Anybody else here envious of people where the grandparents take the dc,s on holiday overnight etc etc

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Hi
Just wondering if anybody ever feels envious like me when they speak to people who tell you that their dc's grandparents have taken them on holiday, away for the weekend, on a sleepover, out for the day, etc.
And then there is the grandparents who seem to take over a large part of the parenting role taking them to and from school, after school clubs, etc, does anybody else ever think crikey I wish I had all of that sort of help, I have to pay out on loads of child care fees in order to work.
I never have anything like this in fact its always the opposite as I have elderly parents with various health problems and I have to do alot for them.
I care alot about my parents but I do wonder sometimes if anyone ever feels like me.

I am a single mum of 2 and my parents were fab in the past when the kids were little but now unfortunately my mum is blind and my dad is disabled and they would so desparately like to help me but unfortunately its the other way round, me and the kids have to care for them.

My ex mil who is fit and well has not even phoned us in the past 6 months nevermind helping out with anything and has babysat once in 10 years.

It was always decided that when my DIL goes back to work in January I will be caring for Lewis full time. It was DIL who asked me. Although as January is looming I can see it all changing.

I asked DIL was I doing something wrong and then I could put it right. She said 'its just because two of your sons died and Im scared to bring him to your house in case anything happens.' She sobbed when she told me this and my heart broke a little more.

She has since started on AD's and keeps apologising for her earlier words. I love her to bits and keep trying to reassure her.

Im sure its the PND - she is normally a sweetheart and we get on very well. The doctor gave it a name and I think the second word was phsycosis (sp?) a severe form of PND. She wouldn't go home at first because she thought she was going to die. She is much, much better I am delighted to say. We will see what January brings

ME ME ME.... I am jealous! I am jealous of people who have grandparents who are doting too, mine are miserable selfish bastards and or decrepid and disciplinarian, but mostly indifferent! My dd is luck to see one set at least once a year ..

dd doesn't even gets bday presents from one set, just cards from whatever holiday/cruise they are on ..

It sounds as though you have a good relationship shabster and it is the PND talking-hopefully things will have improved by January.

Same here rebel. It's almost worse in a way because the grandparents are around, but are CHOOSING not to bother spending time or effort on their grandchildren.

deeply envious as my parents live across the ocean
sigh

How weird!!! Like you say 'why would adoption matter??'

Even if your lo was adopted

Gosh yes i get really envious we have 3DC and would love to have a night away with out them.

Mil lives 5 hours away and in a 1 bedroom flat she is also in a wheelchair, so wouldnt be able to cope and we don't have a good relationship. My mum lives 5 hours away in opp direction and comes up for a visit every few months and does ironing and cooking and babysits for us, but hasn't offered to have them over night yet.

We are hoping that she will be moving nearer to us and might have them overnight then. But middly has GDD and is v hard work so don't know if she manage.

I hope that if i become a grandma will help out more.

They are the ones missing out nolongerworriedmummyfied. There are some very strange people about!

I agree so much Abbey - I adore my first grandbaby and would do if he was my blood or not. x

Oh yes, would love it if my parents could babysit my dd. The problem is both sets of gp are in South Africa and though I'm sure if they were closer they would do it, I'm still envious of people that have that opportunity.

My 2nd child is due at the end of the month, we have just moved to a new town and don't know anybody. My mum arrives from SA a week after my due date and at this time I'm planning on crossing my legs until she is here so that I will have someone to look after DD.

I don't see that the blood matters! They have the unique position of being an important part in a new life with a rewarding bond and are turning it down!
We have step grandparents in my family and they treat the grandchildren the same.

I have my Dad only both inlaws passed away. He is elderly, not in good health.

I get sooooo annoyed with people/friends for instance who say "God Im soooo tired, I dont have a minute to myself, Im really stressed, oh were off out on Sat night, inlaws are having DS for the whole weekend and have told us not to rush to collect him they will bring him home Sunday evening"...My friend said this last week then to top it off she said "I really do need this though at least once a month"

It makes my blood boil!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

yes i lost my mum a few years ago so she never met mine last two, and mil never does anything for them even though they are her only two granchildren and wont be any more. i do understand shes a life but i wish shecared we keep saying we going to advertise in local paper for gran parents

Someone who lives on my street has a mum who flies over from Belfast every week to look after her DS for 3 days whilst she and her DP are at work. So they don't have arrange or pay for childcare.

And her mum even pays for her own flights

I think they are very lucky. And I am very