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I'm fed up with people commenting on fact that DS (2.5yrs) hasn't been potty trained yet!

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PussinJimmyWhoooos · 28/11/2008 19:56

He's only 2.5yrs...he will not tell me when he's about to do a poo or a wee, he will quite happily run away when I try to change him and not be bothered by the turd in his nappy...he clearly isn't ready for it and I, quite frankly, am not ready to be one of those mums galloping around the shopping mall with a potty 'just in case' because I'm training him too early and he misses his 'wee' cues....why make life harder than it already is??!!!

Am also tired of people who have just potty trained their DCs pulling cat's arse faces when they see DS still in nappies..

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ANTagony · 28/11/2008 19:58

I had the same with DS1 watched months of people pressurising their DS's into potty training. I waited and it took 2 days just after he was three, no stress and he's been dry ever since.

uptomyeyes · 28/11/2008 19:59

DS3 is 2.7 years and we haven't even started yet!

oldwomanwholivedinashoe · 28/11/2008 20:01

my DS is 3 in Jan and we're about to do it this weekend. dont worry - they do it when they're ready. 9i mean its not like he'll be 30 and still in nappies is it!?!?

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WowOoo · 28/11/2008 20:01

Oh yeah. Mine is 2.7 almost and still not ready.

I believe it will be lots easier when I know for sure he is. Don't give a toss about where others his age and younger are.

In toddlers this a.m. a lady was scouting around for spare clothes as her 2 yr old daughter had had another accident. Wouldn't mind but I still haven't had the last vest back that I lent her!!!

moodlumthehoodlum · 28/11/2008 20:01

Completely agree. My ds was just past 3 when he was potty trained. And he did it almost overnight.

Despite my mil's constant badgering and everyone else's disapproval, it was deffo the right thing to do.

Leave it. He'll do it when he's good and ready.

loler · 28/11/2008 20:19

ds1 was 3.4 - if any one comments ask them if they would like to have a go at training him. Worked on my mum!

My ds clicked over night too - completely effort free. Did a 15 hour car journey 2 weeks later with 2 loo stops.

Fabs80 · 09/12/2008 12:13

my daughter was just over 3 when she went...my mother in law tried to start her from 6 months of age and she never wanted the potty... i allowed her to take her time...no pressure, then one night she went by herself...they know when they are ready...

mejon · 10/12/2008 16:14

DD is 2.4 and tells me after she's done a poo but not before. If I catch her about to do one (she likes to go under the coffee table to do it!!) and ask if she'd like to do it on the potty or on the toilet she just refuses so we're taking our time and there's no rus. Luckily we don't really mix with many similar aged children - in the M&T groups we go to they're either younger or a bit older so I've not suffered any "cats arse faces" yet! Having said that, SIL was aghast when DD who wasn't yet 2 at the time was still having milk before bed as 'she'd never be dry in bed' at that rate

mikeysmom · 13/12/2008 22:41

I started my son when he was 2.5 and he would just pee his pants where he stood. He could sit for 1 hour on the toilet-nothing would come out. The second he would get up-he'd pee. Made me so secretly angry-but he wasn't ready. Then one day he decided to sit and go on the potty. It wasn't until he was 3.5. He's still learning, he just got out of diapers at night at 3.9.

All kids are different and go at different stages.

laura78s · 14/12/2008 19:46

my Ds is 4.8 and not started potty training although hospital gave him a potty chair but i have nearly cracked my youngest son who struggled to train, i put it down to havin a poor role model does anyone else find this with younger siblings i think it makes a difference and angers me when people with so called normal children say it should make no difference or is it just me making excuses ..

nickytinseltimes · 14/12/2008 19:48

I am sick of it too.

Mainly the MIL.

I wouldn't mind if I was asking her to change his nappy, but I do all of them myself, so it's no one else's business.

Ds is 2.4 and clueless.

MrsMattie · 14/12/2008 19:48

You'll smile smugly one day. DS didn't start using the potty/toilet until he was nearly 3 yrs old, but was 'trained' within days and dry at night immediately.

Reallytired · 14/12/2008 19:51

Just because a child is in pants doesn't mean they are potty trained.

My son was three years and three months when he trained. He took about 8 days to be accident free both day and night and to learn to cope with his clothes. However he got the concept of using the toilet very swiftly.

His cousins all supposely trained at 2 and half years old. However my son had his first accident free day at nursery before his cousin who was six weeks older than him.

CatchaChristmasStar · 14/12/2008 19:54

Potty training, like many other aspects of parenting, is something that you do when your child can indicate that they're ready.

DD who's 18 months is now telling me when she's having a wee etc by pointing to her bottom and saying 'bum bum, mum.' So I have bought a potty and will start slowly with it. Have no idea what I'm doing, hopefully it'll just work out eventually lol. I'm aware though, that even if she can tell me when she needs to go, it doesn't mean she'll 'get' potty training. It could take a while or it may be quick. Who knows.

Each child is different, ignore the looks.

PinkPoinsettias · 14/12/2008 19:54

snort.. dd was trained at 2 and a few monhs and will be 4 in january and still wets herself every 2 or 3 days... often repeatedly.

ds is 2.4 and there is no way i'm adding another soggy wet pantsed child to my workload when i've a baby due in feb.

every now and again i leave him pantless and he asks to go toilet but can't figure out how to do anything when he's there... he hasn't a clue bless him! lovely as it would be if he could go to playschool a couple of days a week when the baby comes i'm not going to force train him to that end.

boys are notoriously harder anyway... my friends son is dd's age and has barely grasped it yet.... and by that i mean he really didn't have any control over his bladder and bowel so leaving him nappyless would have been a joke.

they mostly all get there in the end so why stress?

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nickytinseltimes · 14/12/2008 19:56

Ah, yes, there are soem so-called potty trained children at ds's playgroup who are constantly wetting themselves.

I dare say I could put ds in pants and call him potty trained too...

PavlovtheRedNosedReindeer · 14/12/2008 20:01

jimmy - tell em to 'piss' off rofl! My BIL and his wife did not potty train their first child. She was in nappies until she was 4, for the exact reasons you said...why bother making it stressful, let it happen when it does....she just came home from nursery one day (in USA, more relaxed there I guess) and said 'I am too big for nappies now mummy' - job done!

fifisboys · 15/12/2008 10:07

I've got this as well. Ds1 is 2.8 and when he was 2.5 he started showing interest in his ppotty so we used to let him run round with no nappy on and every half hour or so he would sit on his potty but often would wee on the floor (good job its laminate). Then after a few accidents he had a wee on his potty the a poo but was hit and miss he would go on his potty but would wee when he came off so we decided he wasnt ready and put him back in nappies.
My dad is always saying he's too big for nappies and that someone he works with has a daughter who is 15 months and out of nappies nd it gets on my nerves.
So we started trying him again yesterday and he spent the afternoon with no nappy on and used his potty all afternoon but he has to be told to sit on it in most cases. im still not sure if he's ready but if not i will just try again in a few weeks.

oneyummymummy · 16/12/2008 19:13

15 months??????

thederkinsdame · 19/12/2008 22:03

MY DS is 2.6 and still not potty trained. he has ace bladder control and can mostly wee on demand, but whenever we broach the subject of poos in the potty/loo he says he wants to poo in a nappy so I feel he's not ready. I do feel pressurised by the fact that all his peers are now dry, but I am trying not to hassle him about it IYSWIM as he will do it when he is ready and me presurising him will only turn it into an issue for him.

MistleSQUONKandWine · 19/12/2008 22:05

2.5 is early for a boy to be fully potty trained.

Ignore all the comments, you're doing fine!

Piccalilli2 · 19/12/2008 22:11

Oh god, ignore them and just wait. dd1 was 2.9 when we finally trained, she'd been kind of ready for a while but I was heavily pregnant then had a newborn and I wasn't ready. It took less than a week when we were all properly ready, no stress. Do it when it's right for you and your child, and you avoid all the unnecessary stress which can just cause issues round the whole thing.

GivePeasAChance · 19/12/2008 22:15

This won't go down well.............but I do think it is an important developmental milestone for children (not on Freudian levels - just for independence )

I personally think 3 is too late and unless there is some specific biological problem, most children can and should be trained around 2.

Mumfun · 21/12/2008 23:39

GPAC I think you will find a few will disagree with you there!

I do beleive in helping the child use the potty etc from an early age. But many especially boys would never train around 2. DS was absolutely not ready until 3.3. DD has been using the potty since age 9 months but she isnt ready to finally train yet at 2.11 - will be soon but I think shes a bit lazy!

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