Can someone please give me some stories of very close siblings who have more than a 2 year age gap?I need to know it will all work out

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Bonkers as it sounds.

Thing is, there was only 17 months between me and my brother and we have always been really close,were best mates as teeny kids...

When ds was 13 mo I got pg and was so happy as my kids would be close in age,ds would be 22mo when dc2 born,everything felt 'right' (not just based on my closeness with my brother,it just felt like everything fell into place iyswim)

However I had a mmc diagnosed at 12 week scan,was a total shock and to cut a long story short I lost that pg and for various reasons which are fairly shite have not been able to ttc since...tho think am up for it now!

So...at least a...umm...27 month gap (I think?) even if I got pg tomorrow...

Surely this whole 'right age gap' thing is bollocks anyway,doesn't it depend on the kids? (pleading emoticon)

Sorry for the self indulgent ramble x

28 months between my dd's and although they can have the occasional squabble, they love each other and enjoy spending time with one another.

There was a 6 year gap between my brother and I - we were very close when young, then I was the annoying little sister until I was about 16 and we then became incredibly close .. until he died at 33. I don't think the age gap is relevant - more your upbringing and nature to be honest. Just growing up together in a happy household helps the children bond through bickering when young and then uniting against parents as they get older!

It really shouldn't be an issue. There is 3 years between me and my bro and 5 years between me and my eldest bro. We are all very close and always have been. Dh's bro's are 6 years and 8 years older than him, they too all are close and get on like a house on fire. My best friend is one of 5, the eldest is 7 years older than her and the youngest is about 15 years younger than her, they are all really close

I think it definately depends on the kids rather than the gap, good luck ttc!

My dcs, dd 5.9 and ds 2.9 are incredibly close. My dd has a best friend and cousin with the same 3 year age gap with their younger siblings and they are also partners in crime.

It's really lovely to watch.

There's 7 years between me and my sister, and whilst it took a while, (until I was about 16) we are now the bestest friends...and I honestly don't know what I would do without her...

There's just over 4 years between my eldest dd and my DTs, and I can only hope that they have the relationship that me and my sis have now...

poorbuthappy, 16 is about the age when my brother and I started to really get on!

I am nearly 5 years younger than my sister, and we are and always have been very close, we played together all the time when younger, and shared a flat when we were older. It's more down to personality, and what happens in your life than the gap (IMO!)

I have 3 girls 22,19 and 17There is a 2 years 8 month gap between DD1 and 2 and 3 years 1 month between DD2 and 3. There have been occaioss in thier lifes when they haven't got on nut on the whole they all get on with each other. DD1 and 2 have quite a close relantionship with each other although that did change a bit when DD1 went off to university.

My two boys are 3.4 years apart and do very well together. I have two brothers, one is 10 years older and another is 12 years older. I have also been very close to both of them. It will be fine

Some theories abound that we're not 'meant' to have the second until the first is not just mobile, but mobile enough not to need lots of carrying - so when the first is age four or five. I have also read attachement theory ideas that, for older boys at least, an age gap of over three years is preferable. So having a bigger age gap could be beneficial, rather than detrimental.

In practice, I expect it's possible to have a great and/or awful relationship with a sibling, regardless of age gap. My brother and I are 19 months apart and he and I fought throughout our childhoods, but get along well now. My sister is five years younger than me, and we got on famously as children.

If you set the best backdrop you can for your kids to forge a loving bond - getting lots of support and rest yourself, having fun with your children, providing a happy home, etc - I think you'll have done pretty much all you can to facilitate this. The rest would be up to them.

There is more than 8 years between my Dc's and they absolutely adore one another. Ds will be 11 in August and Dd is 2.6 now. I don't think though that age gaps per se have much to do with anything. I believe that they either will or they wont get on. My brother and I have 2.9 years between us and I loved him as a baby, hated him as a child and now in our 40's we get on really really well.

I understand the fears of the OP. We are likely to have a 3-4 year age gap mainly because I haven't felt ready to try again yet but I have always worried that this will be too big. Of course what everyone on here has said is true and it doesn't really matter as you can't predict personalities. Plus the affect of age gaps in adulthood are negligible really, and childhood is such a relatively short period in your life, more important to get on as adults, and as this thread has suggested you relationship as children doesn't necessarily determine your relationship adults.

Good luck!

There is 6 years between my 2 DD's (not through design) and the younger absolutely idolises the elder, the elder is a great help though does get irritated by her (though she is only 18 months at the moment) - I have great hopes they will be good close friends

I am extremely close to my sister who is 7 years older than me. Wouldn't change the age gap for the world, it meant we avoided all the petty rivalry which can go with being close in age. I idolised her as a child and she adored me and now she is my best friend in the world.