Was 4 children 1 too many? Honestly........

[Flum]

Also I am going to be 37 this year.....

DC4 is 7 months. I am 42 this year. The jury is still out here on your question! We obviously love him to bits but sometimes life can be "interesting"

Too many for me. But I am the eldest of 4 and had to look after The little ones who are now both bigger than me. Mum was roughly the same age as you. No, just try and get as much help as possible. 1 ds is too little for us but......

No, expecting number 5!

Am 33.

Mmmmmm we are really worried that if the 4th had special needs it would adversely affect our whole family and that puts us off.

Also our eldest thinks we have too many children already. DH not really that keen either but he could be persuaded.

Your not up the duff then?

Sorry, a bit insensitive. I was 41 when I had Ds. 1 in 5 chance of downs. He turned out fine. A friend had 1 2000 and was older and her lad is still fine. Big problem is that DH isn't keen.

have to go to bed now1 Speak soon Goodnight

well...I have 3 boys...nd whilst I love them....I sometimes think tha that is 1 to many ....so....4 is to many in my opinion...obviously....
but I suppose it all depends on many factors that only the individual can really decide....
don't think your age is an issue though, tbh...

a good friend told me yesterday that having no4 at 38 was the best thing she has ever done she had three dc with 2 or 3 yrs between each, then a 7yr gap and dd2 [dc4]
I'm a bit older than you, would love a 4th but can't. My other three are 8,5 and 3 tho, so i have my work cut out for now

Well 37 is young enough to squeeze at least another 3 in but...I have 3 and I know 4 would be too many for us. If you feel doubtful I think I would wait - your hormones will jump one way or the other!

I have 4 and im 35 and my youngest does have n nd trust me not only do you cope rest of family do as well, though sleep be good thing to

I considered having four and as we were foster carers, we "tried it out" for a while with a short term placement of an 18mth. I found it was too many, I think three is just perfect.

One main issue was we suddenly needed a bigger car.

My 4th baby was an accident and dh and I were pretty gutted when I got pregnant. We adore him though and have enjoyed him so much - probably more than the others really as we know he's the last.

For some parents one child is one too many....

It depends on your finances, your level organisation and if you want four children.

TBH 3 was one to many for us, for lots of reasons, but I would do it all again to have him.

I have 4...and was desperate for her...husband took some persuading. I dont think that it is too much more work that 3...and as my first 3 were very close toether and we have a gap with the little one we and the other children have really enjoyed her. When I had her I said to my mum it does feel as if I have 4 life went on with her in the back of the car...and she said "it will"...so I imagine when we have another one doing swimming lessons, doing home work etc we will notice.

I have heard my sisters say that looking at me 4 is tooo much...so obviuosly I make it look as easy or enjoyable as I think I do!!

I am one of four - i'd say it was too many. there was never quite enough of anything to go around, money, privacy, time, attention.

I had a fabulous childhood, but we never had the latest anything, new clothes, a holiday, a car, piano lessons etc.

we've all turned out well into balanced adults but personally, having been on the receiving end i wouldn't (unless v rich, with a huge house and parents who had lots & lots of time) x

I am one of 7...there was never enough stuff...my mother was widowed when we were very little.. but we really did have so much else...always something going on with the other children and massive wide network of friends... we are all really close now...so money bit I think not important. The time bit was a theoretical issue that concerned my husband....but now they have tiem and attention from each other...Privacy is important...and we have just chopped up our house to give them a room each...means my room is off the kitchen!

I am pg with no.4 and asm 31, my others are all little[,3 and 2] but 4 will definetly be my lot just because of finances and activities they like. dds want to start ballet which is 3,50 each, ds goes to football twice a week which is £6 then little treats etc..luckily at the min we can just afford it

"Also our eldest thinks we have too many children already".

Seems like your eldest is answering your question; sounds like s/he isn't getting enough attention from you and DH. Focus on the 3 you have - IMHO

Interesting comments. Our eldest could never get enough attention for her liking! I think a little less might be the making of her!

I do agree with the strain on resources though - we love skiing and I can't see that happen ing that often with 4 kids to tkae with us.

despite loving them all dearly i would say yes

and it isnt even to do with dc4 having sn, it is just non stop hard work

tho probably easier with 2 parents

Well we are 2 parents. But only I do all the kid care. DH does the odd bedtime story and takes em swimming now and then.

I imagine any number is a real juggle with only one parent anyway.

I think we will stick at 3. The baby's room isn't really big enough for two kids and we don't really want to move house.

I'm going to get a puppy.

I just can't bear the thought that I won't have another baby though. It is mainly the baby thing though not that I want another kid. I do like the idea of them always havign someone to hang out with though and no odd one out.

i am happy enough to babysit my friends little girl who was born in january, that does me fine

Well FLUM, babies do turn into kids (and pretty bloody quickly IMO), so if its not the fact that you want another kid, then deninately dont have another baby.