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The most amazing bladder control in the world.........

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blushingm · 10/03/2009 21:17

I have been attempting potty training with DD. She's been mostly dry since friday (except in the playground when picking ds from school )but today we've had a very odd day.

I dressed her this morning at about 8ish in pants and clothes. Shew refused a wee all day til just before bed at 7pm. She wee'd on her potty

Will she make herslef ill or something. She'd had 4 cups of apple juices today

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sundew · 11/03/2009 10:00

Blushingm - I would have thought that waiting that long would make her more likely to have a urine infection. Both my dds can wait hours before going to the loo - but even they can't last that long.

If she does it again it might be worth starting a sticker chart so that everytime she has a wee she can have a sticker?

I would try and get her to drink more as well if possible - although I know how hard that can be

blushingm · 11/03/2009 21:23

thanks sundew - that's what i was thinking - i get tummy ache if i wait and wait and wait. Today she went for a wee at the school when i was colleting ds. So from 8ish to 3.15 she had 2 cups of juice (she'd had 2 with her cereal too)

she did seem very proud of herself when she had her wee at the school (she normally gets a pink star stickie for a wee on the potty)

I will try to pour more fluids down her and see what happens

thanks again

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scrooged · 11/03/2009 21:25

Not a good idea to hold it, it can stretch the bladder and can cause all sorts of nasties (UTI's and the like). Best to nip this in the bud as quickly as you can.

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blushingm · 11/03/2009 21:31

but how scrooged???? I'm all out of ideas

i ask her regularly do you want to try for a wee - she wont go if i insist she has a try on the potty

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scrooged · 11/03/2009 21:35

Sticker chart! Can backfire though and make her go more then she needs to. I'd sit her don and tell her that she'll get a poorly tummy if she holds it in too long.

I bypassed the potty and put ds on the loo because he wanted to be a 'big boy'. This worked really well for him. IIRC, I brought a seat that goes on the loo from Argos so he didn't fall in.

blushingm · 11/03/2009 21:39

she will use the toilet but she prefers the potty (i think she feels more secure on it )
My ds went straight to the toilet as he was too tall for a potty and the wee ended up like a fountain

she is incredibly stubborn - the more you ask her the more she refuses. Stickers helped at first to wee on the potty but she quickley lost interest..........aaaaaaarrrrrrrrggggghhhhh

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scrooged · 11/03/2009 21:40

It's alright. What makes her tick? What's her 'Ohh, I love that!' point?

scrooged · 11/03/2009 21:40

It's alright. What makes her tick? What's her 'Ohh, I love that!' point?

blushingm · 11/03/2009 21:45

ITNG and Peppa Pig are what she loves. I've promised her an umbrella when she's going to the toiler like a 'big girl'

She also likes pink, babies, flowers, trains, cars, spongebob and animals

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scrooged · 11/03/2009 21:47

I bet peppa pig goes to the toliet. She doesn't want a poorly tummy!

Are you sure she's ready for toliet training? Can she tell when she needs to go? Does she give off any visual signs?

blushingm · 11/03/2009 22:19

she'll tell me 'mummy, wee coming. the toilet the toilet!' She hates having wet/dirty clothes/nappy/pants. If she does have anaccident - she'll come and say mummy need more pants - i poohed/wee'd etc. She also stops dead if running/walking when she needs to go and she went through a phase of running up to her room and locking herself in her wardrobe to have a pooh. Would you think she was ready? I thought she was

i know - peppa wouldn't be able to jump in all those muddy puddles with a tummy ache!!!

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scrooged · 11/03/2009 22:22

Sounds ready to me. Do you take her straight away when she does/says this? (sorry, You'd be surprised the amount of parents that make them wait).

I started off putting ds on the loo every half an hour "just in case" then every hour. This worked well.

Trinityrhino · 11/03/2009 22:25

that list of things she likes sounds just like Gecko lol
sorry no help at all but you would have to change trains for Dora lol

blushingm · 11/03/2009 22:27

i'll ask her if we are going out 'do you need a wee before you go?' But usually i just wait til she asks. I did keep asking her but i think it got on her nerves and she would be so un co=operative and she just went and wee'd under the kitchen table (and she grinned whilst doing it )

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blushingm · 11/03/2009 22:28

TR

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scrooged · 11/03/2009 22:28

Stop asking and pop her on the loo! Give her a sticker if she does something.

blushingm · 11/03/2009 22:31

She'll scream the house down 'no wee, no wee. Mummy i said no wee. go away go away no weeeeeeeeeee'

I was worried about pressurising her or being too forceful and frightening her - i knw of a lo whose aunt (a nursery manager) tried to potty train her when her mum was away for the weekend - poor girl got hysterical everytime anyone mentioned the toilet - she ended up starting school in nappies

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imaginaryfriend · 11/03/2009 22:33

You haven't said how old she is?

My dd has always had fabulous bladder control, she can literally go for hours and hours. When I potty trained her age 2 I can count on one hand the amount of wee accidents she had and she's never had a poo accident. 3 weeks after potty training and she was dry all night so out of night nappies by 2.5.

She's 6 now and to be honest it worries me how long she goes without using the toilet. On a school day she goes before leaving in the morning but only because I make her (she will not have used the bathroom since 8pm the night before), then not again until some time after we get home from school. Often quite a long time after - if we go to a friend's she won't go until we get home from there. So frequently she wees twice a day, both of those times instigated by me!

Part of the problem is that she doesn't seem to like using toilets away from home. But another part must be down to her bladder control as she goes so infrequently even when at home.

She drinks lots. Water, juice, milk, you name it she drinks it.

She's had about 5 UTIs in the last 2 years prompting the GP to send her for a kidney scan. Everything was ok but they couldn't believe how much liquid she was holding in her bladder (she had to have a full bladder for the test so had to drink water beforehand).

What I do now when I'm with her and she's not at school is just to make her go. I say we won't go out until she's gone. She can't sit down to eat until she's gone, etc.

It's good in some ways but doesn't seem quite right in others.

scrooged · 11/03/2009 22:34

Hmm. Star chart.

Do you have a doll that wets itself? Baby born is it? This could help, they could 'go' at the same time.

blushingm · 11/03/2009 22:37

oh sorry IF - she's 2.10 but you'd swear she was 14

I have to admit i prefer to wait and use my own loo than go whilst i'm out - even if i'm at a friends/families house. Does your DD say why she doesn't go IF or it is she's in the habit of holding it?

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blushingm · 11/03/2009 22:38

scrooged - we don't but i'm sure i could get hold of one - great idea!

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scrooged · 11/03/2009 22:40

They make a mess!! Let her play with it, look after it etc and they could both go at the same time. You just give it a drink.

I've never had to go so far as to recommend potty training a doll aswell! This is a first!

blushingm · 11/03/2009 22:42

DD is defo one of a kind!!!! I've no idea where she could get it from

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scrooged · 11/03/2009 22:43

Lol!
It might work, it might not. The last resort is bribery!

imaginaryfriend · 11/03/2009 22:52

I think it's a combination of things. She's clearly got excellent bladder control. She doesn't like public toilets especially the toilets at school. She's generally too interested in what she's doing to want to be bothered with something so tedious!

Frequently I'll ask her if she needs the toilet before we go out and she'll say 'no.' I say 'go anyway because it's better to go before we set off' then she'll go, do an enormous wee, sometimes even a poo. So I say 'see - you did need to go!' and she'll be all kind of surprised!!!