I'm having the crappest day :-(

[memoo]

Don't know why I'm writing this because its not like anyone can do anything to help but I'm just having the most shit day i've had since dd was born 10 weeks ago.

I'm so tired, had a really bad night last night. DD just hasn't stopped crying and whinging since 3am. Nothing I do seems to stop it. She won't even feed properly.

I have got to the point where I just had to put her down for 5 minutes in her basket because my stress levels are throught the roof.

So she is now screaming in her basket and I'm sat here sobbing at the computer. what kind of shit mother am I

Will write more in a minute am feeding dd.

Could you put dd in the pram and go for a walk for 10 mins.

Sorry for the crappy start to the day.

thats not a bad idea actually, might do us both some good to get some air, clear my head

I second the getting out as well , it used to make me feel at least slightly more human in those early weeks .

Putting dd down for 5 minutes will not hurt her and you are not a crap mother if you were you wouldn't give a shit about your dd been upset and you wouldn't be posting on here.

I think the walk will do you both good my dc always calm down in the pram and it will blow off some cobwebs.

Try and have a sleep this afternoon if dd has a nap.

right, its actually not a bad day outside so i am going to take the advice and go and have a nice long walk.

Thank you x

You are not shit. If you are feeling stressed out then putting her down somewhere safe for a while is the best thing you can do.

Go for a nice long walk, it will help.

You are welcome I might do the same with my dd instead of cleaning the kitchen .

Don't you dare say you're a shit mother! FWIW I had to put my dd in her room and sob myself last night, and she's NINE. Be a bit kinder to yourself lovie

You will feel better later, I promise.

memoo , I hope that when you get back in you feel a bit better .

I hope you feel better too.
Don't worry about your frustrated and probably on occasion angry feelings. it is so normal. I used to have brief fantasies of throwing dd out of the window Thank goodness I didn't!!!

Oh this is so familiar ..we all have this!!! and it doesnt stop there - i had a similar situation with my 16 yr old the other week i 'left' home cos of him .....(only went to the kebab shop lol).

I really think that a bit of fresh air will be good for you both ,,,,pass by a newsagents and buy a mag and some chocolate too .

oops i put my dd in her hammock for AS LONG AS IT TAKES or else I will go mental! Seriously, if I've fed her, played with her, changed her and chatted and smiled at her and she still screams and there are no needles in her bum I give up.

Bless you. You are doing what just about everyone has done. Totally normal. Totally.

If it happens when the weather is bad, or you are unable to find energy to walk, try stripping her off to her nappy [she won't thank you for that bit] and lying her on your bare chest skin to skin. It's like a big glass of wine for babies. Makes them feel all warm and fuzzy. It can take a while, and you might be lying there for a few hours.
We did this with our dd2, which was like a H-bomb had dropped when she came along. It did calm her and provide a break for all.

Othe tip is have a bath together. Just lie with her on your chest in a warm bath and zen out.

Hang in there. It goes away and gets easier. Gets replaced by toddler tantrums but that's another thread.....

aww tree delivery i like the naked cuddle thing and feel sad i have no babies to do that with any more......

id love that tree.

How are you now?

Hi all and thanks for messages. Walked round the village for ages and then walked to pick the dc up from school.

Baby slept the whole time we were out. She is screaming again now but I feel a lot more able to deal with it after my walk. really did me the world of good.

I'm counting down the hours til DH comes home, will be handing him the baby as soon as he pulls up outside

I am glad you are feeling better now , a nice bath with a glass of wine when dh gets in .

Liking the sound of that Wilbury!

It always helped me , and if you can take some music in with you to drown out everything else going on then all the better .

hi memoo

glad you are feeling better

my dd (now 6 months) was an absolute nightmare for the first 3 months or so. miserable and crying all the time and rubbish at feeding.

i felt terrible coz my ds (aged 3) was an exceptionally easy baby. some days i just felt like i couldnt cope.

and when i felt like that i would simply put her down in her cot safely and have 5 minutes. and always, always made the effort to get out every day because it helps so much.

take care xx

I have fallen into a trap of not going out much but think I need to change that and make an effort to get out every day.

Once I was out I really enjoyed it.

I really appreciate all the messages. I have felt so low today and like the worse mum in the world. It helps so much to talk to people who are or who have been in the same boat.

Thanks to you all!

You are certainly not a bad mum , just a mum and some days it is all just a bit overwhelming .

Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day .

It's also important to follow your instincts. If it feels like a day for staying in, padding about, looking int he drawers at baby clothes - do it. Don't feel under pressure to be out making friends in groups if it is not the day to do so.

If the walls are closing in, the house seems clammy, you feel sticky and trapped - out the door and head off. Even a mooch around TKMax or something can seem like a week abroad on days like that!

If you think there are some feeding type issues going on, there are tonnes of support websites and organisations that would be able to help for sure. Plus mn of course

Well done you, another day down. Another day closer to an easier, more enjoyable place. You'll get there.

Remember to eat well and drink plenty!! Bet you forgot in the hardship of the day