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Oh pants, I really have let my dd down and I feel horribly terribly guilty as only a doting parent can ...

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eekareindeer · 10/12/2008 20:35

Went to the school office to buy DD's ticket for the school disco - they've only bloody sold out!!!!

All of her friends are going cos their mums got their act together and bought tickets on time.

DD was very, very upset at tea-time. Big fat tears rolling down her cheeks.

I felt like crying with her.

Can't even pour myself a medicinal glass of wine cos on a break from alcohol.

Gonna name change to eeekapantsmum.

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nancy75 · 10/12/2008 20:36

what kind of school doesnt have enough tickets for all of the kids? thats rubbish on their part

dustyteddy · 10/12/2008 20:38

Perhaps someone may drop out and your dd can have their ticket.

LoolaBoys · 10/12/2008 20:40

Agree with Nancy, why aren't there enough for all the children, very strange

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singyswife · 10/12/2008 20:42

Agree that there should be enough for all the children. Maybe explain the situation to the office and they can make allowances and get her a ticket.

TrinityRhino · 10/12/2008 20:43

there should be a ticket for each child
tickets are only there as a way to raise money and also so they know how many children are at the disco for fire and safety and such

seriously did you not ask why there were not enough for each child

how many tickets were there??
is it only enough for half the school
how did they decide???

FiveGoMadInDorset · 10/12/2008 20:43

I am amazed that they don't have enough tickets.

herbietea · 10/12/2008 20:43

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emkana · 10/12/2008 20:44

I agree it's the school's fault, they must provide enough tickets.

malovitt · 10/12/2008 20:48

Forge her one - it shouldn't be difficult.

andyrobo237 · 10/12/2008 21:11

We usually let kids in without the ticket and they can pay on the door - kind of part of the grown up process of buying a ticket, and it does give an idea of numbers, but it seems unfair that a child cannot go to a school disco - they should have said it was reduced numbers only, at least you would have known!

I hope your DD can go - how old is she?

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eekareindeer · 10/12/2008 21:14

It is a school of 700 pupils. They are having two discos, one for infants and one for juniors.

Last year there was just the one for the whole school and some people had trouble getting in (distraught infants being turned away at the door etc).

I thought this year there would be double the capacity so no particular panic for tickets. Seems I was wrong .

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eekareindeer · 10/12/2008 21:17

She is 7 andyrobo.

And she has just had such a brilliant report from her teacher at Parents Evening tonight.

Am very heavy hearted.

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andyrobo237 · 10/12/2008 22:26

Aww poor baby reindeer - I would defo speak to someone about it. My DD is in year 2 and enjoyed the recent disco.

piscesmoon · 10/12/2008 22:31

They must have tickets for every DC surely?

piscesmoon · 10/12/2008 22:31

Have they sold them to DCs not at the school?

LedodgyChristmasjumper · 10/12/2008 22:32

They should have a ticket for every child in the school something is amiss i'd complain!

MrsWeasleyStrokesSantasSack · 10/12/2008 22:33

can you speak to the teacher and offer to help on the night in exchange for a ticket?

ceciliaaherne · 10/12/2008 22:33

This is terrible. This activity is not an inclusive activity and as such is against most schools' policies I would imagine. Also, and perhaps more importantly, do the school even KNOW 7 year old children if they think this won't be a problem? I would definitely phone to air your greivance and if they still won't budge this time, take your dd out somewhere nice on the night of the disco (maybe with some other poor bugger who didn;t get a ticket)

Ronaldinhio · 10/12/2008 22:35

call headteacher tomorrow

if not sympathetic and biddable threaten ht with the scorn of mn or the spotlight of the Daily Hell
They'd love the story

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eekareindeer · 10/12/2008 22:39

Thanks for understanding everybody!

Is the activity "not inclusive" because not everybody could go if they wanted to Cecilia?

Can I make something of this when I raise the issue with the school tomorrow? I've decided I must say something (and I am not usually a whingey complainy type).

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ceciliaaherne · 10/12/2008 22:46

Yes, eekareindeer, all school activities should be inclusive and should not exclude anyone on the basis of ability, gender,etc. I would think excluding a 7 year old form a disco because her mum was unable to be first in line for tickets would qualify and would not hesitate to use it to the HT tomorrow. I was a t ds's nativity plat tonight- everyone in the lower school was involved. School outings are heavily subsidised by PTA and I am sure if anyone had a problem paying, the sum would be paid in full by the PTA or school. The only time I have ever heard of a child being excluded from any activity is when they have not returned the necessary permission slip. School discos- everyone can come along and pay on the night. If the school does not have capacity, it either does not run them or runs them on 3 nights..

ceciliaaherne · 10/12/2008 22:48

Last sentence was meant to refer to what I think your dd's school should do.

LedodgyChristmasjumper · 10/12/2008 22:48

Same in our school cecilia. This is not right! You must question it.

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eekareindeer · 11/12/2008 14:08

Quick update in case anyone pops back to this thread.

DD now has a ticket, Hooray!

DH went in to the office and somehow managed to charm the soon to retire school secretary. I'm not sure if she took pity on us, or if there was a genuine return, because she actually printed the ticket out .

But before all this happened we did go and speak to the Deputy Head for Inclusion (our school does indeed have such a thing, its a very big primary, so there are two Deputies) and he stood firm but also revealed that in our school of 700 pupils, there are only 240 tickets for the school disco.

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