Active discussions

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Original poster

Remind what's good about having 2 boys

60 replies

desperatelyseekingsleep · 30/10/2008 14:21

..friend upset me this morning by going on about how she couldn't bear the thought of having 2 boys and was so happy to have one of each, how her daughter was such a joy etc etc. I just feel so upset now, as I've always wanted a girl and have been trying to come to terms with having 2 boys, the second of which is very demanding and hard work. Sorry,more of a rant than anything,but I just feel so upset

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Set a reminder
mrsgboring · 30/10/2008 16:18

People can be incredibly dimwitted and insensitive on this issue IME - by not having girls you won't fall into the trap of saying "ohhhh but wouldn't you love to have a girrrrl?" I have one "friend" like this who repeatedly says it to me, even though she knows I had a stillborn DD. Even when once I replied "Well, I did, don't you remember? She died." Must do something to your brain, all that pink crap.

You aren't forced to choose between stifling their childhoods by letting them wear clothes unsuitable for rolling around in mud or stifling their individuality by not letting them wear miniature fairy/hooker outfits.

If I don't have another girl I think I will be a little sad but I adore my son, and having one boy is brilliant. If this baby is a boy I shall be perfectly happy. Plus I'm having a second childhood, reading all the boyish books I missed out on in my all girl family.

coffinsrus · 30/10/2008 16:19

I have 2 boys and love and adore them

op, ignore your friend, some people are really insensitive

Lizzylou · 30/10/2008 16:22

Mrsgboring at your "friend"

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Families General parenting
yummybunnymummy · 30/10/2008 16:23

my 2 ds also run around the house in pink fairy wings, looking handsome!

Morloth · 30/10/2008 16:25

That's good to hear yummy, am sad that DS seems to have grown out of his pink phase. It used to make me laugh watching him pretend to storm the castle wearing a pink ballet outfit.

Lizzylou · 30/10/2008 16:27

DS1 is unashamedly fond of pink, he tells all his friends in reception (who now think pink is cool too).
Can't get em in fairy wings though.

I get all the "Don't you want to try for a girl?" comments I only ever wanted 2 children and turns out they are boys, I am blessed.

hambo · 30/10/2008 16:28

yummy - I love that your DS 'looks handsome' in his wings!

Mine 'looks handsome' in his nurses outfit!

DoubleToilandTroubleBluff · 30/10/2008 16:32

My 2 boys are the best of friends.
One of each would probably not be so close.
Plu boys have better toys - no Bratz or BArie crap!
Plus no HSM!!
And they can't get pregnant! ( sadi tongue firmly in cheek before you flame me!)

And I like being the girlie in the house!

Star1ightExpress · 30/10/2008 16:39

Boys have 2 emotional states: grumpy and happy. If it's not one it's the other and you can easily tell which one. Girls are complicated and the remember things forever keeping grudges.

My second is a girl and it's lovely to have one of each, but I was secretly disappointed when I found out, that lovely DS won't have a brother.

Also, none of your poor darling children will ever have to go through the pain of childbirth!

Star1ightExpress · 30/10/2008 16:43

BTW We're 'thinking' about trying for another.

People I have told often say 'Why? You've got one of each'

FGS they're not fashion accessories or a pair of shoes (one for the right and one for the left!)

yummybunnymummy · 30/10/2008 16:46

LOL at nurses outfit, and storming the castle in a ballet outfit!

DS1 always dressed up as a fairy at preschool so I surprised him with fairy wings and he was beside himself..tommoorrow for halloween he wants to wear a scary monster mask, pink tutu skirt thingy and fairy wings...a trick or treat of some sort...but adorable! DC2 loves to take his teddies for a walk in a pushchair (takes forever but wonderful)

(I add in a hushed tone, we'll be painting our toe nails tonight in sparkly colours!)

elsiepiddock · 30/10/2008 16:48

Well I have boys and wanted boys!

Echo what others have said - boys are very, very loving and adore their mums!

I have 2 much loved god daughters but I wouldn't change my delicious boys for anything.

littlestrawberry · 30/10/2008 16:49

My 2 boys are 4 and 6 and so close its unbelievable. I was never close to my siblings so I think its wonderful.

They are completely different in many ways but they enjoy lots of the same things and will play together with lego or dinosaurs for ages.

I've been introduced to loads of 'boy' things I wasn't interested in myself as a child, lego, star wars, lots more and I love it

I always expected boys (don't know why) and have never wished for anything else. I do love their closeness, I really don't think things would have ben the same had they been boy and girl.

mrsgboring · 30/10/2008 16:50

DS also has nurse's outfit - and he looks wonderful in it. He also likes to wear my clothes, but no tutu or fairy wings as yet. Deprived!

He did take a dolly in a toy carry cot to our singing group and I was bursting with pride.

Starlight - people are nuts, aren't they? This is one reason I don't find out the sex at scan, cos I can't put up with four months of halfwitted comments based only on knowing whether the baby has XX or XY chromosomes.

Sorry. Am grumpy today.

yummybunnymummy · 30/10/2008 16:51

We've got some very exciting lego under the bed for the dc christmas....me and dh can't wait!!!!

uptomyeyes · 31/10/2008 10:48

DS3's pink phase is in full flow - he was stroking some rather lovely Angelina Ballerina tutu's in shop the other day whilst my mum tried to engage him in a Halloween pumpkin outfit.

Pinkchampagne · 31/10/2008 11:06

They have more in common than different sex siblings. my boys hate everything pink or Barbie - they always shout "yuuuuk" when the advert for Lelli Kelli shoes comes on, so not sure DS1 would have played as well with a sister!

They will always be company for each other & (sometimes!) best of friends!

yarooo · 31/10/2008 11:08

what hambo said

apostrophe · 31/10/2008 13:46

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

sockmonkey · 31/10/2008 14:18

Can I say ditto about the no pink crap. I have two boys. It's great, all the clothes and toys can be passed down, plus boys toys are soooo much cooler.
Shorter hair... less hastle
Clothes are less "fussy" (although you do get less choice)

Gemzooks · 31/10/2008 14:31

it's just one of those stupid things people say when they can't think of anything, 'oh I expect you'll be wanting a girl'.. It's in the same league as 'ooh, your bump is too big/small/funny shape etc'.

I have a lovely DS have scan next week to find out sex of DC2, kind of want a girl but have seen how sweet a boy can be and wouldn't mind another one. It is character more than gender, he is gentle and loving and not aggressive at all as I thought little boys would be before having one..

SixSpotBonfire · 31/10/2008 14:33

Having two is great. Having three is even better .

NBheebieGeebies · 31/10/2008 14:37

I have 2 boys and an older dd.

My dd is a joy but my two boys are very different and very much mummys boys
DD is definately a daddys girl.

Boys are great.

mumof2222222222222222boys · 31/10/2008 14:44

Well look at my name

I always thought they were boys although no scans and would have been amazed and surprised if a little girl had popped out...but hey you get what you get! My SIL had 2 DSs and wanted a 3rd child...was convinced it would be another DS...anyway there is now a baby girl in the family. Fab - but it would have been fab too if it had been another boy.

It is not like one is better than the other.

I'm totally happy with 2 boys. Don't think we'll have any more...but if we did, we'd wait and see.

People are a bit daft.

mrsgboring · 31/10/2008 14:56

Mumof2222222222boys - gosh that is a lot. How do you fit them all in the house?