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outofmydepth123 · 04/03/2009 10:45

I've name changed because a number of my neighbours know my normal posting name and I don't want to upset the children any more than necessary.

My neighbour has 2 children - a 13 year old DS with special needs and a 5 year old DD. This morning I was taking DD to nursery and noticed the 5 year old walking down the road by herself. I stopped to talk to her and noticed she was wearing dirty clothes, her hair was clerly not brushed and she looked as if she'd been crying. I asked if her mum was cathing her up and she said she didn't know where her mum was and that she'd been away for a couple of nights. She said her brother had already gone to school on the mini bus. She said she'd not had breakfast as she couldn't reach the cereal so I took her back inside. The state of the house was DISGUSTING (rats droppings on surfaces, clothes, old magazines, old food every where) and there was no edible food. I took her home and fed her and she was clearly starving. She said she'd not had any supper last night either. I brushed her hair, washed her face and walked her to school where she'll at least be safe for now.

What do I do next? Should I phone the schools or should I phone social services? I never imagined this sort of situation and I am at a loss.

Crying thinking about the poor children. I can't let them go home to that. My house is no show piece but it looks immaculate next to this one

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dizzydixies · 06/03/2009 21:50

thank god you did phone, poor kids

well done you, at least they're with their gran now who sounds like she's going to do ok by them

RubyrubyrubyHareb · 06/03/2009 21:54

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KingCanuteIAm · 06/03/2009 22:07

Oh my goodness, like you say it is stuff out of the papers not "real life". Well done for everything you did, it is such a good thing you did't look the other way!

It is lovely the Grandma came round to speak to you too!

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skramble · 06/03/2009 23:21

You could never imagine, the house never got in that state in a few days anyway, so at least with this happening it has all been found out. They will see how they were living even when she was there.

bellavita · 07/03/2009 08:26

Blimey - at least you know the children are safe and well looked after now.

The mum will have a lot of explaining to do when she gets home... in fact I would not be surprised if the authorities are waiting for her to get off the plane!

lljkk · 07/03/2009 10:49

Beware, this might actually get into the newspapers when the mum gets back; OP could get dragged in too (potential huge intrusion into your privacy if nothing else).

I still think it's good OP got involved, but best to be braced for future potential fall-out.

Buda · 07/03/2009 10:55

OMG! The mother was on holiday???!!!!!! I would lay money on the police waiting for her when she gets back. Have seen a couple of these cases in the papers before now.

MarmadukeScarlet · 07/03/2009 11:06

OMG, that is awful.

So she had been gone for 10 days when you found the little girl?

I cannot imagine how a 12 yr old with SN would cope with looking after himself let alone a 5 yr old.

How come the school didn't notice there was something going on? It beggars belief!!

A relief that the 'mother' isn't lying in a ditch, but really...

ICANDOTHAT · 07/03/2009 15:41

OUTOFMYDEPTH do you think there will be any 'come back' from the mother on your part ? You said earlier she wasn't the kind of person you would socialise with

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