do you apologise to your children?

[alhambra]

Do you apologise to your children when you lose your rag? Or do you not lose your rag?! (please tell me how, o virtuous mumsnetters, if that's the case). I feel I've got into a pattern recently of losing rag and then apologising. I don't like it, but I think it is right to apologise. My parents never apologised to me for anything they said or did, and I often wished they had.

Same as Beety

I apologise as i think it is good for my dd to know i do make mistakes too.

apologise if I'm in the wrong of course
normal courtesy, expect him to do the same (well mostly, he's only 2.10)

yes i think its a good way to learn to take responsibility for our behaviour - its the only way for them to learn to do the same. i usually give a reason aswell, most of the time its 'sorry mummy is grumpy as i didn't get much sleep last night and i'm really tired'!

Yes I do and I see no problem with it either. We are human and our kids need to know we have bad days too. However I do let them know Im apologising because I went OTT and am NOT excusing whatever behaviour it was that caused the reaction IYSWIM.

yes I do if I think it's me being a moody cow rather than them being naughty. I often explain to my DD (6) that mummy is ratty today because I'm tired, or had a bad day at work and something happened or whatever. I think it's a good thing rather than just ranting wildly and them thinking that's all you ever do.

and.... DD often apologises to me for her moodiness so it obviously works!

Yes, if I have been short with them and got very irritable. Doesn't happen that often but when it does I think it's the right thing to apologise.

Yes

Yes, another apologiser here. Practice what you preach in my book.

My parents were of the never apologise, never explain "old school" too alhambra and despite the fact they were and are great in so many other ways, I have found that hard to deal with.
I do lose my temper with ds and dd and do apologise when I am in the wrong. And then we have a quick chat about why I got cross and how I ought to have handled it. If ds gets cross the same applies to him and will do in due course with dd, but she tends to explain with her teeth and fists being less than 2...

Yes, I do apologise if I think I am in the wrong and I do it quite often. This morning I snapped at poor ds and he was upset, so I said sorry and explained I hadn't had any breakfast yet and was hungry - so we went out an ate croissants.

I apologise if i am in the wrong and try to explain to the dt's what happened. Being polite isn't restricted to the younger generation, imho.

Yes, I apologise and try to explain if I'm in the wrong or if I lose my rag unjustifiably. I think it's important for my dd to realise that even adults make mistakes sometimes, and that she realises that we need to be polite and kind to our families as well as to other people.

As the others have said, if i'm in the wrong i apologise.

Yes, I apologise to ds when I've shouted at him for something trivial when I'm tired. He's short, not stupid!

Yes, i apologise and give a reason. DD will also pre-empt me sometimes by saying "You're being a grumpy mummy. Do you need to lie down on the sofa?"

I apolgise to DS when I have done something wrong. He might be only 19 months but he is still a person.

Yes. Always careful to apologise for my reaction, without excusing their behaviour. My parents never apologised for anything when they were wrong, and tbh I lost respect for them because of it.

Yes me too - I apologise when I lose it BIG time and I know I'm being OTT. As others have said only for my reaction to it - not letting them off for what they've done!

Yes, dh and I both apologise if we lose our tempers and now ds does too.

I always apologise to DS on the very rare occasions i loose my rag even though hes only 10 months, i feel children are human beingto and have feelings aswell so they deserva an apology if your in the wrong.