you mean about getting odd comments though - there must be more 'hands on' Dads out there these days but people always do assume that he works & I'm the main carer.

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quite shocked at the question TBH ... of course is the answer in fact DH gets up with DD 6 mornings a week and always changes her first nappy of the day

Um ok gonna throw a spanner into the works here, dp has changed ds maybe about once a month if that, he only does it if I cant (ds is 10months old) ditto bath, getting dressed, getting up to him in the nite etc. Just sort of worked out this way.

Yes yes yes, my DH is a new age man..................supposedly..... whatever one of them is.............................ignore mw I am drunk

Dh does every nappy when he is home. I only do them when it's just ds and I.

his dad on the other hand left half a cup of tea, rather than "learn" how to change one. If you knew how much he likes cups of tea you would understand how serious this is.

yes he does most of them and washes them too. but then hes a SAHD so itd be a bit worrying if he didnt

DH did his fair share too; wouldn't have allowed him to not do so!

Yes, I find it unbelievable that some men don't!

Yes he does, cos I made sure he does. I think maybe he wouldn't have it they weren't twins to. He refuses to clear up anything the older two do, sick etc. though.

oh yes he did, very early, I made sure he did !! and we're using washables !

Yes, dh never changed pooed nappy.

Why, Pomi (and anyone else whose partner did this)?

Dh just did it! If I am being totaly honest he changed dd before I did as I had a section and was finding it a bit tricky to get up at first.

Think DP did DD's first one meconium and all bless him. It's about 50/50 when we are both here.

StepFIL was amazed DP was doing the dishes the other day when he came over, he rarely makes my mum a cup of tea and has never changed a nappy. Why should men be exempt from nappy changing they have hands too?

dh made it cleared to me that he will not going to do it. He only change dss nappies when we have to go out and i have to get ready quickly. If he is changing and ds has done a poo he just put the nappy back. Do you think I can argue with him when a child has dirty bum. I cant leave my child in a dirty nappy even for a minute.