SODDING TERRIBLE TWOS - tolerance at Zero.....

[Sax]

I am just soooooo peed off with my two yr old ds. A couple of weeks ago we had a sudocreme episode where he smothered it over absolutely everything - as you all know its a bloody buggar to get out of carpets etc, water resistant and all - anyway i haven't bought anymore at the mo. but today he got hold of the diprobase and has done the same bloody thing - God its going to be a long day. Sorry, just having a moan.

Girls can drive you crazy, too. DD is 2. At most meals this week, she has thrown her meal (sometimes someone else's, too) onto the floor. She does it with a calm, inquiring expression, as if to say, 'What will happen when I do this?'

We have tried using the naughty step for misbehaviour. It usually works, though not for this week's plate-throwing phase.

Still screaming at full pelt - I'm not feeling like I'm coping at this minute...hope it stops soon.....

Sax

hun, how are you know?

i can't ignore it - I don't know what to do???

i'm sweating, feel like shit --not good

OH Sax I am there with you. My 2 yo has suddenly started throwing tantrums about the smallest thing. It is so nerve wracking waiting for the next tantrum to erupt. What is your ds doing now?

Try putting them each in bed and just walking away. They're contained and you can stuff cotton in your ears and go in the bathroom or wherever for some peace and quiet!

keeps pointing into washing machine trying to stop it, in between throwing himself on floor and screaming full pelt.....sweating lots now

he sleeps in a bed, he won't stay there

its only a bloody tantrum - why can't I deal with it......?

Soemtimes I will say (calmly - difficult but that's the important part) " DS, you are acting silly and I have other things I need to do right now." and then I just walk away. It actually works!

God i'm so stupid, shouldn't be washing his toy in the day - this is going to last til I get it out - should I just stop the wash, I can't stop sweating and feeling very panicy

Sometimes you do have to choose your battles. With being so upset yourself, maybe stop it and just say, "Mummy didn't realize you would be so upset by giving your toy a bath."

everywhere I go he's following me, ds3 in a state too now and ds1 is getting wound up (he's worse when things aren't calm) so I think this is icing on the cake for my state of mind - god this is so stupid

sax when my ds was 2 he did a poo on the floor and then proceded to open and close the door over the poo until it was all nice and even on the carpet just like spreading nutella.he was also king of tamtrums but at that age i still found dd more hard work,ds will sit and play with his cars for ages while dd never played with toys she was always up and down the stairs,opening drawers,taking all the clothes out,dressing and undressing and just touching everything she wasn't supposed to touch.
it does get better at 3

Cant you put them all outside with a ball or something, a bit of distraction?

think I'll shut myself in toilet for a minute and hope ds3 is OK for a minute- he's a little calmer - ds2 still screaming though

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Good idea. Maybe put ds3 in a cot or something. Dh had to take my ds outside the other day so I could have a time-out. Felt like I was going to snap!

I can't think straight, outside is the obvious thing - ds1 now out there and happy, ds2 will not move from spot - stil thrashing around!

I've now made things worse - said we were going to get dressed (I've got ds1 and ds3 dressed but so damned unmotivated not got me or ds2 dressed) so he is copping even more and its making me shout at him - I am not doing very well, I should be able to cope with this!

Are you trying to get him dressed to go outside? Is it warm enough to put him out in whatever he's wearing (or nothing at all )?

Is he getting attention for behaving like this?

Huggy you are kind - you wouldn't hear me anyway through the noise and i have a problem talking to people - hence the 'letter to gp' not me making that appoint. (you probably haven't read my other thread!) however he's getting tired so the decibells are getting slighly less

no i'm ignoring him! its making him really cross - i always ignore his tantrums but I'm just not feeling strong enough to cope with this one - I know it sounds so silly