Preschool in september and still in nappies - what happens if there's no change by then?

[FenellaFudge]

DS is 3.2 and showing absolutely no signs of wnating to get out of nappies.
I am trying to maintain a balance between encouraging him and not turning it into an issue for him.
(Have also posted this in Preschool topic.)

I'm generally of the belief that he'll let me know when he's ready and that it's best to work with him rather than deciding the time myself and expecting him to fall in with it.
I'm now worrying about his preschhol placement for september. I assume he cant be in nappies when he goes? Or even if he can then he'd possibly be a bit of an oddity?
I dont want to postpone preschool, he's been with me since he was born and i think now is the time and he'd really get something out of it.
Anyone had any experience of this?
Is it at all feasible that a child can go from completely disinterested in toilet training to reliably in pants in th space of 3 months?

Somewhere in all that legislation it says about young children with continence issues ie pre schoolers stil in nappies in layman's terms

Sorry I can't find it , really bugging me

I know at my ds's mainstream nursery, which is part of the school they strongly encourage children to be fully potty trained, but children do go that are not...

One of the reasons I have heard, is to do with staff ratios, so if a child needed to be changed that would take a member of staff out of the room, and the staff to children ratio would be wrong... health and safety issues etc... this would not usually be a problem with children with a disability, because they would have a one to one support worker.

[[http://www.teachernet.gov.uk/docbank/index.cfm?id=12628 EYFS Framework (May 2008) says:
"providing for equality of opportunity and anti-discriminatory practice and ensuring that every child is included and not disadvantaged because of ethnicity, culture or religion, home language, family background, learning difficulties or disabilities, gender or ability;"

"There should be at least one toilet and one hand basin for every ten children over the age of two. Except in childminding settings, there should normally be separate toilet facilities for adults. There should be adequate washing and toileting facilities for children who stay overnight.
There should be suitable hygienic changing facilities for changing any children who are in nappies and providers should ensure that an adequate supply of clean bedding, towels, spare clothes an any other necessary items are always available. Children should not be allowed access to any laundry facilities that are provided on site."

So I would say that if the pre-school refused to take a child due to their lack of ability to control their bowel, then to me that goes against the aims of EYFS (ensuring every child is included).

Not sure what you can do about it... keep your son's place, send him in nappies and see what happens. Then kick up a fuss with the pre-school, local media and Ofsted.

from the other thread

"providing for equality of opportunity and anti-discriminatory practice and ensuring that every child is included and not disadvantaged because of ethnicity, culture or religion, home language, family background, learning difficulties or disabilities, gender or ability;"

Soooo, "ability" surely covers a child who has no medical issue but just hasn't got out of nappies yet.

Woohooo!!

Thanks so much.

As I said, not sure I'd want to send him if he's not toilet trained and certainly want him to be anyway (fed up with nappies - and my mother droning on about it) but either way, I'm not happy that the Headmaster told all us new parents that only toilet trained children could be accepted when that's just not the case, dont like being lied to by someone in their professional capacity iyswim. So that's great, will definitely be bringing this up on Monday (they're doing the home visit).