Teenage mum CAN ANYONE HELP ME?

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Can anyone help? I'm 18 and 24 weeks pregnant, need some friendly people to talk to. Not just about pregnancy but everything. Life's pretty crap at the moment and i really need some girly support.

STM - Not at all! Just that a baby can really change your perspective on things, thats all.

I don't think you sound like a horrible person - you have ever right to be angry.

I do think though that when you have children you have to make everything about them - you have to be totally unselfish. This is about your son having a father - not about how badly he's treated you.

Noah's a great name! Definately sting him for maintenance, sounds like he needs a kick up the bum and to realise how tough being pregnant and a mum is, especially by yourself.... I bet you'll amaze yourself at how well you can cope though, family support can mean so much.

I don;t agree, there's a lot more negatives, he certainly doesn't have enough mony to himself through a month, let alone to pay maintenance, he was the worst thing that ever happened to me, evne before all this kicked off. I just don;t want my son to have anyone like that in his life, it;s bad enough that he's only going to have a mum but to have a dad like him.

I looking forward to telling him about mummy and daddy and the situation, not making his dad out to be a w*er, but just to cover his eyes to what actually happened

I agree with sweetheart and good luck

Thanks Fio

STM - Well, you know him best and he doesn't sound that responsible.

Noah is a lovely name.

Put it this way, he's 29, still living with his parents, been on the doll for five years!

Thanks i like it to

Thanks everyone, you've all been really cool.

oh STM - He sounds lovely... Just enjoy your pregnancy. You're not alone and thats the important thing. Soon you'll have a delicious wee bundle of gargly chubbiness who loves you unconditionally.... and sometimes poos on you.

Being a Mum is fab.

I'm obviously giving advice on limited information so sorry if I am jumping the gun.

If you don't believe this man can give your son any of the things he needs (not just money but love and a dependable father figure etc etc) then I'm sure your making the decision you think is best for your son.

I know that I personally would hate living with the stigma that everyone thought the child was someone elses. But you obviously have a very loving family and that is fantastic.

i know, i can't wait to have hm in my arms. Am hating he leaky nips, guess i'll have to get used to that!! lol

I appreciate all your advice Sweetheart. That's why i started a conversation. I believe in asking advice from more experienced people, especially mum's, they always know best

well whatever the outcome is I can promise you that being a mum at 18/19 is definatly not the end of the world - it's absolutly bloody fantastic - and don't let anyone else tell you any different!!!

Good luck with your babba!!!

Thanks sweetheart. i'm definately looking forward to it

I've enjoyed it so much I've come back for another go!!!

6 months and counting till my next new arrival!!!

am I allowed to still consider myself a "young mum" at 24???

Guess teenage mum is out the window

I think you can. You're definately not an old mum!

Have you had you're first scan yet?

ohh pheeewwwww - thanks goodness!!!

I've had my 1st scan - have another one booked on Thursday. I'm quite nervous about it.

Hey! I'm still classing myself as a young Mum and I'm 27!

Why you nervous? I was just a bit anxious with mine

Put it this way you;re not 60 are you? lol

I lost a baby in January. He died at 13 weeks but we didn't find out till gone 16 weeks. If this scan is OK this bean will have lasted longer than our last one so it's a bit of a stressful time.

I was supposed to go today but with it being dd's birthday tomorrow I decided to pospone it for a few days.

o i'm really sorry to hear that hun.

how old is you're little one?

Of course your a young mum Toothache!!!