Do you think your "co-parent" should always back you up when you're reprimanding your child, even if they disagree with you?

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That's it really

Well, piscesmoon, if you have a really good relationship, you can point out that "that wasn't quite what we had agreed, dear" without it escalating into an argument. Dh and I will usually take such a reminder in good part. What Anna says 'calmly and politely'. I think it is useful to see how we handle disagreement; one day they will be in relationships and need all the tricks.

Yes. I wouldn't undermine my husband because I wouldn't want my children to think I thought I could parent them better then he can and vice versa. I do think its important to present a united front. Obviously this only applies in a healthy relationship. In an abusive situation clearly protection of your child comes first. We don't smack our children so any discipline would be verbal/sanctions based. If one of us feels the other is being too harsh /having a bad day etc we will just gently pat the others leg which is kind of code for I think you are being a bit OTT.