My sister knows full well how me and DP are trying to bring up our daughters - we are trying to avoid excessive pink, gender stereotyping, etc. We are not OTT I don't think, she does have some fairy dressing up stuff, she has dolls, the baby DD does wear pink frilly dresses, but they also have cars, footballs, etc.
Sister (who I am very close to) bought DD1 this for Christmas. The tiara and so on isn't so bad, it is just dressing up after all, but the heels! I can see my sisters reasoning - DD loves to nick the grown ups shoes and walk about pretending to be mummy or whoever, which imo is totally normal and fine. But now she spends as much time as she can tottering about on horrible plastic pink heels, she can't run or climb, she can't kick a ball, even her dancing to music has changed She has fallen and hurt herself several times and looks really odd walking about in just her nappy and the shoes, as they change her entire posture.
We are staying at my parents till tomorrow, would I be ok to leave the shoes here? But then every time we visited, they would get them out for DD...