whoa re these freaks? ( dm alert)

[SuSylvester]

have they no self respect or idea that this might no be a good idea

Yes, just read that too - dopes. poor kids when they are old enough to comprehend!

Why would you do the supermarket shop with one baby, let alone three? Why not wait till the evening or weekend and one of them could have gone on their own?

while tyhey are stupid to write this i do have a lot of sympathy for them

I see no reason why they would write that to a newspaper tbh
is it just for the money?
the kids will see that one day

I do feel sorry for them having three babies n=must be horrendously hard

did they have ivf?

did they know they might get a multiplpe pregnancy

And you can use a taxi without car seats, BTW.

I know, so not the point, but just another whinge, really.

And those poor children.

Oh my, poor kids. They'd better save the money they got from the DM to pay for the kid's therapy bills in the future.

Babies strain most relationships -nobody is ever really prepared for the needs of 1 little person to completely overshadow everything,and to have that 3 times over is I imagine v hard work but babies dont break up otherwise healthy relationships,unreal expectations do.

I feel very sad that one day those beautiful children will read that article and shatter.

TR, yes they did have ivf
he also has 2 other dcs

See, the thing is, those statistics, I would imagine, are a bit misleading.

They had those babies with IVF. So there was already the stress of infertility in their relationship. And I would imagine that most multiples born today are through IVF, although I have no proof of this.

As nickschick said, one baby is a strain. Add the months and months of trying and then multiples on top of it?

I would love to know the statistics of breakups with naturally occurring multiples.

yes, hardly a cutting for their baby books

although if this pregnancy is triplets I reserve the right to be a bit put out.

There wasn't months and months of trying Tee the reason they had IVF as it explains in the article is because he had had a vasectomy. So IVF was the only way they could 'seal their love'.

Cruel. This article will be available for their children to read one day. Imagine the guilt.

Yes I imagine 3 kids is bloody hard but in the article there seems to be a lot more pressure on them than just the 3 kids. Not fair to blame the marriage breakdown on the children alone.

Callous sods.

"When I fell pregnant, I imagined I'd be on a permanent high with my lovely little babies nestled in my arms"

Yes she had very unrealistic expectations.

I expected parenthood to be hard.
I knew that there was a chance I would develop PND.
I knew me and dh would have no help - be totally on our own.

I knew that I would most liekly go even more slightly potty., which I did.

Saying that, although dd could happily go 21hours without sleep as a baby (!!) and had bad wind and screamed in pain with it, she began sleeping through very early (around 3 months). She talked and walked early, was smiling and giggly, didn't seem to have the terrible two's (or even three's) and yet I still lost it sometimes and had to run to the loo and cry... At times I lost myself totally to the never ending hard work of it, I felt drained and empty and numb inside.

What would I have been like in her situation? It's probably better that I never know... but I wouldn't be putting it in the paper, I'd be thinking about setting up a support group.

Gosh I went on a bit there didn't I, it brought back memories though!

Oh somehow I missed that MrsGokWantsatidyhouse.

So it isn't true for this couple. But I would bet it is true for other IVF couples.

I don't understand why she didn't shop online. Ocado could have saved her marriage

Reading between the lines and knowing a lot of couples in this position (I have an IVF dd myself) the dh probably didn't really want anymore kids but felt he owed it to his new wife who had no kids of her own. This is a common situation and this is most likely why their marraige could only take the strain of one baby (but could it I wonder?) - because he was already at the end of his tolerance considering one.

I've seen a lot of marraiges struggle where one person (usually the man) has kids and doesn't want anymore but the new partner doesn't have kids yest and really wants them. When a man walks away from one set of kids it perhaps should ring an alarm bell about his committment to family life....

"To eke out their earnings, Bernadette was forced to work parttime from 6am to 2pm at a gym."

While her husband earned 40 grand at his job? Forced? Because they had 3 DCs?

We had 2 older children when our twins were born, DH earns less than that yet we didn't starve.

Is life a lot more expensive in Swindon? We only live 50 miles from there.

l39 I wondered that to. I live 25 miles from Swindon with 3 DC and DH earns less than this and we get by. Unless you are buying designer gear then you can pick up5 sleepsuits for a couple of quid. And I don't know about everyone else but we were given so much when DC1 was born.

I just feel so sorry for those children.

Acinonyx makes a good point.

Thats not OK

Statistically Sn kids destroy marriages too but should I ever break up with DH (God forbid) tehn I won;t ge selling a story on that to the DM either

Asda do in fact had trolleys that can take up to 4, our lcoal one had one for a set of triplets and us (SN ds1 and 2 more under 4- was heavy but v v good)

Love the headline.....like the babies deliberately set out to ruin thier marriage!!!

apart from the fact they are nobs telling their story to the daily mail, i can see how having triplets might put a bit of strain on your marriage!

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