do you just know how many children you are going to have?

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ive always wanted a large family, but when ds was born, i had separated from his dad and just presumed that he would be my only child. not bothered by that at all, we have a very special bond however. his dad and i are now back together and expecting no2 in around 3 weeks. we are very happy about this however throughout this pregnancy i have just been feeling as though i never want to go through it again. i hate being so tired and grumpy with ds. i cant imagine wanting to do it again, yet i know i will want more children. does that make sense to anyone? and has anyone else felt the same?

I always knew I was going to have a couple of kids.

Got to scan for dd1 and discovered that it was actually going to be a ds1, at which point I burst into tears and realised that it had never occured to me that I might have boys, I had always 'known' I was going to have girls.

so figured that I would have a boy and then a girl and that would be ok. got to scan for dc2 and discovered that it was going to be another boy. of all my friends /relations/ etc I am the only person I know that has more than one child and does not have at least one dd which makes me feel like a big failure.

hated every moment of being pregnant, was fairly poorly after ds2 was born but first thought on him being born was 'oh bugger GOT to go through this all again'.

Don't get me wrong, I love my boys but it just feels wrong somehow, like I am in the wrong family or have slipped into a parallel universe where everything is the same but not quite.

just hit the big 40 so not sure if there will be a dc3 or not, if there is, that will be great but strange too as I grew up as one of two so that is what feels normal to me. On the other hand, dh is one of six so very glad that he doesn't want to have another 4!

i have always wanted 3/4 kids and still do...

i have 1 DD and 4 MC under my belt so still chasing the dream...

zigzag dont feel sad for not having a DD yet. you never know what is around the corner and there are ALOT of people unable to even have just one child so any child is a blessing il bet you wouldnt change your DS's for the world (BTW i know how it feels to have a touch of gender dissappointment as i truelly thought DD was going to be DS but alas she was who i was meant to have as my DC and i was made to be her mummy just as you are made for your DS's and they to you
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I only ever wanted 2, got steralized, then got another dd! I had a lot of thinking to do on that one, money, bedrooms, time! Turns out, 3 is just as tiring as 2, and now that she's passed the baby stage, she's a ball of fun and love. I know that sounds a bit gushy, but for about a year I resented her a little. Glad no 3 came along

I thought 3 would be nice, had 2 and thought wow, don't want to do that again (ds2 came very quickly) and then somehow I've ended up with 4...and think if I even mentioned being the idea of another again my dh would probably leave me!! (I'm not broody, at all, love my boys but want a life with dh once they're grown!)

During my 2nd pregnancy I knew I wanted another, during my 3rd I knew it was my last.