I officially win worst mum of the day (year?) award

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Oh crappity crap. I am definitely the world's worst mother today. Bought a new watch with a vibrate alarm to wake me up, so it doesn't wake DD2 up as well, and it didn't sodding wake me up. So DH left the house at 6.25am, and I didn't wake up until 7.25am (had earplugs in, which is why I need the alarm set for when DH leaves the house, so I can take over listening out duty). DD2 almost always is awake around 6.30am, so she'd probably been crying for an hour. A whole hour. Poor poor thing . She's only 7 months. She seems OK today, a bit subdued/tired maybe, and she's got a red mark on her hand presumably from where she was sucking her thumb frantically trying to keep happy. Oh god. And DD2 (2.4) said she'd been crying, but she was quiet and seemed asleep when I got up, so possibly not.

Gargh. Someone pass me the hugest self-flaggelation (sp?) tool there is please. x 1000000

Don't know why I'm posting really - don't need anyone to tell me its OK, cause its not. Just want to get it off my chest I suppose.

DD1 (2.4) I mean, doh.

If that's the worst thing you've done, you deserve a medal.

Oh god, now you've got me thinking about things I've done that might be worse. Is it too early for gin?

Oi, get off thats MY award!!

She's a baby, she cried. It happens, a lot. She won't be scarred by it or even remember so you forget about it too. It's not like it's your normal routine is it?

Be extra nice to her today to appease your guilt and remember- A Mother's place is in the wrong!

don't feel bad

I went out to the wheelie bin when ds1 was 2yo got chatting to the neighbour and he closed the door and locked himself in!! I had no keys for either door and he couldn't unlock it, dh was working 2 hours away!

had to borrow a ladder from neighbour up the road and climb in through bedroom window

Oh, I have been SOOOOO nice to both of them today, like you wouldn't believe. DD1 even got 2 stories before her lunchtime nap, unprecedented.

Whichwitch - don't worry, my childminder has done the same, with mindees in the house!! (one of them closed the door on her)

Oh! So your not supposed to leave them crying in the morning while you try to get an extra hour 10 minutes! OOPS!

don't feel bad you are not worse mother... not even nearly. everyone who posts here will have done something worse than that i promise.

AND in our old house the neighbours let their baby cry every morning from 6am to 7am, EVERY DAY for months and months on end. can't believe it was by accident....drove us totally mad

When I read the opening gambit I thought it was going to say that you'd sold the child or something really terrible .

Guilt. Each mother seems to stamp it firmly on their own foreheads!

That award, without doubt, is mine. Find your own award ...

tsk

My 8m ds fell down the stairs the day before yesterday. It was awful even though he was fine - I think because he landed on a princess dressing up dress that was lying half way down and skidded down the rest of the way before landing in a pile of wellies at the bottom of the stairs which broke his fall.

So I am a terrible mother and let my child fall, but it's ok because I am a terrible mother and my house is a tip.

I didn't put my dd pushchair straps on when she was 3, as we came down the step of my house she stood up, fell out & bashed her head on the pavement. Head came up likeit had an egg on it, had to take her to casualty later that night (well 2 in the morning) as she was sick & needed to be checked for concussion. She was fine in the end though.

Also, I put my ds 3 months in a bouncer seat on the side in the kitchen (yes, I know), turned around to talk to dd & heard the most sickening crash. He bounced of the side. He was fine.......

Now who is the worst Mummy?

Mrs malcolm tucker - my dd fell down the stairs when she just turned 1 and broke her wrist all because I forgot to shut the stair gate. I can still hear the thump thump scream.
OP - i know its hard but try not to feel bad - lots of extra cuddles and she's too young to remember and hold it against you.
I like the ear plugs idea though...

I just got married and my dad's speech was themed upon the various scenarios in which I had smashed my head on something throughout childhood. There were at least six stories worth telling.

You've all cheered me right up. Thanks for being such crap mums

Give back my award. I polish daily the trophy as I re-earn it.

On a more serious note though, thinking your DD had been crying for an hour is a real guilty mum type thing to do. (Not criticising you, I'd do exactly the same.) Most blokes (or more specifically, my DH!) would say there was no way she'd cried for an hour, even with earplugs in he'd have heard her, and how lucky she woke up later that day.) Just a thought.

But anyway, hands off, if that's the worst you've done you totally lose this award.

I did a similar thing this morning. I was so tired this morning and didn't hear DD crying. When I went in (after my husband got up and woke me), she said she'd "been crying on her own and Mummy didn't come." Her nappy had leaked and she was soaked wet through. I have no idea how long she was awake...feeling very guilty right now. (Although, in my defence, I am 41 weeks PG and very, very tired...)

Is there any other type of mum than a guilty mum?! Still feeling awful by the way, as the bit on her thumb that was raw from her sucking it so much has now gone red and a bit infected . Good job they don't remember anything before age 3 isn't it?!

don'trunwithscissors - 41 weeks, ouch. A defence that would stand up in any court me thinks. Fingers crossed for you. DD1 was the full 42+1, I feel for you.

The award is MINE! I posted about this last week - my 2.1 year old DS managed to escape out the house. He was wandering the street in several inches of snow wearing only tights and a jumper! Thankfully a neighbour took him in.

Now that should make you feel better.

Don't run - so your husband was already up, and you are 9 months pregnant, and you are beating yourself up because he DIDN'T respond to her and you were too tired to?

Poor effort, try harder!

Butterball you win

It doesn't get better - that trophy is hereby booked for a couple of weeks time when my PFB will be doing school entrance tests without me there to prepare/deliver/collect him because I will be away on business.

That 'guilt' tattoo will be glowing like a death-eaters mark...

Now I don't know whether to shirk in shame at the judgemental finger, or to be happy at winning something!

Why didn't your dh wake you and if you wear ear plugs to sleep in does he always hear the kids if they cry?

I normally leave DS for 15 minutes or so until I get the "stop fucking about and come and get me up" cry. Then I know it's time to get up. Baby is safe in the cot so ok for a wee while whilst you snooze wake up.

I saw a wife swap once where a woman would leave her 18month old in a cot till 1pm with a couple of bottles of milk for her to drink. Now, that is officially worst mum territory.