anyone have boys but secretly longs for a girl??

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we couldn't risk trying for a 3rd and for it to be another boy as although we would love him to bits, it would only add to that empty feeling...

anyone feel the same?

Carmen I see my grown up DS every week, and he phones at least two or three times a week, we are very close, but that doesn't mean he puts me before his wife. Not all grown up men are like your DP, My DH isn't either he phones his Mom regularly, and although we live in the South of England, and IL's in the North Of Scotland, we see them at least twice a year.

Oh i hope it doesnt make my dp sound like abad bloke. He isnt. I just think its different when boys grow up. I would go shopping with my mom, pop round for a cuppa, have her up for dinner. I just think most blokes probably do stuff like that. When they marry or have a long term relationship, they become much more like their family then than the parents do, whereas women still keep that link.

Maybe it depends on how they are brought up, all my 3 brothers phones home and visited often, although they all lived a distance away.

DS and DDIL are about to go back to South Africa next year where DDIL comes from for a few years, but they will return here before having children.

We are already setting up Skpye and Webcams, to stay in touch.

Plus are planning on going out to them next Christmas.

I dont think it really depends on the gender of your child, but the closeness that you have.

I agree, Shoshe. My DP is very close to his parents & will go round for dinner most Sundays etc. His siblings do too, and all the grandchildren (both his sister's son & his brother's 3 boys) - they are a very close family. I don't go round my parents house as frequently.

My uncle had the closest relationship with my Nan until she died too. He would go round & phone her every day. He is totally lost now she has gone.

I have one of each, lucky I know. But I'd say to those of you with multiple testosteroney bundles - what joy! Although mine is only 4 I can confidently say that boys may be physically tiring, but girls (she's 5) are emotionally tiring. Boys give you affection, make you feel like a mummy (and from here-on in, our neediness to be loved by them creates the sort of men we really don't need on this planet! But hey!). Girls are trickier - she's heavenly, delightful, cheeky, of course. But don't long for pink just because it's a fluffy colour. Boys are super super fab. xxx

No, all boys here and I'm thrilled with each and every one of them. They are all different personalities. The only difficult thing about having all one sex is that people steadfastly refuse to believe you might actually have wanted it that way!

i can imaginem dear lush lawn. People projecting their own thoughts onto you... and refusing to see it could be any other way. Wishing you happy days going pee-ow with your boys. x