Tell me about things that are better with two DCs than with one...

[LenniEd]

So no.2 is now 5mo and DD is 2.5yo and I'm starting to get a bit down about the divide and conquer approach that seems to have become the norm around here - i.e. me usually stuck nursing DS whilst DH plays/swims/generally does fun things with DD. Please can you tell me about all the lovely things to come that are better when you've got two...

Thanks for this thread - I'm about to have DD2 and guilt tripping myself that I won't be able to give DD1 enough mummy daughter attention, and yes I know that people have been having more than one child for millions of years but...[paranoid anxious 3rd Trimester emoticon ]

It's nice to hear that there are more positives than negatives!

Good luck Quiltedrose !

I am soooooo glad I have just found this thread. It has really made my day to know I am not the only one.

My DD1 is 17 months and DD2 is 1 month old. Been around family a lot but I feel really like I am missing out when they are all having great fun with DD1 (she is at a lovely stage at the moment and is so funny). I am usually just sitting BF . That is the one time I wish I was bottle feeding. Maybe I should start expressing everytime I go and see people, which would be good to get DD2 used to bottles and being fed by others too.

I find that it is just impossible to go to toddler groups on my own. DD1 is just too young to be left to get on with it and gets knocked over by the older kids. Same with the park - she needs my help with everything which is fine if I am lucky and DD2 sleeps in the pram but so far it hasn't. I did the park on my own for the first time yesterday and it just didn't work. DD1 came home injured and misserable and DD2 spent most of the time crying, I spent most of my time trying to do far too much and I came home more tired than I have been for a long time. Won't be doing that anytime soon! Need DH or somebody with me!

Glad to know things to get better!

The way they make each other laugh. And cuddle each other. DD1 is 2.4 and DD2 11 months - it's not too far off for you, I promise LenniEd.

Mine are doing 'yoga' together on the wii fit, they look soooo cute!

Yeah, agree with most posters here - first year can be hard, but then it's brilliant.

Thank you for this. Have a 4 week old bfing constantly and a very jealous 2.5 yr old. I am tandem feeding and seem to do nothing but feed. I've had a bloody hard week and wondered if it is all worth it and now I know that it is.

llaregugub It's so hard (DS1 used to whack DS2 on the head when I was feeding him), but it gets better and better.

I can't imagine having one DC now.

Just try and stay super calm with DC1.