If your partner does shifts...

[Louise1970]

How can anyone stick to a routine living with a shift worker. Can anyone else let me know what they did.

spidermama - I could have written your post. We have the same scenario here with Dh doing most of the work from home as a freelancer but working all osrts of crazy hours, never knowing when, never booking holidays in advance, always last to reply to invites etc. Hard for the children as well when you have to change family plans last minute, play quietly while dad sleeps or works etc. Oh well, I know Dh is a lot happier working this way as he feels "in control" - not sure i do - and he does get ot spend more time with the kids (in theory)

Wow, all of us with these crazy hour husbands. I have only been out in the evenings 6 times in the last 2 1/2 years. My friends alwasy ask me out (well actually they don't anymore!!!!). But i always blow them out because of his last minute work plans. Argghhh...

I really sympathise with everyone who has a dh/dp who works shifts. My dh has recently stopped working shifts after 17 years of it and TBH I feel a huge weight off my shoulders. It has had a huge effect on all of our lives, all positive. Mind you he's had to drop income to do this and living on less than 15K a year is bloody hard. Saying that I felt that with 2 kids that are poor sleepers, a tiny house, shared bedrooms, no family/friend help and starting as a childminder I was close to being carted away by the men in white coats! So the drop in income is worth it. I know thats not the answer for everyone, though

Louise, why don't you consider childminding if you want to be at home.