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a kiss on the lips got me in hot water

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devonshiredumpling · 24/04/2009 22:43

my son is two and a half and recently went to pre-school for the first time the other day and when i picked him up gave him a kiss on the lips to which one of the other mums said i should not be doing it as it is wrong am i being silly or is what i did wrong some help please

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MrsMerryHenry · 25/04/2009 01:06

What an abnormal, freakish response. Just ignore her. Better still, next time you see her, give her a huge smacker on the lips!

savoycabbage · 25/04/2009 01:19

What a nutter! Of course it is not wrong, she is an arse. I can't believe she said that to you. Does she shake hands with her child before she goes?

keels26 · 25/04/2009 08:23

Thats the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard! Did she give you a reason as to why your not allowed to kiss your DS on the lips?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/04/2009 08:30

She sounds like my old HV. DS1 was 3 months old when she told me NOT to kiss him on his lips as i would.................................. sexually arouse him

silly bag

purepurple · 25/04/2009 08:34

ladyevenstar
are you serious?
that makes me feel all at the same time
what a stupid woman (HV, not you)

greatwhiteshark · 25/04/2009 08:35

ladyevenstar - what a shit HV!

savoycabbage · 25/04/2009 08:50

Bloody hell ladyevenstar!

monkeypinkmonkey · 25/04/2009 09:07

Ladyevenstar what would your HV say about my ds(3) who gives me tv kisses?! (not my fave I must admit snot and dribble rubbed all over my face)
What a silly silly woman. Was this long ago?

moondog · 25/04/2009 09:09

Jesus Christ.
Lunatic pervy HV.
Kiss away.

callaird · 25/04/2009 10:11

"Sorry, BirdyArms, there will (almost certainly) be a stage when your boys won't even talk to you, far less kiss you goodnight. It's called early teenhood.

Make the most of kissing and cuddling your los while you can."

This is why being a nanny is sooo good!! When my previous charges were teenagers, they would phone me up and tell me what was going on in their lives and 10 minutes after they hung up, their dad would phone up to find out what they had said!!!

I also always got hugs and kisses from them. Wierdly my 23 year old goth ex-charge still kisses me on the lips, of course I quite like it, feel like he still loves me! But his girlfriends are not so impressed!!

I have been a nanny for 23 years and always kissed my charges on the lips (or open mouth for really little ones!!) it wasn't until a couple of years ago on here that people said they didn't like nannies/other childcare kissing their children on the lips, I had to go back to all my ex-employers to apologise but thankfully they all said I was being silly and they didn't mind, it showed that I cared about their children and that they loved me!

Mumcentreplus · 25/04/2009 10:21

The woman has problems...I always kiss on the lips!...I kiss my niece and nephews on the lips too!..she's weird

ICANDOTHAT · 25/04/2009 10:34

What the feck I would seriously wonder what her problem is and wonder if she's had any 'weird' experience in the past to make her say that. I snog - no tongues my ds2 6yo, he loves it. Mind you ds2 12yo is long past it. I think she's a TWAT.

ICANDOTHAT · 25/04/2009 10:35

Sorry, should have been ds1 age 12 .....

nappyaddict · 25/04/2009 19:19

ICANDOTHAT If a snog is a kiss with tongues surely a snog without tongues is just a .... kiss?

cluelessnchaos · 25/04/2009 19:21

my step mum told em not to kiss dd1 on lips for fear of germs,

MuffinBaker · 25/04/2009 19:24

Well, I was abused as a child so have felt a little unsure whether it is okay to kiss my children on their lips but figure it will all naturally evolve to on cheeks, heads, etc.

MrsMattie · 25/04/2009 19:28

Crikey. Woman at school sounds barmy and HV sounds positively loop-the-loop. Kissing your own child on the lips is 'wrong'? FFS. That's bollarx.

prettyfly1 · 25/04/2009 19:28

I give my son kisses all the time - she is a prat and you should ignore her. I had a childminder like this. INSANE.

FAQinglovely · 25/04/2009 19:29

well...................I don't kiss my children on the lips, never have done, and never will, and the only other person/people I've kissed on the lips have been partners.

BUT that doesn't mean it's wrong - it's just something I am my family (and DH's family) don't do.

tbh - I couldn't tell you where my friends kiss their children as it's not something I pay much attention to.

MuffinBaker · 25/04/2009 19:29

I also remember feeling I shouldn't blow raspberries on their tummies when I was getting them changed, .

ComeOVeneer · 25/04/2009 19:32

Only reason not to is if you are suffering from cold sores otherwise no problem at all. DS is 4 and won't do kisses any more and it is breaking my heart (he is my "baby - as in youngest)

TheCrackFox · 25/04/2009 19:34

I think LadyEvanstar wins Mumsnets most barmiest HV award - there has been some pretty stiff competition but this takes the biscuit.

TheLadyEvenstar · 25/04/2009 22:38

Thecrack, It was madness. DS1 is now 10 yrs old and he still gets a kiss on the lips from me!

ICANDOTHAT · 26/04/2009 09:23

nappyaddict Whatever ...... a kiss is a kiss is a kiss .....

RoseWalker · 26/04/2009 09:35

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