Tinsel and Tantrums- The NEW (and festive) 2 or more kids under 3 thread!

[SpookyGrrrl]

Here we are girls!

Feel free to join us if you have 2 or more kids under 3yrs old- we won't bite

For any potential newbies, I have 2 boys, the oldest is 2 yr 5mths, and the youngest is 13mths.

I am, it's my other big addiction besides mumsnet

www.facebook.com/s.php?q=sian+owen&init=q&sid=04cc4b4c84a1b0ca491bb75a932fe422

This is me- i'm the top one if you wanted to 'add' me

Hello everyone and so sorry it has been ages.

We went on 2 holidays rather than 1, so no time for posting.

Happy belated birthday grrl! And huge congratulations tracey on your engagement

Well DH, Freya and Izzy all have the flu right now. And I mean the real flu, where they are being sick and are not better in a few days. I may take them to doctors tomorrow, if I can get an appt. Of course, my DH thinks I am being silly, and that they will be fine in a few days. The thing is, how can you explain that to a baby? They just feel rotten and seem to look at you lik 'why are you not doing anything about this?'

Anyway, bedtime for me. Bodybalance was great tonight though I have not had my usual post-exercise mini magnum

P.S I am 31....

Hi All

The holidays? Jewels (No - I'm happy for you, really I am! ) Sorry to hear that your girls have got flu though. Hope they're better soon. Our Freya has a cold, but although she keeps telling me that she's 'having a bad day' that's all it is.

I'm just busy working and juggling children, but at least DS has been sleeping better. He even said a comprehensible sentence today [they'll be grown up before I know it emoticon!]

Not on FB, Grrrl. (I'm too old!) (Like the new name though.)

Hope you're all doing fine

Ooops - I think the at the end of that thread looks a bit deranged... It should really have been a
(I'll blame tiredness...)

Happy Birthday Grrl and I wonder (no I know Im the oldest on here!) I will be 43 this year so been shuffling for the pension a lot longer than you Chaotica.

We have had a lovley birthday week thanks and Isaac has been such a sweetie. He is really cruising round the furniture now so hopefully he will be walking soon.

As for wedding plans well we have venue booked for the ceremony and the reception for Saturday 18th July which is our anniversary . I'm so excited. Got loads to do but enjoying every moment so far.On a very tight budget too so that makes it all the more special that will have to make lots of things ourselves and will mean a lot more.

Isaac' s birthday on tuesday and Melissa's today so we had a joint fancy dress party on wednesday. Isaac had an iggle piggle outfit and looked so sweet. Melissa had a tinkerbell dress with wings and a wand and loved every minute. More birthday cake tonight and then thats it . I'm a bit Happy Birthday out this week now.

And need to stop eating cake as I have dresses to try on soon.

I am old but yes I'm on facebook too but only joined a while ago so not that sure about it yet.

Afternoon, All.

You may be older, Tracyface but you have 5 children to show for yourself (which is far more impressive than my misspent youth).

Made a very rash statement to DD yesterday (who has been failing to eat tea for weeks and getting steadily worse): she's going to eat tea from now on, because I say so
Like that's going to work... (She was really annoying me as she was actually (it seemed) sick with hunger and yet she's decided she didn't 'like' tea (all of which she eats). I think I have to put my foot down now or mealtimes will be hell in future.)

DS OTOH is going to learn the meaning of the word 'no'

So nothing too hard to manage here then

Oh don't get me started chaotica! Freya is a total knightmare right now at dinnertime. We make her whatever she wants, and then she sill sit at the table announce 'it's yucky!' and then ask to get down. Tonight we made her crispy lamb (lamb cooked twice, it is very tasty) and sweet potato mash. She did not even touch a mouthful. Any tips?!!! Please!

And as for Izzy. Well, since she has the flu and is now much much better she is sooo clingy. It is silly. Even if I am in the same room as her that is not good enough - no -I have to be carrying her. And it means Freya has not started to cling to me when she gets me too (which I can totally understand) again, please help!!! I had to leave her to cry today whilst I cleaned the kitchen because she was not in any pain, was not hungry, was not needing to be changed, etc etc. [fed up emoticon]

Other than that, having my hair done tomorrow and that is good because my roots nearly have their own mumsnet login.

Big waves and hugs to you all and hoping you are all coping alot better than me right now. DH mentioned that he is happy to be house husband for a while, if I want to return to work and I am tempted!!

Arrrgggh!

Morning, Ladies

No tips here yet, Jewels. I'll let you know if being dragon-mummy and making Freya eat everything on her plate works. Problem is, we've already caved in to 'nearly everything' as she can see that her brother hasn't eaten everything (even though that's because he's nearly finished a portion the size a 10 year old might get through ). Then she doesn't really get what 'nearly' means (one bean does not cut it!).

Had a really surreal conversation with her about why she doesn't eat pizza at home, only at CMs and when we've out. Apparently home pizza is yucky, which would make sense if it wasn't also the pizza she eats at the CMs which is 'not yucky' So I'm none the wiser... I suspect I'm being taken advantage of.

Working is great, Jewels. I heartily recommend it (although I'm perpetually knackered and never quite get things done. The SAHM option is attractive too.

Hi there ladies

I have a 2 and 9 month old DS and DD is 4 weeks old. It's mania in my house. DS has started waking in the night and crying in the day. Think its the upset of the new baby.
I'm going crazy! Lol. Worth it though..... but any advice!

Hi SleepyCaz, no advise on the toddler waking, mine is doing the same thing! (2.4yrs) [shock

Neither of them are sleeping properly at the moment (other ds 10mo) and it is driving me and DH mad. There seems to be nothing at all wrong with them so it's not like there is anything we can do.........

Can't suggest anything on the eating problems, DS1 can be like this too, as far as I know it's that annoying toddler thing about wanting to be in control.........

Hi Guys,

Can't really offer any food advice, mine aren't too bad (touch wood!) If DS1 is messing with his food - usually because he knows there's a dessert coming too - i just ask him to eat one forkfull of each thing on his plate and leave it at that.

Went our drinks with DH last night, and it was lovely. We ended up laughing like fools and talking about all kinds of nonsense (inc me feeling sad about no more babies- see my other thread!) Then we had a kebab covered in chillies and came home on the bus!
Slept in until after 7am aswell as both boys at PIL. Bliss. DH is snoozing now, and the kids aren't back until around 3pm.

Hi again sleepycaz !

jewels My tip for dinnertime (it worked for us after days weeks of me shouting and us getting nowhere) is for you to remain very calm (easier said than done) and as soon as she says she won't eat it, say "OK that's fine. You can get down now. I'm just going to draw a sad/cross face on your (reward) chart. You can get down and play now but as long as you know, no treats now and nothing to eat until breakfast tomorrow".

The key for us seemed to be me remaining calm and (seemingly) in control. DD1 was very confused cos I wasn't shouting. I just ignored her after I'd said my bit. The first day she kept protesting and saying she did want to eat it (to get a smiley face on chart) but then didn't, so I ended up throwing it in the bin. She really kicked off, and I just kept her sat at the table but ignored her apart from the odd calm "you had your chance DD1 and you didn't eat it".

The next day she ate the lot (same dinner) and she has been much better since.

I would def recommend two things....for you as mum to stay calm and not give them lots of attention, as that's what they want.

Good luck and let me know how you get on.

tracyface I'll be thinking of you on 18th July as that's my sister's hen weekend!!!

Hey Grrl tried to add you as a friend on fb but think i got the wrong person, as she only as a girl of 10mo !!!! Very confused

haha! search Sian Lillian Owen and it'll be me.

Are you sure it's you???? Is your network Wales? Last thing I want is to have a collection of people with the same name as my friends, all random strangers!!

yes i'm in Wales. In my profile picture i'm pregnant and pretending to bite Babe the pig in Universal Studios

We've had the night from hell here, i'm not working today and dreading being home all day with them. It's going to be awful, i just know it. I'm exhuasted and annoyed already, and it's not 7am

Hi All and welcome, Sleepycaz

Thanks for the eating tips. You're right - it is a control issue. What annoys me is that DD used to eat anything (nearly) and lots of it; but now she's just being picky to be pigheaded since it's usually with food she really likes. I try to not bother (did the trick you did LM74) but it hasn't really worked - she just gets down and doesn't seem to give a damn (or just doesn't understand that there'll be nothing more after tea). So far, the eat-all-your-tea strategy is working pretty well (well enough for me), so maybe I'll get her out of the fussy habit yet...

Hope you got through the day OK Grrrl - I hate it when I haven't had enough sleep and have the dcs all day. (Like tomorrow, probably.) DS is waking earlier and earlier - I'd better try blackout blinds before it's too late.

Hi everyone.

Still having nightmare nights and now DS has started weeing in his pull ups at night and that wakes him up screaming. Grrr!

Hi luckymummy

nah i had a poop day, but i called in sick today and have been catching up with housework, and i'm going to have a bath in a bit. I think if i'd gone in today i'd have probably cracked up!

Re the food thing- i spoke too soon! DS1 has been refusing food. Last night he refused all his meal, and none of it was new foods he hadn't tried. I told him if he didn't eat, i wasn't making anything else so he'd have to go to bed hungry. He pushed it away, i asked if he wanted any fruit, he said no, he went to bed hungry. I will not break! His brother on the other hand, scoffed to the point i thought he'd burst!

We are having similar food issues with DS1 (2.9). I go for an easy life mostly. He hates roasts so i put a bread & butter sandwich on a plate next to his roast plate and leave him to it.
i ask him every day what he wants for lunch, he always says 'jam sandwich' so he has that every day
it's a fruit right????
well i sneak some ham, cucumber, etc. onto his plate and most of it goes. but if i gave him a ham sandwich he wouldn't eat it on principle.

DS2 (1) on the other hand, eats everything in sight

some not so great nights/early morning here too
calpol night for both tonight to try and get them to sleep through their coughs....

Good grll - Im really embarassed I also added the wrong Sian (you said you were the one at the top) oops! Altho she is one of your freinds - Are you related?

I have been chatting to her about her little girl Laila and wondering why she has only mentioned her 10 month old

Will reply tomorrow if get a chance about eating as its not going well with Melissa and poor Isaac has an ear infection and a bad tummy so a bit preoccupied at the moment.

Bad sleep in my house too!

Tracyface, she is the same person I added accidently! I was also confused when she was talking about a 10month old called Laila, when I thought Grrl only had boys! She must be wondering where all these new friends have come from!?

I also spoke too soon on the eating, and now DS1 refusing to eat everything he used to like DS2 still scoffing everything in sight so I guess that's something.

DS1 still waking in the night wanting to come into our bed, last night I had to take him back to his room 3 times, feel like I have newborn again .

HAHA! She's added me now, and asked me to join a group where we all share the same name!

Night from hell here- Dyl was awake half the night and has been up since 4.30am. I know it's crap but i'm not going to work today- as well as being exhausted my stomach is killing me. Stress?

Hi All

Shame the mysterious Sian on FB doesn't have two under 3...

I think I feel better about Freya's eating just hearing your stories. Although she's been better since I had a stern word last week I did lie and tell her that soup was really 'sauce'... I think she's back from the brink of total pickiness though.

Sorry to hear Isaac is ill, Tracyface. I hope he's better soon.

Off to playgroup today (hopefully persuading along a neighbour who recently became mum to 3 under 3 (she has twins and a 2 year old). I don't blame her if she never leaves the house again...