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do you just know how many children you are going to have?

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booyhoo · 01/05/2009 20:31

ive always wanted a large family, but when ds was born, i had separated from his dad and just presumed that he would be my only child. not bothered by that at all, we have a very special bond however. his dad and i are now back together and expecting no2 in around 3 weeks. we are very happy about this however throughout this pregnancy i have just been feeling as though i never want to go through it again. i hate being so tired and grumpy with ds. i cant imagine wanting to do it again, yet i know i will want more children. does that make sense to anyone? and has anyone else felt the same?

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Chatkins · 01/05/2009 20:33

I think thats totally normal, the last slog of pregancy is awful! Then there's the birth to get through. Iv'e got 3 and I said 'never again' after each of them. But within weeks r months I was feeling broody again. I feel like I I will have four, I have always wanted four, and feel like someone is missing until I do. Weird, I know!

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booyhoo · 01/05/2009 20:36

i dont have a figure in mind, i just know as one of two myself that i want my children to have friends at home aswell as outside. any friends i had that had big families always seemed so full of fun, never dull at their houses. and they are all now really close as adults. my sis and i never were close.

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PortoPandemico · 01/05/2009 20:37

Yes, just the one. Unless there is a happy accident . I'm getting on a bit thoug....

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juuule · 01/05/2009 20:40

Ha ha. No.

I'd planned 2 before I had any.
Then I wanted one more, and one more, and one more.....ended up with 9.
If you had told me that before I had any I would have thought you were mad.

FabulousBakerGirl · 01/05/2009 20:41

I knew that baby three would be three and four.

scribblehead · 01/05/2009 20:42

Always thought I wanted 3 kids, (I'm one of 3). Then through the first 6 sleepless, poo filled months with DS2 I said never, never, never again. DS2 is 8 months now and I think we're going to start trying for the thrird.

juuule · 01/05/2009 20:44

"i cant imagine wanting to do it again, "

I think that's a pretty standard way to feel with just 3 weeks to go. It doesn't last (well not for some anyway). Enjoy your last few weeks of this pregnancy and see how you feel after this one is born. Don't spoil these last weeks feeling that you want something that you feel (at the moment) you can't have. It's all different after the birth. Look forward to this little one being born

My haha at the beginning of my last post wasn't at your situation by the way. Sorry if it might have looked that way.

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booyhoo · 01/05/2009 20:46

not at all juule, im just wondering where i would put 9!!! how do you cope? have you got grey hair cause my mum blames us for hers, and she only has two!

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juuule · 01/05/2009 20:48

"have you got grey hair "

No....the dye covers it up nicely, thank you

scribblehead · 01/05/2009 20:48

I would probably tear all hair out with 9. Am definitly not organised enough.

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booyhoo · 01/05/2009 20:50

yeah thats another thing, are you very organised. im useless with one!!!!

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scribblehead · 01/05/2009 20:51

Am one of three girls and both sisters share same birthday, (not twins). Party tommorow. Have to go ice two cakes now. Maybe just one sibling would be better!

tigerdriver · 01/05/2009 20:52

I wanted some. Was pg with one. Realised that being pg at 39 was not a ball. At all. Realised that I wasn't going to have another.

One is fun. He's now 7 so without a lot of intervention there will be no more. If I were 10 years younger, then maybe one would be four. Or maybe it wouldn't be. It's not easy to rationalise or to plan.

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booyhoo · 01/05/2009 21:03

you see i keep saying no more after this one and OH says thats fine by him so will get the snip, but then i say, " i might change my mind in a while, dont do it!"

JUULES are you a SAHM/part time worker/full time worker? i work part time and find it a real juggling act.

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booyhoo · 01/05/2009 21:04

thats really nosey of me, im sorry, ignore that juules.

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juuule · 01/05/2009 21:17

I'm not overly organised (at all?) I used to be but gave up after a while. Now just the bare minimum.

I'm Sahm now but worked full-time with 1 and part time until expecting no4. The juggling got too much.

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booyhoo · 01/05/2009 21:36

i am in awe juules, ( as if you cant tell) i imagine your house is loads of fun. youd probably say different but thats what i imagine. both my grans had nine but that was in the fifties, i dont know anyone with such a large family nowadays.

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blueshoes · 01/05/2009 21:52

I just wanted the minimum, 2, in my case.

Tidey · 01/05/2009 21:58

We have two, and although deep down I would love another, we have neither the room nor the money, so that's it for us. I always wanted two anyway

random · 01/05/2009 22:01

I wanted 2 ...got 2 ...nine years later got a 3rd lovely suprise he was

ingles2 · 01/05/2009 22:06

I wanted 3,
very nearly had 4,
now have 2,
still want 3.

Sakura · 02/05/2009 03:25

I wanted 4 so I started early (pregnant at 24)
Had DD, got a shock at the birth!! Got a shock at the pregnancy too- now I admire any woman who has gone through it. Where I come from women just have loads of babies- they seem to just pop them out one after the other. But after having DD I realised there is a bit more to it than that! I am a SAHM, but the sleepless nights killed me, and the not having time to just be by yourself.
I swore she would be my last.
However now I am pregnant with my second. It may be my last...or maybe not

womblingfree · 04/05/2009 18:56

I wanted 4, until I had DD.

Love her more than life itself and if I had to do it all again to get her I would in a heartbeat, but do it all again to produce a 'new' person...

..no thanks!

Was kind of hoping for a happy accident until at Christmas I thought we'd had one and wasn't v. happy about the idea at all.

ChocFudgeCake · 05/05/2009 21:56

No plans here. I'm in pregnancy number 6, but lost one baby and had 2 m/c. So have 2 children and 1 on the way. I go for "whatever God sends" But my mum and rest of the family are quite sure that I had enough (not that they babysit or anything ).
Probably after this baby is born I'll go mad because I am not organized at all. But, hey! my children look happy.

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