people with 3 or more kids - which camp are you in?

[warthog]

i'm thinking about no. 3 although not really keen. dh is very keen. i've chatted to a lot of people with 3 or more kids and there seem to be 4 camps:

a) barely noticed no. 3 - they slotted right in.
b) no. 3 was a breeze because the other two entertained each other while i could get on with baby.
c) total complete f*ing nightmare. only just getting head above quagmire 10 years on.
d) none of the above.

which camp are you?

my eldest was 8 and my ( now middle ) was 6 when number 3 arrived. I foolishly thought 3 would be the same as when 2 arrived, like u said just slot in. However, I think because of school and social commitments of 1 and 2 I found it significantly more difficult. She is 3 now, and its a lot easier

139 - did i read that right? you had a CS under GA?!?!?!?!?!?!!

that sounds barbaric?! what the hell happened?

The jump from 1 to 2 was much, much harder than the jump from 2 to 3. I'm very gald we made the leap.

A. Both dd3 and then dd4 just fitted in straight away!

CS under GA - that means c-section under general anaesthetic. Not enough time to give an epidural presumably.

Forgot to add - Ds has more or less slotted in with the family so A) for me.

1 was desperate for number 3, 2 didn't care as too young, hubby and I very excited.

It has been so hard.

But, 2 wasn't enough and he has completed our family.

of course belgo. thought it was a bit barbaric...

b - six year gap between dd2 and dd3

You have to look beyond the first months, though. It was tough with 3 under 5s, and my oldest is genearally my dippiest in terms of getting dressed, remembering things, being organised, which didn't help.

But the 3rd did slot right in after the initial grind, and having small gaps has made it easier once she got beyond babyhood. now they are 9, 7, 5 and very compatible in what they like doing, how they play, they are constant company for each other. That makes things easy now. Any activity, or film, or event, is suitable for all 3. And they often all get invited to the same party or to someone's house together. Bigger gaps mean that's less likely to happen.

C)

But, emerging from the quagmire, it has been worth it!