i know ive talked about this before and im just repeating my self sorry
dd1 just seems unhappy
she goes to school fine, i dont have to ask her twice to get up and ready for school, we walk to the playground without any bother, she goes in with a wave and a smile
but when she comes home she is "no-one plays with me" and i HAVE to believe her, she is my daughter, i believe her
this is and dont laugh but i have walked past the playground a couuple of times at lunchitnme and watched her (not stood and stared but walked past) and she is alone - running about, but alone
she says the other children dont let her join in
i think she finds it hard to know HOW to join in - i have spoken to her - and they are only 6 - so i suggested to her she just goes up to them and says "can i play too?" and she says she does this but then she doesnt know what to do next
its like she doesnt KNOW how to join in
at school the other weeek (she told me about this herself) she lied to the teachers saying she didnt feel well. eventually she told the teacher she felt ok she had just made it up. the teacher told her it was wrong to lie but it was good she told the truth in the end and she didnt get any punishment - i asked her why she did this and if it was because she wanted the teachers attention possibly but she isnt sure why she did it my heart goes out to her
she also seems unhappy at home saying "you dnt love me" when we dont allow her to get her own way - like i insisited last night she have a bath - then she wanted to sleep in dd2s bed with dd2 but i told her "no its a schoolnight" - she said she didnt want to be alone she wanted to be with dd2
she fights a lot with her dad and hurts his feelings a lot with "i dont want you i want mummy" i dotn know how he does it but he stays very calm and tells her that he loves her and watns to help her (this could be anything from helping with a puzzle to washing her hair in the bath)
she goes to rainbows and most of the other girls there are in her class
she plays the violin and she practically lives for her weekly lesson - i think she adores this so much because it is a solo thing - not a group activity - and hse loves her teacher - who is a jolly mumsy type of person who encourages dd1 a lot
she is even playing her violin in a concert at xmas
ive said this loads of times but to look at dd1 she is different that way too. she has short frizzy hair ( i love it - she looks like a dandelion seed - she has a litle pixie face nad is so beautiful!) she is v pale and is tall and slim - like a long drink of water my friend says. he arms and legs go on forever.
how can i help her