going to be a 'bad' mummy later.........

[QueenOfQuotes]

have to take DS1 to his induction afternoon (2nd one - hoping he doesn't throw up like he did last week LOL) at his new school.........thing is DS2 has his sleep at 1pm-3pm - and the induction afternoon starts at 1.30

So I'm going to put DS2 down for his sleep as usual, at 1.30 on the dot grab the monitor, lock the front door and whizz round to the school to drop DS1 off - then whizz back again

shhh - read the WHOLE thread........it might make more sense

i cant believe this thread is still going on! surley you have already done the deed and its over?

No it hasn't ...................PMSL

Are you back yet, QoQ?"

No.............

was just about to go - looked out of the window and strangely saw no cars parked up the road.........came upstairs and peeked through the window into the school hall where the induction afternoons and held and saw no-one in there..........

Decided to check the letter to make sure it is today..........and discovered his next induction is NEXT Tuesday, with his 3rd and final one the Tuesday after

Just had to explain to a very disappointed 4 3/4yrs old that not only is he not going to school today - but that it's too late to take him to nursery instead.

She added lots of blushes

thanks LGJ

PMSL.........well I may just post to say I've done it

LOL QoQ

i'd just chuck him over the garden wall

I suppose I could if they open the doors to the hall - they shut them last week so they did have any 'stray' children venturing out in to the playground LOL.......although he needs to get his name sticker as he goes through the front door [frown]......suppose I could always make a stick with his name on and chuck him over LOL

Might be worth considering whether the teaching staff would call social services, QofQ. They might feel they have to cover themselves.

I always feel very confused about these dilemmas, myself. I do agree with whoever said there's something different in kind between the outside world and your garden though (not that I have a garden). Something to do with a locked front door, maybe? I think I'd be terrified of mislaying my keys somehow and having to stand outside listening to a distressed son. Objectively the risks do seem very small but subjectively I don't like the idea.

"Might be worth considering whether the teaching staff would call social services, QofQ. They might feel they have to cover themselves."

LOL - I doubt that very much!

Why lol? It's a grey area legally and as you can see from this thread it can push people's buttons as an absolute no-no. If one of the teachers is firmly in the no camp, or if it simply breaches the school's child protection policy (which, technically, it might) they might feel bound to give social services a call. Things like that do happen.

QofQ, you must stop now!!!
SM, it can only breech the school policy if it relates to a school child! School policies do not cover the wider community. (Apart from the one entitiled 'the wider community')

The school don't need to know anyway. For all they know the litle ds might be being babysat and QofQ is an over obsessive mummy who takes the monitor with her even when there is a babysitter present. Or she could hide the monitor in her handbag.

ok queen of quotes its not that bad (probably not neglect(given the situation) and sometimes ive probably done worse bad mummy things
may take this oppertunity to apologise for calling you a scrote its just that your bl*$dy quoting was winding me up but i guess thats why your the queen of the quotes (dont quote me on that !)
hope your ds enjoys his day at school when he finally gets there !

what is a scrote lol

I do hope schools don't take up the habit of bothering busy child protection departments with nuisance calls just to demonstrate an arse-covering process, when SS depts are desperately short of funds and really need to concentrate on ensuring real cases of abuse get investigated. What a waste of their time such a call would be.

How the hell would I get 4 children out of the car at a petrol station?? I have never heard anything so ridiculous! I lock the car and keep an eye on it, surely that is enough?

There seem to be some very over-protective mums on here, Dh and I can't wait to move to our bigger house, so we can sleep down one end of the house and the kids will be down the other end about 40 metres away!!! It's a very long barn!!

Does that makes us bad parents? Obviously would have a monitor for babies, but our 2.5 year wakes us up every night for no bloody reason, so need some space from her... bless her!

I think going to QQQ's school is fine, as I would speak to my neighbours outside with all kids inside, usually with the front door open though so I could hear them. Surely it all depends on the children, we trust ds1 completely, it is dd1 we have to be careful of, she tried to burn the house down, by turning all the knobs of the cooker on and we were in the house at the time!!

Smellymelly, I have 4 kids too and I leave them in the car when I pay for petrol (TBH I can't ever remember getting even ds1 our of the car to go and pay for petrol) but I don't even lock the door! Shock Horror! I can't because if I do, the alarm is set and then any movement from them sets the alarm off! (I know that to my cost). I take the attitude that anyone planning on stealing my car would open the door, take one look at my disreputable children and think better of it! Anyway, if there was an accident and a car careered into mine, I would want the doors unlocked so that the rescue services could extract my children faster.

enid scrote as in short for scrotum -not usually a term of endearment

charliep she never got there its next week ...

Please everyone, I wasn't trying to suggest that you all cart 4 children across a petrol forecourt. Ok example: woman comes in to pay, 3 children in car. The 2-3 year old gets out and runs across forecourt to get mummy. Woman's reaction: ' oh she's never got out before!'. Let's face it kids surprise us. They learn new things every minute of everyday. BTW this child was about 4 feet from the bonnet of a car. I'm just saying it's safer to stay with them. Many garages will help parents and for that matter disabled drivers.
I'm sorry of I sounded nagging but that's just my opinion.
Mind you having said that, I do live in Basildon???!!!!!

I can lock my car on the alarm then press another button to turn off the inside sensors...

Dh left my keys in the ignition the other day at a petrol station, NO KIDS INSIDE though, and I had such a go at him. Some how the car locked on him, and he had to run home to get the spare set!!

Left ds1 in the car in a car park once to go to shop, the car was in sight and when I came back to the car an off duty policeman was there, he advised me not to do it again as people who nick cars do not care if there is a child inside, and he has a point! So I don't do that unless I'm in my village where ev3ryone knows my car... But I think a petrol station is pretty safe, I wouldn't leave them in the car on a main road for fear of an accident, but at 2 miles an hour in a petrol station????

I should be able to demobilise the alarm but I haven't worked out how yet (after two years!)

I suppose you have to consider each person's individual circumstances. None of my children have ever got out of the car to follow me. I usually tell them not to move let alone get out. Three of mine are old enough to do as they are told and I know they will. The youngest is too young perhaps to understand, but if he tried to get out, I feel pretty sure one of the others would stop him. TBH, he wouldn't get out because he would want to share in the fun with the others.

I know policemen would advise against leaving children in the car and that does make me think, but I also know that criminals know there is a big difference between stealing a car and kidnapping four children. I guess we all have to decided what risks we are prepared to take in life.

I think of it as protecting my car. After all, who would want to steal a car with a three year old in it?

There was a car that was nicked recently, with a child in it while the mum was talking to her neighbour. I saw in on GMTV I think, so it can happen.

I guess we all need to make up our own minds on how far we need to protect our kids, and that is coming from someone who is paranoid about everyone out to harm her children!!

Something similar happened near where my Mum lives. The person who stole the car apparantly panicked and dumped the car with the baby in it. Luckily, it wasn't a hot day like today and someone found her very quickly. (The person obviously thought s/he was just stealing a car, not a baby too.)