I would just like to know wether people have changed their mind on smacking.
My ds is 3.33, I always used to smack his as a last resort, but found that I was smacking him more often (and if I am honest, some times it was out of pure frustration). It would stop him doing what he was doing for a while and then he continuted doing it again later.
I got to the stage last week when I decided that in my case smacking wasn't working. (I hit him for doing something and he started laughing). I realised that if I continued doing this then I would have to hit him harder, which I didn't want to do. I had a chat with DH and told him that for the moment under no circumstances if he to hit ds. My ds has a very good knowledge of understanding and I actually sat him down and told him that mummy and daddy were not going to smack him anymore, if he was naughty he was going to have to sit on the stairs and if he continued he would be going up to his room. I re-started my sticker charts for good behaviour.
In the past few days it is like I have a different son, (to him I guess its the same), he has been more loving, I have had more kisses and cuddles then ever, he wants to do more things with me, (he even told me he wanted to help pack his toys away and I didn't have to give him a sticker). He is still a little naughty at times (what 3 yr old isn't), but the house no longer seems like a war zone at times and he doesn't shout nearly as much.
I know it is still early days, but long may it continue. I will never say that I will never smack him, but certainly not over trivial things when sending him to his room is more effective.
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Smacking...Anyone else changed their mind.
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breeze · 16/03/2003 11:17
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