Does anyone else ever get the urge to just run screaming from their life as a SAHM?

[Olihan]

I'm just hoping what I'm feeling at the moment is normal and someone else can understand where I'm coming from.

I have 3 dcs of 5.6, 3.10 and 2.6. I'm a SAHM and have been since I stopped teaching when ds1 was born, so 5 and a half years.

I know in some ways I am very lucky that I don't have to work but the sheer drudgery and monotony of life is starting to send me a bit doolally.

The constant nagging to get them up and dressed in the morning, the horrific 5 minutes as we try to leave the house for the school walk, the constant mithering for food, the fighting, the permanent mess, the fact that I have no time or space to myself, the never ending washing/drying/ironing/putting away, cooking decent healthy meals from scratch that end up in the bin, spending hours trying to come up with meals that they might eat, the battle every night to get them into bed.

It's so bloody wearing.

I don't wish I hadn't had them, I love them more than life but at the moment I just want to suspend my life, go back to being single, childfree and remember who I used to be.

Tell me I'm not alone in this, please?

Collection in South Wales please... just cleaned the kitchen for the 5th time today...made night bottles for twins...trying to order new school uniform for eldest dd who starts reception in Sept...passive pile of ironing and washing (on the last clean vest for twins which actually belongs to 1 of my friends)...

what time am I being picked up????

Agree with all of those who say the time with DCs is more appreciated for a little separation.
Also feel often that I am not cut out for this.
I have mummy aquaintances who are sad that their DCs are off to school, who love the school holidays because they will have their 'sweet children' home all the time and who do craft and activities. I ain't one of them.
When I had an 18m old, 3yr old and 8 yr old DP would go to his sport club twice a week, often work late or be out for a drink with his mates and I would be alone at home and just feel trapped. I got him to pay for a night class for me in a subject I love and it saves my sanity.
That is another thing-money.
Can't wait for bus to toot at the end of my road.

Swing the coach through to Edinburgh. I have always fancied going to New Zealand.

I have tidied, cleaned and scrubbed the house all day, however, the place still looks like a tip.

Olihan I used to be the manager of a hotel (before DCs) and middle aged men, with kids, always seemed to really enjoy their nights away. What with the bar, nice food etc. You did right to give him short shrift.

DH used to phone me at about 10pm when I'd just about sat down having done all those jobs that can only be done once the dcs were in bed and tell me about his evening. Or moan about how noisy the room was so how hard it was going to be to sleep. This was when I was up at least 5 times every night with ds2. He genuinely didn't know why I used to get cross .

I think the coach trip just to pick people up will be quite nice, very scenic. I do like the idea of ending up in New Zealand. Are we flying First Class?

What time is the London pickup?

At least when I worked I could go to the toilet on my own, without having to leave the door part way open, without having the door fully opened, without hearing a sudden high pitched "Help Mummy, I'm stuck!"

Oh, and whatever happened to that pre-child plan where I was going to sit in the park reading each day, whilst the little cherubs just played happily in front of me?

Ohhh! Can I come too! The constant shouting of 'muuuuuummmmmmmmyyyyyyyy' every 6 seconds is starting to grate a little.

I love my dd's (2 1/2 yrs and 9 weeks) but I recently seem to be spending a lot of time in close contact with poo.

Despite being one of those single women who used to think that they wouldn't allow their children to watch TV, it's funny how I now think what a truly marvellous invention cbeebies is. I mean, how on earth would I get any food on the table at the end of the day without having 10 mins respite from the marvels of 'timmy time'? (Also, the pingu, brum, lazytown and peppa pig DVD's spend far too much time on my TV....)

I really don't have a preference on destination. However, I probably would change my mind about going as soon as the bus engine started. I'd miss them to much, despite this daily drudgery of bloody cleaning and laundry - they still make my heart melt!

DH is SAH dad. He definitely needs significant amounts of "time out" at the week end when I can take the kids out of his hair. It must be awful if your DP works away and can't give you any time off at all.
However brilliant they are, it is relentless. DH was caught the other day singing a version of the the Corrs "we are so young now" that went "there is so much mess, there is so much so much mess. And when tomorrow comes, we will do it all again. And it really doesn't matter if you clear the floor, 'cause when tomorrow comes we will just make more..."
Plus he needs a bit of adult conversation.

reesie Beebies ia the best!

spoken from on ehangin bay a thread....

do you really think work is an escape?

Ohhh can I join this. My DD is 7 months old and just learned to crawl and has been baby led weaning for a month. Oh the mess! Everyone tells me it just gets worse but the constant drain and monotony is killing me.

All day, feed, clean, clean clean and play the "stand up, sit down, climb up mummy's legs, pick me up mummy game" over and over. I have given birth to a limpet.

Then Dh gets in and we do the dinner routine, more cleaning and she goes to bed and then he siddles over on the sofa putting his arms around me and i screech
"geeeetttt offfff meee!!!!" I've had someone attached to my body all day and then he think's its his turn.

I have no family here and all friends are at work and what I wouldnt give for just one hour, alone, with a book in the silence!
Then Dh says if you dont like it you can always go back to work and I just feel so guilty. Guilty that thousands of mothers would love to be a SAHM and I want to walk and walk and walk...

Thank goodess for this thread as it makes me feel quite normal!

i am not a SAHM, i will be honest and say i actually go work to get out the house
i love my dc but i find it a very isolating time, and i work to get some adult company!
i get no me time at all as have no family around, and find the constant cleaning,washing,feeding very monotimus to be honest. so take heart ladies, i think most women feel like this.

DoctorsWife - ah yes, I can identify with that one! DH gets home and wants to grope at me, cos he's a horny 17-yo in a 36-yo body, and I just don't want to be touched cos the DDs have been all over me all day, invading my 'bubble' and I just want to be left alone! Poor man tries to be sympathetic and not take it personally but I think it upsets him when I reject his advances!

Work is definitely an escape for me, although I only work sporadically, part-time, at the moment. I did, in fact, run away last week for two whole days, to do some work in peace and quiet and also to gird my loins for the onslaught of the summer hols. Extracting myself from the family for two days took a raft of planning, but, god, it was worth it. No one to think about but myself for 48 whole hours. I am going to insist on one or two of these a year as I have been Mrs. Cheerful and Mummy Fabulous since I got back.

ok. I've packed cocktail making equipment for the journey. Who's first and what can I get you?!

pimms and lemonade for me

god,2 days away, how great i would settle for 2 hours

great thread, love reading all these posts!

Oooh make mine a pint of margherita with crushed ice and a straw please.

I would say G&T but I think a Sex on the Beach may be a little more frivolous (and less reminiscent of the dcs' teatime).

Any chance of a seat from Dorset?

I'm beginning to realise I've cocked up on my age gaps! At the moment I have a baby, a toddler and a teenager, I don't know who's the worst . Throw in two 6 year olds for good measure and it's no wonder I'm going slowly insane!!

Good God Snorris

gardeningmum, beachcomber and Olihan - sorry for the terrible service.....your drinks are coming up right away

[Makemine quickly rustles up drinks and trundles up and down the aisle of the coach with clinking tray...]

Anyone else?

Anyone, anyone? Mixing up a lovely Cosmopolitan right now. Any takers?!

Silky, what you having when you get on? I can mix it up ready for you!