Potty training started today!!!

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Ds turned 3 yesterday and I decided to try him out in pants today! Haven't really prepared but we have one potty upstairs and one downstairs and we've had two accidents and two wees in the potty so far! He's had one of his christmas chocolates for each wee in the potty and I've promised him two chocolates if he does a poo.

Is it stupidly optimistic to think that because he's three this might be quite easy?

I'm slightly concerned that he hasn't done a poo yet today, I'm hoping he's not holding it in. And I'm wondering if there's any chance I'll be able to go out in the sales with a potty training little one?!

Any advice/ideas welcome!

The lady who kindly gave me it says that when you run out of liners, there are lots of suggestions online about how to improvise your own without having to buy the tommee tippee ones - eg plastic bags and large sanitary towels... This made me laugh

My mum had ds on wednesdays and thursdays and she'll be taking him out and about. I'm going to insist he wears pants and give her the potette. Rather her than me!

Glad to hear that they work for some people because the reason the nice freecycle lady gave me hers was that her kids didn't get on with it.

i use nappy bags with cheap sanitary pads inside them... works out at around £1 for cheap nappy bags and 3 of the 10 packs of the tesco value pads... and that will last me a fair old time!! you have to set them up beforehand and then leave it on the pottete and just open it up for wee's etc... and they dont fit as well as the original bags, but are a heck of a lot cheaper!!

once again we have an accident free day!!! wuhoo!!!

Glad everyone is having such a successful time! V impressed at an accident-free Toddlers!

Back at work this week and DD has had granny yesterday and CM today. One accident both days, both late in the afternoon when she is getting tired and short of attention span. No more poos again since the famously large on on Saturday - but she has, very occasionally, started whispering that she needs a poo/wee, which is great. I think the lack of poo is partly a dairy intolerance thing - we have been challenging her recently and I've heard it can cause constipation. We'll see. The most important thing is she's comfortable with using the potty/toilet, so I'm happy with that.

Really hope she manages a poo tomorrow though....!

Good days alround then? DD had a small accident when DH came home from work - she was telling all about feeding the swans and got carried away Next thing she got all upset and waddled to her potty saying "me wee" in a really distressed voice. OK it was an accident but her response was good in my eyes - she was obviously upset at being wet - up to now it has been more matter of fact - kind of the norm iykwim?

We went out all day today, just to the river and town but I wanted to test her but she told me twice and held it until we got to public loos. She even went on a big loo as I had run out of liners
I will be using the alternative liner suggestion I think!

Dry days all tomorrow!

Can I join in please? dd did her first wee on the potty on 1st jan, exactly 1.11. I faffed for the next few days - bare bottomed at home, nappies for out, but she was pretty good, as long as I reminded her to go. Then yesterday we decided to go for it properly - she was fab, no accidents at all, and even asked to use the potty once. Today seems to be going well too (so far), but I can't remember what I did with my ds about getting them to tell me when they needed a wee or poo. Will she just gradually tell me, or will I have a long wait on my hands of constant reminders? I have 2 older boys (4 and 6) but I just can't remember what I did with them. Either blotted out the memory, or it was so easy I didn't bother remembering. Just don't know which.

Still, it's nice to have support on here, as I do wonder if I'm slightly mad. She had little mottled legs yesterday at home because I don't think our house is really warm enough for bare legs!

Glad to see our little ones are all getting the hang of it DS had no accidents at preschool and was fine till about 3 in the afternoon (assume he was tired by this point) did poo in pants and then on the school run mummy could not get door open quick enough and he did a wee on the door step. I have been at work today so MIL has had him so shall see what has happened!!
I am hoping we are starting to make progress as he does now ask to go so we are going forward not backwards which is a good sign.

Mum23monkeys - She will get it it has taken my ds a week to start asking to go rather than me asking him all the time.
I gave up with the bare legs and just put him in trousers even ones that have been too small for him just so his legs are warm! Good luck.

Hello can I join in and ask for some advice please???

DD1 is 2.7. she was very enthusiastic months ago re sitting on toilet and even did a couple of wees and a couple of poos. We kept praising and encouraging but didn't really go with it - all a bit on and off due to dd2's arrival!

Anyway, after months of us and grandparents going on about it, she is at the point where she really wants to wear knickers but won't do anything on the loo / potty - she'll sometimes ask for a nappy back on to poo, or she just holds it for ages and then wees massively all over the floor. Have tried to stop everyone mentioning it as that seems to make her negative about it even though people are being positive.

She sometimes seems really anti - toilet, almost phobic, other times she says she wants to be a baby and poo in nappy (regression due to dd2??) other times she is keen to wear her knickers and sit on the toilet but just will not do anything! HAve tried rewards but doesn't make huge difference - she says she wants to sit on the toilet and do wee / poo for a chocolate button and then tells me she has done a wee when she blatantly hasn't!

What to do?? We backed off the last couple of weeks and left it totally up to her, but now she has started asking to wear knickers again, so I'm just not sure of how best to play things!

Thank you!

Just gone back and read re the potettes, we have one and even now my seven year old if we get caught out in a park with no toilets and he needs a poo will sit on it. Best thing I have ever bought!!

It's interesting that your dc don't tell you when they need to go, ds was telling me from day one. I've also had him in pants and trousers (elasticated waist ones which he can pull up and down himself) since the beginning, it seemed better because they catch the poos and little wees and stop them going all over the furniture!

I guess because he's that bit older (just turned 3) it's easier for him. I'm glad I was too lazy to do it earlier waited!

Wondering whether to give up or not today. DD had 3 accidents at childminders, and CM is not convinced she knows when a wee is imminent. Lots of potty sitting today waiting for poos, lots of stinky wind but still no poo

How old is she hobnob and how long has she been out of nappies for? It might have just been a bad day, ds had two accidents on sunday and I was worried but he's been doing much better since.

Hi all - and welcome mum23 and purplemonkeys.

PJ - I think she may have got confused? Are there lots of people giving their opinions? Grandparents, CM etc? Perhaps you need to leave it until you have a few days off to concentrate on her. I read Gina Fords Potty training in 7 days - it is not a 7 day wonder but there is some good advice and some case studies of different children that might help you out. Try the library or amazon? i would offer you mine but I am still using it

Hobnob - sorry you are feeling a bit down about it all. There are good days and bad, but your DD is young yet so if you really think she needs more time I would say leave it for a month or two - leave the potty about so she can learn to ask for it and then try again. I have been there and tbh it was a relief to decide to go back to nappies for a while.

Not a great day here - 1 poo at Nursery and 1 at home. I think all the holding in has caught up with her I knew she needed to go and kept prompting her - she was tired, near bedtime so it just caused a tantrum - then all of a sudden! More tantrums because she had dirty knickers

We are going swimming tomorrow - anyone think I can risk it with no swim pants?

Yes definitely confused. Grandparents have definitely been giving their opinions - have now asked them please not to mention it at all! Even her uncle (single, no kids...) decided to join in at Xmas

She is still asking for knickers every day, and will now go and climb up on the toilet herself - and today did a wee!! But has just insisted on having a nappy back on to do her poo in. We've made a start I guess.

We are at home quite a bit at the moment, so I am going to concentrate on it at home where she can be in knickers and get to toilet easily by herself, and when out she'll be in nappies still - and I'm not going to tell anyone that we're trying!!

well, 2 steps forward, one step back. Or should that be 1 forward and 2 back? Wees are close to being sussed. When asked, she now says if she does or doesn't need one, and occasionally tells me if she needs one. Most of the time though I have to remind. Poos seem a bit more random. A lot of the time we're lucky and they go in the potty, but I don't think she has quite worked it all out. She also (courtsey of 2 older brothers) thinks that farts are the funniest thing (!) and can fart to order, but her 10 a day satsuma habit is making life a bit messy! She never does whole poos in her pants, just what escapes when she farts. Oh lovely children, did I ever think I would share ths sort of information with total strangers - no, but there you go!

H yes - satsumas DD was poorly over Christmas due to 3 in one day!

PJ - good plan I think

Good day here, went out and she weed on big loos each time with no fuss. The swim nappy got well used though

She even had a nap (which is rare) with no nappy and woke up dry - good thing as she was in the pushchair at the time.

How is everyone else doing? Hotcheese?

Hello! Ds has been with my mum for two days, apparently he had a couple of accidents but did use his new potette! I do feel a bit disappointed though because we've been potty training for nearly two weeks and he's still having accidents.

When I got home from work today he was wearing pull-up pants (my mum must have put them on for the long drive and dp hadn't changed them) and he did at least one wee and a poo in them. I think he needs to be in proper pants all the time now so he uses the potty. Nursery again tomorrow so we'll see how that goes.

I wish I had my potty training in one week book and star chart and all the potty training stuff I bought ages ago! I don't know what I did with it all!

hello everyone- not been on in a few days, been busy sorting things with DC's and getting bits ready for DC3's arrival...

DD isdoing really well, not a single accident since monday, and even then it was because she couldn't get her pants down properly and i was at the front door so she didn't shout me!!

Yesterday my mum and sister took her into town shopping for the day too, and it was her first 'big' outing since fully coming out of her buggy just before xmas, and her first full day out in knickers!! She was brilliant!! I'm so pleased with her!! Now i just need to teach her how to get onto the toilet herself.

Glad to hear others DC's are doing well also, not had time to fully catch-up!!

Well done glaskham! Sounds like you've cracked it!

Ds had an awful day at nursery yesterday, he came home with 6 nappy bags full of soiled clothes. I felt so disappointed and annoyed and it was so hard not to show it! BUT today we went out in town with him in pants for the first time and we had no accidents at all! I had a bag packed full of wipes and spares clothes but didn't need any of them! He only went for one wee and he used one of the shopping centre toilets (first time he's ever used a big toilet and he didn't seem phased at all!). So, I am feeling much better.

However, tomorrow is his birthday party (first kid's party I've had to organise) and I'm completely stressed out about it so not quite celebrating!

HCB- hope the party went well today...

Once again no accidents from DD at all!!! I dont think we've had a single accident for a week tomorrow!! and we've been going out and she's been in tights too, which she finds a little tricky to get down but she's managing ok!! Thought i better get her used to tights as when she starts nursery in april (a week after her 3rd birthday) she'll be in uniform and will have tights on when in a skirt.

We're going to toddler group again tomorrow.... hopefully it'll be another successful trip!! The surestart staff that run the group are almost like friends now as i've been going for the last 3 years, one of them went to school with DH, and i was in her sister's year at school too.... Its nice that they were encouraging DD and gave her an extra sticker for having no accidents, and also made even more of a fuss of her using the toilet than i did!!

Hows everyone else doing???

Hello All

Is this thread still going - need some advice. Introduced potty to DD about 4 months ago. She is now 2.2. She has only ever done 1 wee in it. She is fully aware of when she poos and wees and can pull her trousers up and down without support. She goes to nursery 2 - 3 times a week and also happily sits on the potty there, but does nothing in it. Today I put her in knickers and sat her on the potty every 15 minutes. She is very happy to sit on it for as long as 30 minutes (her own decision), provided she has all her books around her. She loves wearing the knickers, but in a 4 hour period she did not do anything in the potty and no accidents. Decided to put her back in a nappy as afraid she is holding it in for some reason. Any thoughts and advice very welcome. Thx

KT12- i think by the sound of what you've decsribed she may not be 'ready' herself... a child will know when they want to use it, you'll get stripping of the nappy when you leave the room, watching you while you go to the toilet. I've NEVER had to sit mine on the potty- they have always been ready enough to be able to go on their own. I would advise to keep her in a nappy for now, but maybe for an hour before her bath let her be naked and when you go to the toilet let her come up and her sit on the potty whiole you sit on the loo, she will watch and realise that you go when you need a wee from watching you.

I'd also say to keep a potty in the living room, and one in the bathroom, maybe even one in her bedroom, so she can become 'used' to a potty... making it part of her normal life should ease the 'holding it in' she's doing. And also means when she does decide to strip the second your back is turned (becasue it will happen!!) then she has somewhere to go.

I've been very lucky with both my DC's on potty training, DS was 2.1yo and was dry after the third day of potty training, and only ever had 3 accidents (2 the first day, 1 the second, dry the third) and even now has only ever had a handful of accidents, and currently DD who's 2.9yo has had 4 accidents to date, and been fully dry for a week now, we've had shopping trips, days out, toddler groups in the last week too. I honestly believe in waiting till they will do it on their own, because it does happen!!

Thx Glaskhamhasoneintheoven, have been doing the showing her when and where I wee bit for some time now. She does not want to wear a nappy and does try to take it off and asks for knickers and asks to sit on the potty. Have a potty in living room and one in the bathroom. But you may well be right, she may not be quite ready yet. Although, do you think I should let her sit on the potty and wear knickers at home when she asks to do so?

ooh ooh ooh proud mummy alert - dd1 has been taking herself upstairs to do wees in the toilet all day (I leave the trainer seat on and a step next to the toilet - she doesn;t want me to come with her, just to come and admire the wee afterwards!!) and this evening after 2 hours of terrible fidgetting, jumping and wind (!) she went up on her own and did the most enormous poo!! Which I was not allowed to flush away until it had been admired by all and sundry..

So now very pro-toilet here! Oh and we've run out of choc buttons...

I feel so proud of her, as I was thinking I'd done it all wrong and messed it up, but she has just sorted it herself.

Hi all.

Well DD is doing well. No accidents at all for 2 days now. One on Saturday when we were out shopping My worst nightmare! No puddle thankfully but I did get a few disapproving looks as I scooped her up with a big wet patch on her bum

KT1, your DD sounds like she is nearl there! Give the bare bum at home a go whenever you can, pottys everywhere etc. As soon as she is going fairly regularly on the potty with no knickers then introduce them just at home.

Then a week or 2 later just tell her " no more nappies" and go for it, do not cave in once you make that decision

Hope everyone else is doing well

KT12- i'd say let her have knickers on when she asks for them, and if/when she has an accident just say 'oh dear, maybe next time you'll be able to sit on the potty for a wee like a big girl??' make it light hearted, as if your not bothered you'll have a wet stain on the carpet for the rest of the day and then she'll hopefully just start to make that link.

PJR- your DD sounds like she's there!! I just need DD to be able to get herself onto the toilet now... she's very small for her age, and even on her step can't get on enough without help as it then just all goes on the floor!!