Did you ever get the slipper at home?

[austinsmam]

How times change! Was all the rage in the 70/80s, with Beano characters being whacked on a weekly basis. My OH got it at school and my mum kept a slipper just for smacking (yes, social services have been informed!). I know it was used in schools, but did anyone get it at home?

austins, 41.mother denies it all.

I don't think I was ever smacked. I am actually shocked that people were actually hit with slippers, canes, spoons etc. I always assumed it was totally made up in the Beano.

My mum says I had the odd light tap when I was a toddler (for safety purposes) but can't remember it.

I am 35 yrs.

i had open hand bum smacks and my mum knocked our heads together once or twice.

I would never ever claim "it did me no harm" tho. I think I am paranoid about dealing with my anger as a parent because i am terrified of dealing with things like my mother did. Hence, I suppress all sorts of nasty feelings until I am ready to implode.

When severely agitated, I do threaten smacked bottoms but have never got anywhere near the point where I would considet it.

I did smack ds on the hand once when he ran into the road as a toddler. at the time it wasn't anger, so much as driving home the message

It seems mostly those over 30 have be whacked with either hand slipper hairbrush or spoon. And alot my there Mums.

my spelling is terrible

Me too, I was born late 60's and was hit by Mum regularly with spoon, hairbrush, hands, with the odd kicking thrown in for good measure. Looking back, I know now that it usually was more to do with my mother's unhinged state of mind than anything my sister and I did.

Don't know about others who went through similar, but I had managed to push most of this to the back of my mind for years until DS was born. After that, I found it really hard to look at my mother the same way. Even in my worst moments of post natal depression, I couldn't imagine harming / hitting DS and I still can't bring myself to forgive my Mom (and Dad for condoning it all).

Slippers were a bit too tame for my mother.

She favoured belts, fists or sticks. I particularly disliked the stick as she would make me go into our garden (which had an orchard next to it)and pick it out myself. Sadistic much, Ma?

Not surprisingly, I am against any form of corporal punishment and would go fucking spare if anyone, including DH, smacked or so much as raised a finger in the direction of my LO.

we had the slipper- me born in 1983 and my little bro born in 1987.
slipper regualrly- once left bruises accross the front of my thighs. and i had to bring it to him. had the belt once for not washing up properly. smacks lots. my brother more so.
dad fractured my wrist once messing about (play fighting with my bro- i was trying to intervene) and i was sent to bring the washing in as i was complaining too much about it. the play fighting was always an issue- he once made my bro go unconcious by holding him too long.

mostly temper/ too much drink. dad seems to think it did us good. toughened us up.
i don't hit my boys and i don't play rough with them either. i only tapped DS on the hand when he was trying to play with a plug socket after he had been told and taken away- more to get the message across than anything.

DH was smacked twice- once for deciding to leave his mum in woolworths and crossing the road by himself. he said his dad cried but said I have to smack you so you remember never to cross a road alone again. he was 5.
then at 16 for back chatting his mum, she slapped him. and still feels terribly guilty.

i didn't realise my parents were wrong til i met DH.
I could never imagine causing pain to my DSs.

I was born in France but got hit too.

By belt (grand parents), whip (parents), hit very hard on naked but when toddler (3-5) by dad and on the face (by mum). I was always frightened of "doing anything wrong". The worst time I remember was when I was about 10, it was my birthday, I was very excited about it and was quite lively (but not naughty). My mum had a migraine and hit me on the face very hard and then sent me to my room for the rest of the day. I didn't get my cake nor my presents. She never apologised. I never forgave.

I hope that I will never ever hit any of my children!

both my dc were born in the early 70s, and both got a slap round the legs one time or another, and i don't feel like i beat my children, nor do i think it has harmed them lonf term, in fact i know it has not.

No.

Born '82 to a placid mother and violent, control freak of a father (if that makes any difference to the survey)

ihave i thought it had died out by mid 80`s not in your case

God, no. I'm 55 and shocked by all this, surprised at all the younger people who have been hit so much. I don't remember ever being hit by parents; my mother says she did smack me very occasionally when I was very small (I imagine in sudden frustration or to stop very difficult behaviour).
At primary school we were sometimes smacked with hand on hands, arms, back of legs.

We had 'slipper smacks' a few times, but only when we were very young and, i would guess, when we'd driven my mum to the end of her tether. (She's very neat and my sister and I were thick as thieves and very, very messy.)

I have absolutely no intention of hitting my ds, but then i think that's just a product of times changing. I was born in the late 80s, so I caught maybe a couple of the tag-end years of smacking. It's so socially unacceptable now that you can't. Plus, with games consoles and television having an ever-increasing draw, I imagine the threat of their temporary withdrawl will have aprofound effect on ds's behaviour when he gets to that stage!

dad always threatened it and then we would smirk and his face would give him up. i think ive been slapped twice in my life, by mum on the face and i probably deserved it. born '86 btw.

Aaaah...the Slipper! My Mum kept aside a lovely wedge heeled slipper with a nice black fluffy bit on front. She never wore them! Just kept them aside for whacking us! I'm going back to the early 80's. Must have been all the rage back then. My brother still calls mum 'the fastest slipper in the west' because it appeared faster than we saw it coming!

Actually, a fond memory now. I dont have any physcological defects because of it. hahaha

we didn't get the slipper - leather flipflops wrapped around backsides better according to my stepfather! Also the belt.

Cane at school - girls on the hand boys on the butt.

I was a 76 baby
Got the slipper occaisionally from my dad, and the wooden spoon occaisionally from my mum. I don't think it was looked on as anything unusual at the time.
Doesn't matter now though - not like i can tell them how unimaginitive their parenting skills were.

sherbit my mum had a pair of them too.

We used to get smacked a lot,my brother more than any of us.

Mum used to hit us with a wooden spoon or her scholls,i remember her swinging her washing up bowl round to hit my brother & he moved & the rim of it caught him on his eyelid & he had to have stitches.

My Dad used to beat my brother,not hit him,one of my worst memories is my Dad punching & kicking my brother & my brother screaming for him to stop & i feel so guilty now cos i just sat on the stairs watching cos i was too scared to stop him in case he turned on me.I can still see my Mum cradling him in her arms cos he had hurt him a lot.

We used to get a kick up the backside as we walked past him if we had been naughty.

After that horrible day he seemed to calm down,we only got hit with a walking stick after that.

Forgot to add i was born 73 & my brother 74.

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PM73 me too

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Some of these posts are very sad. I'd say I can't believe the cruelty doled out but sadly I can, all too well, because I know someone it happened to.

I'm 34 and got smacked occaisionally by my parents. I hated it. Never a slipper/belt or anything like that. Think smacking was considered the 'norm' when I was growing up - born 1974.

I'm against smacking and have never smacked my DS.