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Has anyone binge drank AFTER they missed a period (didn't know preg)? How was baby?

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clairemonde · 17/12/2008 22:56

Hi, i just worked out that i got completely off my trolly when i was 5 weeks from my period, i didn't think i was pregnant because i was on the pill. We are talking about a 1/4 of one of those half bottles of rum, i swigged it back all in one go. We were having a pirates night...
Basically, this is my first child and i'm really scared i've damaged it. I have a lot of guilt because of various things i've done in my life and i'm thinking 'i have done it again' messed things up AGAIN. Well i tell you what, i can't take anymore, i can't, that will be the last nail in the bloody coffin i swear, i'm depressed already. I've given up so much to have this baby in terms of job security etc and it was SO wanted. If there is something wrong with it i will not be able to NOT attribute it to the alcohol now! Can you understand what i mean? I'm not being cold and callous, i'm just fed up of moping up after my own mistakes and impulsivity that i really sometimes just don't want to be here anymore...

The doctor told me there is a risk at that stage of FAS and neurodevelopmental problems, it's a window of a few days, and i might have been unlucky. He said 'don't worry' BUT he wouldn't let me see his screen, and when i peaked it said 'significant teratogen risk from single binge drinking episode!' the lying man! He was concerned enough to send me a letter about what to do to prevent 'developmental problems'.

My morning sickness didn't kick in until a week later for goodness sake! It's not fair! What is the point of morning sickness if it doesn't stop you drinking at such a crucial stage?

It's not to late to have an abortion at 12 weeks is it?

My husband is very, very angry at me. (he doesn't drink because he lacks the enzyme to metabolise alcohol = more potential damage to foetus!) and he wants us to 'try again'. I never drink usually either, it was just the social pressure! I don't smoke. i take vitamins, and i'm just screwed....as usual.

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hannahlouhoo · 17/12/2008 23:21

Troll!Again!

kormaisforlifenotjustchristmas · 17/12/2008 23:22

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lilolilbethlehem · 17/12/2008 23:24

When DH and I were planning for DC1, I came off the pill thinking it would take for ever to get pregnant. Went on holiday, drank every night, panicked like crazy when I found out I was pregnant. Midwife reassured me that it was so early on it wasn't going to be a problem (long time ago but something to do with baby not being attached at that point I think).
DS is fine, a strapping 15 year old. Please, talk to your midwife. They will have seen drug addicts, chain smokers and alcoholics through pregnancies. They will probably smile when they hear your worries and completely reassure you. Give it a go. 1/4 of a half bottle of rum isn't a ridiculous amount of alcohol. Let us know how you get on.

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clairemonde · 17/12/2008 23:24

Yes, now i'm a bit more relaxed this feels good, and it feels right. Wow, i haven't been able to really feel anything for weeks and suddenly i actually feel really protective and happy of this little life growing in me. :-) if all goes well i really am going to make this a turning point, maybe a time for a new career direction, although i will look forward to the occasional glass of wine AFTER the birth. lol.

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smellyeli · 17/12/2008 23:33

hannahlouhoo, actually I think I'm with you on this one.....

hannahlouhoo · 17/12/2008 23:39

I really really hope this is a turning point for you.claremonde,rainbow serpant, luxmundi and i'm sure there are other alias's being used!

so you will stop posting the same msg's over and over again!

ravenAK · 17/12/2008 23:45

Was giving benefit of doubt, but actually agree probably a not too subtle agenda here.

(Especially as claramonde & luxmundi both mean 'light of the world' )

BlackLetterDay · 17/12/2008 23:52

I had xmas and new year when newly pregnant and ignorant.I was truly mullered a few times at least,very very drunk at new year etc.
Dd is fine, what can you do, if you don't know, you don't know. Afaik fetal alcohol thingy occurs when alcohol is taken throughout the pregnancy, rather than a one or two off.

BitOfFunUnderTheMistletoe · 17/12/2008 23:52

The bonus sleuthing point goes to Raven I think...

hannahlouhoo · 17/12/2008 23:54

I thought the same bit of fun, raven v. impressed with your sleuthing this late at night!

BlackLetterDay · 17/12/2008 23:54

Oh is this a mad troll?

hannahlouhoo · 17/12/2008 23:58

we are thinking so at the mo, no word from op on matter!

lilolilbethlehem · 18/12/2008 00:03

if this is a troll, it's a particularly sick topic.

StayFrostyTheSnowMam · 18/12/2008 00:58

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susia · 18/12/2008 23:22

you are worrying unnessarily, loads of women actually drink throughout their pregnancies and have healthy babies. Of course I'm not advising that but you had one episode and I'm sure the baby will be fine. Babies are born to drug addicts (heroin and methodone), mostly they are fine.

You didn't drink that much and I'm sure your baby will be ok.

KimiKay · 19/12/2008 00:19

I was drunk off my rear every time I was pregnant and didn't know it. Both of my children were fine with the exception of the second one. He had acid reflux, but that is not why. Just about every one of my friends drank when they weren't aware of being pregnant, I wouldn't worry!

pamelat · 19/12/2008 09:46

I got drunk on my hen do when I was about 3 weeks pregnant (and didnt know)

I drank 7 or 8 glasses of wine and a glass of champagne. I am not even a big drinker so that was a lot for me

My daughter is fine.

I then didnt drink for the entire pregnancy (guilt).

pushchair · 19/12/2008 09:54

Found out about last pregnancy just after New Year's party! She is fine.
Think I took comfort from vague notion that placenta not developed yet as previously mentioned.

Simplysally · 19/12/2008 10:09

I went back to uni around the time I got pg with my daughter. I drank fairly heavily for the first couple of weeks until I felt too tired to go out (it took me about 3 months to admit to myself I was pg). I stopped drinking and eating wrong foods the instant I knew I was pg. DD is now 8.5 and is as lively as anything.

Incidentally I'd also started Ju-Jitsu classes and carried furniture up and down stairs when I'd moved in - that had to be knocked on the head as well .

Simplysally · 19/12/2008 10:10
pushchair · 19/12/2008 11:44

Ah Why Troll on this subject? Odd. Hey Ho

pamelat · 19/12/2008 12:40

Is this a troll post then? I can never see the point of those.

pulltheotherone · 19/12/2008 22:12

Clairmonde, you sound a bit like me when I had DD1. I had a termination prior( like lots of women). I gave up my career (had to due to the nature of it). You sound like you're expecting 'punishment' for the termination (I did for years). Give your baby a chance to be healthy and yourselves a chance to be parents.

At the time I was a bit resentful but now I'm at the other side I wish I had taken the opportunity of pregnancy, birth and babyhood with both hands and relished it. It doesn;t last long.

What I'm saying is don;t expect too much of yourself.

VinegarTitsTheSeasonToBeJolly · 19/12/2008 22:15

I got rather intoxicated on cocktails the week before i found out i was pg

DS2 is perfect and a genius, you should see him doing jigsaws, he did a 50 piece jigsaw on his own tonight, amazing for a 2 year old

pulltheotherone · 19/12/2008 22:16

ah - yes just re read - suspish